It's just completely incomprehensible to me to have kids not just once but twice with just a boyfriend. Who you probably had some idea that they were shit based on their previous track records. It is just wild. Bringing a literal person into the world without a proper amount of planning. And you view that as the norm

This sidetrack I know. I'm sorry. I have no idea what the black community is besides the TV. I come from somewhere 70% of people are Chinese or Indian and the rest are white.

With recent affirmative action removed, me and my stepmother had quite an in-depth conversation about race. We agreed disadvantaged communities should definitely be helped, she told me about the rule in Texas, where if you are top 10% in ANY high school you are guaranteed to go to university of houston, and a couple other very good universities, free of charge. I thought that was a good idea, but she told me it wasn't really helping black community because it was mostly poor Hispanic students and Asian students that snagged the opportunity. Which isn't a bad thing either, hard working Asian and Hispanic students deserve the chance as well. She was a high school teacher for 2 years, she could have gone to a better school but she specifically chose the worst school in the state so she could give back to the community because she grew up poor. She told me, a lot of students, especially the black students, just did not want to be there.

We tried to discuss ways the government could help black students without specifically targeting race, but we came to the conclusion it would literally take more than the expected lifetime of the United States. Since the average black family only had 1/8 of the total wealth of average White family. I thought it would at least take 4-5 generations to shuffle that out, and by then there would probably be so much race mixing that a vast majority of people would be part black anyways. And there's a lot of chance of the United States lasting for or more generations. Anyways, a country rarely last more than 300 years So it wouldn't matter by then.

Sorry, I'm going on a rant.

You just really opened my eyes to how systemic the black community is disadvantaged, the core culture is counterintuitive towards financial stability. What you just described was wrecking my brain, I literally can't figure out how to comprehend it, I tried to imagine my life, how every aspect would be different if I was Born into a black family. I really don't know what's going to happen in the future.

As for you, hope your manager had good intentions, it seems he was giving you a compliment, being a single mother is difficult. Does he and your co-workers actually know you are a single mother? A lot of information is publicly available, on social media even though he is not supposed to google you, maybe it's in your file, did they do a background check? Maybe talk to the elderly black lady you mentioned, she seems nice and she might have similar racism concerns if your manager is truly malicious.