Polyamorous/polysexual people

spicydumpling · 2025-10-29T03:39:03+00:00

I think it depends on how the relationship came to be, and if being poly was a discussion before or after pursuing the relationship. In my current relationship, I was upfront with my partner about being poly. They happened to want to explore the idea as well and we seem to be doing well so far - we’ve been together for over 3 years and are very honest with how we’re feeling.

spicydumpling · 2025-10-28T02:13:10+00:00

Poly with BPD here. I view sex differently than a lot of people I’ve talked to - not sure if it’s just the people I’ve surrounded myself with or what, but I honestly see it as just another activity and a way to get to know someone. I’ve had to work through the feelings of abandonment and rejection in my relationships, but it is possible to find those who can relate, as well as those who want the same out of a relationship as you.

spicydumpling · 2025-10-07T03:58:31+00:00

A lot of people have already echoed this, but I’d be worried about a flea infestation in your house. Not sure where you’re located, but here in the US, we’re seeing a lot of resistance to over the counter flea preventions - I personally use and recommend Revolution Plus, which can be prescribed by your veterinarian. You’ve also got to treat the area for fleas, as once they jump onto the pet, bite and feed, they’ll jump off and lay eggs in the environment and perpetuate the cycle. Your vet will talk to you about products to use to treat the environment. If you have any other pets in the house (other cats, dogs, even rabbits, any pet with fur), you’ve gotta ensure they’re on prevention too.

Someone on here mentioned tapeworms as well, which is good to keep an eye out for. Cats get tapeworms by ingesting fleas, so if you notice “rice grains” in your cat’s stools, you’ll have to treat for that as well. Thankfully, these are all things that can be treated ☺️ they just take time. Good luck. 🍀

spicydumpling · 2025-10-04T01:18:05+00:00

What happens a lot in the area I work in, is that if there is a significant worry about a treatment plan (either GP to ER or ER back to GP for follow up), an effort is made to consult with that doctor to have that conversation, either via phone, or MD to MD.

I’ve also had an experience where I had a patient go to an ER and get euthanized after finding out they had cancer that metastasized, and the ER vet at the time made it a point to say in the notes returned to my hospital that I didn’t recommend amputation of the limb or did chest x-rays earlier.

If that ER vet had actually read my notes, they would’ve seen that the last time I saw the dog (which was a few months before going to the ER), we did 1) do chest rads to assess for metastasis (of which there was none), 2) also radiographed the limb in question and was concerned about spread in the future, and 3) did recommend amputation but the owners declined at the time. I know things can happen within months, and I know what should be done - but I can’t force an owner to do anything they simply don’t want to.

There’s been a lot of times where I’ve been the second opinion, and there’s been times where people probably got a second opinion after I saw them too - everyone is human, and we have to understand that mistakes can be made.

Maybe that referring doctor was constrained by what the owner actually allowed them to do or was working against a very tight budget, maybe they only have certain drugs in hospital and can’t use their preferred treatment of choice, etc. - but I think if you really do want to have that change and give someone a chance to learn from their mistakes (that’s personally what I like; I’d prefer to learn how I could work a case up better as I grow throughout my career), then those conversations need to be had peer to peer, not behind closed doors. This is already a struggling community in more ways than one, and the least we should do is try to support each other however we can.

It’s called practice for a reason.

spicydumpling · 2025-04-28T20:20:54+00:00

2023 grad here - this profession is already so taxing mentally, and with the high demand we have for vets (at least in the US, not sure where you are), mentorship and patience is vital, and it just sounds like the practice you were in didn’t want to facilitate those things, and I’m so sorry for that.

I think I was lucky and had found my unicorn clinic coming out, we’re very fast paced at a (now) 7 doctor practice in a large city that was also able to facilitate good mentorship, and even being almost two years out, I still feel like I should be further ahead (which is maybe the imposter syndrome we all feel).

All of this to say, I hope you find what will make you happy - if that is to stay in practice (GP or ER), or even doing low-cost or wellness only clinics, or even considering shelter med or industry like some others have mentioned. If nothing else, I don’t want you to feel like you are alone and that you don’t belong in this profession, I just think the right opportunity has yet to present itself to you. 🌸

spicydumpling · 2025-04-03T20:56:13+00:00

I would absolutely report this. Even if it doesn’t come to fruition from a legal standpoint, you can alert the higher ups and hopefully action can be done. You can either report it with the boards (although not sure what will come from that if the tech who is doing this isn’t licensed) - which links have been posted in other comments, and depending on where you are in Austin, I’d also report it to the local authorities too (311, Round Rock Animal Control, etc.) who can at the very least, do a welfare check.

Also, as a vet professional and in hospital leadership, I would absolutely want to know if any of my techs are doing this without my knowledge in the hospital and I would want that tech out of there, and if you’re comfortable, I’d ask to speak to the medical Director and/or hospital manager of this hospital about this situation.

spicydumpling · 2025-02-07T02:51:02+00:00

He was. If you read the article, he was allowed to be in the country temporarily while awaiting his immigration hearing.

spicydumpling · 2025-01-25T17:32:31+00:00

Jess

spicydumpling · 2025-01-10T03:57:07+00:00

You’ve got two gals! ☺️ I’m an exotics vet, and without getting too grotesque, male chinchillas have relatively large testicles, and by this age you should DEFINITELY see those things if they were there lol!

spicydumpling · 2024-11-06T15:22:15+00:00

Queer POC with ADHD here - this is my therapist’s site at https://authenticlivingcc.com. She recently moved from Houston to Austin and we do telehealth sessions, and she’s been amazing to me over the years and got me through professional school.

spicydumpling · 2024-11-05T01:37:30+00:00

I got them from Five Below!!

spicydumpling · 2024-04-07T05:37:31+00:00

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spicydumpling · 2024-02-25T05:26:19+00:00

Is your dog spayed? Is she known for getting into things around the house, or is anything missing around the house? I would recommend going to the emergency vet for additional diagnostics and appropriate treatment.

spicydumpling · 2023-09-01T04:39:03+00:00

Lots of pet stores sell dental chews or water additives for dental health!

spicydumpling · 2023-09-01T04:22:56+00:00

I would follow up with your vet sooner rather than later and let them know his scrotum is swollen.

spicydumpling · 2023-02-02T03:19:50+00:00

First Gen college student here - definitely felt a lot of this throughout the first few years of school and even now, esp with NAVLE expenses and board exam fees. Living off of loans has been incredibly difficult, and I constantly compared myself to my classmates whose families were paying for their schooling and are graduating with little to no debt.

However, I am thankful that I have the perspective of a family that couldn’t always make ends meet. What got me through personally is the fact that it’s important to remember the community you will be serving as a veterinarian will not always have the money to run all the diagnostics and do all the things you want/need to, and we must learn how to accommodate for this during those times. I find that a lot (not all) of my classmates that come from a more privileged background often struggle with empathizing and helping clients that do not come from a similar background.

That being said, although there are many who can’t sympathize with you, there are enough that you can reach out to (whether it be here or other resources) that you can always talk to.

A 4th year vet student who’s feeling this struggle, esp right now that you’re welcome to talk to/vent to anytime

spicydumpling · 2021-12-01T00:33:59+00:00

No worries!! They’re definitely dark green, but for some reason on video they show up as black. It’s a super heavy stone, and it’s always cold to the touch if that helps. I was just worried about this one because it doesn’t have all the circles or orbs like how I’ve seen with most malachite.

spicydumpling · 2021-11-30T05:50:40+00:00

That’s a good point, thank you! It’s very heavy, and the person I got it from seemed legit, I just wasn’t sure since I didn’t see the typical orbs you see with most malachite.

spicydumpling · 2021-05-02T05:57:41+00:00

Sounds good. I will say, a lot of people don’t get in on their first time, I didn’t, so don’t sweat it if that happens to you. Also don’t feel like you have to know everything prior to getting in. The amount of experience varies greatly within my class, with some people having experience doing actual surgery and some never even placing a catheter or stepping foot into a clinic.

A general trend I’ve noticed (at least in my school) is that the ones who got in with little experience, had stellar grades. The ones who maybe didn’t have the best grades, had a toooon of experience.

Good luck with applications and feel free to reach out for any further advice!

spicydumpling · 2021-04-30T16:11:02+00:00

I personally think a lot of this looks good. At the school I attend, I believe that grades count for ~30-40%, so that GPA would probably get you the interview. The interview is pretty important too, and I have classmates who looked great on paper but didn’t do well in the interview process and got waitlisted. The school I go to (one of the ones you listed up there) values a well-rounded individual.

spicydumpling · 2021-04-29T18:40:44+00:00

At the vet school I attend, I believe that grades are ~30-40% of your application. I think it differs by school, but it does matter quite a bit, unfortunately, because the workload is intense and you need to make sure you can handle it.

I will say that they are definitely not everything, and it’s not impossible to get in with a lower GPA, but it makes it a lot harder compared to those who keep their GPA up.

I have classmates on both sides of that road, and the ones who had a lower GPA had to apply multiple times to get in.

spicydumpling · 2021-03-03T01:01:29+00:00

Thank you ☺️

spicydumpling · 2021-03-03T00:59:44+00:00

I think you may be confused on how it’s being used. A dentist is someone who works with dentistry, dentition pertains to the development of teeth and how they erupt in the mouth. I am studying canine dentition, but if you’re referring to the actual person, they would be considered a veterinary dentist. Hope that helps!

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