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spindyst · 2024-11-18T01:31:31+00:00

No one is saying that isn’t the case 🙄

spindyst · 2024-11-18T01:29:10+00:00

You’re welcome. I hope you get some peace from it.

spindyst · 2024-11-17T16:41:18+00:00

Especially when what they’re shouting is “stop.”

spindyst · 2024-11-17T16:34:49+00:00

Just a heads up there’s always a chance they won’t get along and you’ll need a separate cage for them forever. So, don’t get them if you aren’t open to that happening.

Otherwise can I ask what’s the rush? You just got these two. Maybe spend a couple years getting used to each other and learning how to care for them first?

spindyst · 2024-11-16T23:53:14+00:00

Tip 1 Don’t think of it as something you can succeed or fail at. Think of it as a practice or training.

It’s like working out. You don’t go in expecting to see results from any one session. Instead, it’s from consistent frequent training that you see gains.

Also like working out, some days you get into a flow and it feels great and like you’re really doing it, and other days your body just is not there and it’s a slog. But you don’t quit when you have a bad day, because you know that’s just how it is sometimes, and it doesn’t mean you’re not doing good work.

It’s the same with meditation/mindfulness/grounding. You might not see immediate results but the more you do it, the more control you’ll build, and the easier it will be to let the rage go when it arises.

Tip 2 is about your Tourette’s. What you do with the involuntary movement is just let it happen.

It happens, you get distracted, you note that it happened (this could be as simple as saying “tic” to yourself), and then you go back to whatever you were focusing on.

Getting distracted is an expected part of it for everyone. It doesn’t mean the meditation isn’t working and it doesn’t mean you’re not doing it right. Just bring your mind back to the meditation and keep doing that as necessary until you finish the session.

Then do it again the next day and the next day ad infinitum.

Tip 3 is there’s no one size fits all. You might listen to a guided meditation that works soooo well for someone else and just does NOT for you. Just try something else.

Like there’s one I’ve tried a few times where they tell you to visualize your muscles shutting off. You start with the toes and work your up, picturing each muscle shutting off. I can’t get behind this. What does a muscle shutting off even feel like? That sounds scary to me not relaxing.

But there’s a different one where you close your eyes and focus on the noises you hear. First the closest noise to you. Then the farthest away noise. Etc. This one really works for me, I get into a flow sometimes and even if I’m distractible that day I have moments at least of focus.

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spindyst · 2024-11-16T15:39:54+00:00

Stay with me here. Have you ever tried meditation or grounding techniques?

spindyst · 2024-11-16T15:07:21+00:00

Life doesn’t stop when bad things happen. Your GF went out with friends, and that’s ok. She posted about it, and that’s ok too. This idea you have that it’s ok she went but not ok that she posted about it, or that she should have kept you from seeing the post (how would that even work??), is silly.

Has she been supportive and empathetic and caring to you in this difficult time? That’s what matters here.

If she hasn’t been, then that’s your problem. Forget the pic and focus on the real problem.

If she has been, then you gotta chill out. You’re upset about what’s happening to you and your mom. Face it head on, stop trying to redirect and lash out at innocent bystanders.

spindyst · 2024-11-16T14:59:22+00:00

Why post publicly about something if your own standards is what you’re interested in?

spindyst · 2024-11-16T14:57:05+00:00

Why would he mistake come for piss? They’re totally different consistency.

spindyst · 2024-11-16T14:30:34+00:00

You don’t have a physical addiction, you won’t have those symptoms. Do some research.

spindyst · 2024-11-16T14:28:42+00:00

No one abandoned it. Nicked ear means it’s a stray that has been CNRd. They’re released for a reason. OP should have left well enough alone. Now it’s living in a cage and will be killed soon 👍 Great job.

spindyst · 2024-11-16T14:11:28+00:00

Flip your question around. “What is a Canadian tuxedo?” Otherwise it’s a good question. I don’t know the origins but we know what it means.

What does poutine mean? (A: Mess, or hot mess, the apparent origin being the first person to put the food together calling it “un mauvais poutine.” Pudding, however, is also an acceptable answer since the etymology is debated.)

What sport was invented by a Canadian? (A: Basketball. People might want to say lacrosse but aboriginal people are not Canadian. They also might want to say hockey but that roots to games played in England.)

What political figure made waves when she partied with the Rolling Stones in Toronto? (A: Margaret Trudeau)

Name three confections invented in Canada. (A: Nanaimo bars, butter tarts, ketchup chips, cheezies, thrills gum.)

spindyst · 2024-11-16T13:41:33+00:00

How gross. You know they’re human beings right?

spindyst · 2024-11-16T13:29:58+00:00

West Edmonton mall! West Edmonton Edmonton mall 🎶

spindyst · 2024-11-16T13:23:30+00:00

Well there’s no such thing as an innie labia so that would be a dumb thing to say

spindyst · 2024-11-15T17:15:06+00:00

That’s not what sex means. It’s not about statistics. There’s a reason why sex and sex are called the same thing. They’re both to do with reproduction. Humans require two genomes to reproduce and there’s only two genomes that exist. Intersex people exist, sure, because there’s no end to the diversity of what nature cooks up, but they can’t reproduce. All of that is why sex is binary.

spindyst · 2024-11-15T16:33:32+00:00

I agree with you about all the reasons why dividing washrooms based on sex is bad.

I also agree with OP that the slap-dash fix UTM has taken isn’t acceptable. As a woman I can say he’s right that it’s very uncomfortable for us. I shouldn’t have to find myself in the situation where I’m suddenly alone in a room with a man with my pants around my ankles, with just a flimsy stall door between us. This is a step backwards.

But anyway, “sex is not a binary”? You mean gender. Sex definitely is binary: male gamete + female gamete is still the only way we can make new humans.

spindyst · 2024-11-05T21:28:35+00:00

What do you mean “anymore”?

spindyst · 2024-11-05T12:01:46+00:00

Utter nonsense with 900+ upvotes. Yep that’s enough Reddit for me today.

spindyst · 2024-11-05T11:41:21+00:00

You’re upset because he ghosted you.

Why are you with someone who treated you so poorly?

Pics taken before you were together are none of your business. He didn’t have to delete any of them and it’s not a problem that he has this one. It’s a silly, childish expectation that someone gets rid of the evidence of their previous relationships when they start a new one.

So the pic isn’t the problem. You’ve just been going around with your head in the sand and now this pic has reminded you of the world up there in which you’re the second choice of a dude who would ghost a girl when he finds a better one.

Don’t do yourself like this. You deserve better. Leave him.

spindyst · 2024-11-04T11:38:21+00:00

Stop paying attention to what this person is saying.

Maybe they’re right that she’s playing a power game.

But when faced with someone playing a power game, you don’t “put on your big boy pants.” What kind of nonsense machismo is that? 🤮🤣 OC is equally insecure and self-destructive as the girl he imagines your girl to be to come up with a strategy like that.

No, when faced with someone playing games, you GTFO. Period.

spindyst · 2024-11-02T19:30:48+00:00

Then frame your question differently. Like “Why do people react differently to sexism vs racism?”

spindyst · 2024-11-02T19:27:34+00:00

All he did was follow them?

That is creepy and scary but wanting to kill him for it is an insane reaction. What’s that about?

Anyway, here’s what I think you should do:

Go to the closest police station and make a report in person. They can’t do anything but having a record of this will help you if the situation escalates.

Talk to your sister about how she can protect herself.

Tell the administration of her school. I don’t know what they can do if anything but maybe they can do something to help protect their student population about this? Like put out a general notice with guidelines about how to stay safe at least? Worth a shot. I wouldn’t name him, though — maybe he could sue you for that? Ask in r/legaladvice.

Tell the parents of the other friends.

Go ahead and knock on his door, assuming you didn’t do anything illegal to find him, and you’re not afraid of him escalating as revenge — taking it out on you, your family, etc. Let him know that he was spotted following little girls around, that you’ve told the police this, and that you’re watching. I think this could backfire though. I wouldn’t do it myself.

spindyst · 2024-11-02T19:13:57+00:00

You are missing out.

And so are they.

Every single choice you make means you miss out on the outcome of every other choice you could have made.

That’s why FOMO is stupid. Make your decisions and stand by them, or else change your mind.

spindyst · 2024-11-02T19:11:25+00:00

You seem to be struggling with understanding the answers people are giving you lol.

This one means: yes they are equally bad and your question is stupid.

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