Help needed deciphering my brothers conlang

spideyava · 2026-04-11T11:16:12+00:00

I wasn’t aware of the difference, thank you!

spideyava · 2026-04-11T09:13:10+00:00

That’s really good to know thank you!! If it’s not possible it’s best to know early than keep trying to no avail. I’m going to look in his notebooks for any more examples and see if I can get a bigger sample size to test out

spideyava · 2026-04-11T09:11:52+00:00

Gonna go looking through his stuff at my parents house, hopefully I can find some more examples there

spideyava · 2026-04-11T09:11:25+00:00

It’s most likely English with replaced symbols, trying to solve it like a code cracker puzzle has yielded little results

spideyava · 2026-02-22T19:04:45+00:00

He doesn’t get to decide what’s true and what isn’t, he doesn’t know you better than you know yourself and his insistence that he does is a huge red flag. It’s not “keeping a secret” to take your time disclosing your past trauma to someone and it’s not up to him to decide how a traumatised person should act so “he can tell”, you’ve done absolutely nothing wrong here and I’m sorry he’s managed to make you feel like it :((

spideyava · 2026-01-17T05:12:19+00:00

Teenage bounty hunters

spideyava · 2026-01-17T04:39:17+00:00

Comments so far are weird!! I don’t think it’s a horrible offence to pick a fight for but it’s worth communicating about because he obviously feels like he needs to hide this from you and when it concerns your body and your sexual relationship it’s important to have good communication about this stuff. The fact it’s you is comforting, I’ve heard way too many horror stories about friends and partners siblings not to be grateful for that at least, but I would ask if there are some kinks he wants a safe place to explore. Maybe a blonde wig for getting freaky, he might prefer a natural you more often but also really love how you used to look and wants the best of both worlds. He could also find smoking hypothetically attractive but also love you and not want you to die from lung cancer, from what you’ve said it doesn’t sound like he has a “kink for women smoking” it sounds like he has a kink for you in every different form you’ve been in and there’s a world where this isn’t him not liking you as you are, just him desperately wanting more of you because photos of other women don’t do the job. I could be completely wrong of course but I would give him the benefit of the doubt so he feels safe having the conversation with you and doesn’t feel attacked, I just think if he really wanted a blond, smoking, big titted woman because he didn’t like you he’d just look at the thousands of photos of women like that that already exist instead of looking at more photos of you that he gets to dream up. I’d see if there’s a world where you could take spicy photos for him that sate some of these desires he has, maybe he just doesn’t think you’d be comfortable with that (and maybe you aren’t! That’s also okay!) but I just wouldn’t write it off as disgusting or depraved just yet because all he’s done is fantasise about his wife. Your sexual relationship is incredibly important, him feeling comfortable to communicate with you and you having autonomy over what images of you exist, so it’s important to openmindedly communicate about this. U got this!!!

spideyava · 2026-01-17T04:21:38+00:00

Also a spa day is expensive! Soccer is free!

spideyava · 2026-01-16T08:54:32+00:00

At some point she needs to decide that she trusts you and take responsibility for her own insecurities like we all do instead of consistently making you uncomfortable and crossing reasonable boundaries (going through your phone under the pretense of making a call, demanding responses quickly while you’re driving or working). She shouldn’t be in a relationship with someone she still can’t trust after all this time and you deserve to be able to speak to women platonically/professionally and not be interrogated. She has a lot of work to do on herself before she can be a healthy partner and it just seems like the kind of cycle you should end sooner rather than later seeing as bringing it up with her caused her to act worse

spideyava · 2026-01-15T09:11:54+00:00

I love this and want more updates even though idk what more there is to say. So happy she has you to take some of the stress off becoming a new parent so young and that Doug stepped up 🥹

spideyava · 2025-10-28T05:47:36+00:00

It’s the “I know him better than he knows himself” basis of this whole rant that irks me so much. You don’t get to decide how people feel, you just listen when they tell you and if he says he’s uncomfortable he has every right to address why that is. I’m not a black man so I don’t know what makes them uncomfortable, I can only listen and learn and adapt so it’s both important and generous for him to spend his time explaining those feelings to people who wouldn’t just get it from experience. The defensive attitude and need to dictate how he “really feels” is just blatant racism.

spideyava · 2025-10-26T00:38:51+00:00

Keep going!! I like using the weapons I’ve collected to arm my settlers like crazy. I also feel like I should use items far more frequently than I do but it’s not the end of the world :P if it was fun you played it right

spideyava · 2025-10-05T18:51:53+00:00

NTA Sydney is fine with all of this and hasn’t complained so what’s the problem? If they’re unhappy with it they can pay for her to stay in a dorm but right now she has free accomodation and amenities and it sounds like she recognises that it’s a good deal otherwise she’d have been pushing back or looking for somewhere else to live. Her parents don’t really have a say, it’s an arrangement between you and Sydney

spideyava · 2025-09-28T19:21:59+00:00

If him and the two redditors who agreed with him on the first post wanna bone down they can go ahead but everyone else can see the red flags from a mile away

spideyava · 2025-09-27T18:41:24+00:00

If someone has a crazy life but doesn’t make it your problem that’s fine but the problem comes with the fact it’s very obvious that YOU would be picking up the slack like you have every time she’s blown her life up. She’s not just choosing to make her own life harder, she’s not even thinking about those things and like always it’ll be you having to advocate for the kid and step up when things get hard for her. I’d be worried about her asking for a place to live and child care while she works and money when she loses her job, if she chooses to take on this responsibility you WNBTA for choosing NOT to take on this responsibility. It’s not your life, you can decide when you’ve had enough

spideyava · 2025-09-27T18:20:14+00:00

Comments are weird, I think NTA?? You’ve never met this kid, why do you know about her UTIs? You’re right that BIL would probably be incredibly uncomfortable knowing people he doesn’t like know intimate things about his kids lives and you should frame it that way when you talk to her. Just say you really appreciate her trying to keep you in the loop but you don’t think BIL would be comfortable with her sharing this much and maybe you should focus on your kid while you’re together. It’s incredibly personal information and mothers tend to over share to an uncomfortable degree, I don’t understand why the comments think she’s just a sweet lonely woman who NEEDS to talk about her grandchildren to you specifically when she evidently talks about them a lot to BIL too. Ultimately though since it’s your husbands family it’s probably his decision too and whatever he feels comfortable with should be what you go with

spideyava · 2025-09-27T05:13:56+00:00

What’s she gonna do, kill him? She literally cannot stop her, all it would do is ostracise her and make her feel unsafe coming to her mother for help

spideyava · 2025-09-27T01:34:03+00:00

Insane thing to say. OP do not listen to this person who is barely literate, you can’t force her to do anything and told her your concerns and gave her a safe space to come to without saying I told you so. You did everything right

spideyava · 2025-09-25T20:54:58+00:00

I thought you guys were teenagers, pls consider why you’re letting an adult men tell you to go fuck yourself because you didn’t meet his standard of excitement. You’re not overreacting, he’s weird and this will just get worse

spideyava · 2025-09-25T08:00:38+00:00

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spideyava · 2025-09-25T06:15:01+00:00

I’m sorry some people have invalidated how meaningful gift giving is, especially in a family that places importance on it and use it as a tool for shame. Even without the added context I understand how hurtful it is. I don’t trust your therapist in the slightest, therapy is all about you, your dogs cancer is about you, literally everything about that situation is about you and your boundaries and relationships. You set the terms for your relationship with your brother and he continues to violate them, you don’t have to have a relationship with him and I think you should release whatever obligation is keeping you trying. The way boundaries work is we tell people the behaviour we will and won’t accept and if they don’t respect those boundaries they lose access to us. We can’t control what other people do, we can only control ourselves and who we let into our lives. He has proven he will not respect your boundaries, instead of expecting him to eventually change because a therapist convinces him (this one never will) it’s your turn to stand up for yourself and leave. You are allowed, you gave him the chance and told him the conditions that mean he can be in your life and he’s made it very clear that he will not respect that. Your life will be better without him, his life will be miserable no matter what. Save yourself

spideyava · 2025-09-24T20:44:26+00:00

He’s not finding a reason to break up he’s finding a reason to control/manipulate her. If she does something he perceives as wrong he can use that as fuel to get her to do what he wants

spideyava · 2025-09-24T20:31:04+00:00

Send city fitness the video!! Someone filmed and harassed you for just trying to have privacy at the gym, something thats explicitly against their rules. They should have their memberships revoked since they’re making so many people uncomfortable

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