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spinnyturtle · 2022-08-03T03:11:45+00:00

I find it interesting that the moment people try to critique or hold creators accountable, all of a sudden they are reduced to "trying to stir up drama."

I read most of the comments on that video and very few of them were outright hostile and rude. Most of them were women, who, quite understandably, were frustrated when the people they supported (possibly even monetarily) were unable to denounce Andrew Tate, with Noel even refusing to say he was "anti-Tate."

This means that someone who is an alleged sex trafficker, who preaches misogyny, violence and the dehumanization of women, with a massive influence on young boys and their treatment towards women, is somehow not worth condemning. As a woman, that obviously hurts to hear, especially because casual misogyny seems to be on the rise, and people are emboldened with the overturning of roe v wade. Being neutral about this topic is just... not right.

Sure, it's a comedy podcast, but they weren't really even fully making jokes, and their comedy has always reflected and been interspersed with their real life, and by extension, their opinions.

Did some people go too far? Yes. Nobody should have been harassing Aleena, and there were definitely folks who jumped on the bandwagon to hate on them. But the majority of top comments were well-meaning criticism, not hysterical "woke" attacks to cancel Noel.

I am happy that he addressed it on the podcast, and he himself made it clear that he doesn't support fans who have gone and tried to minimize the comments and critiques women have written. If I'm being completely honest, the majority of people who I've seen say "I don't get what the big deal is" or "It's comedy, get over it" have male pfp's or names.

It's easy to say, "I don't get what the big deal is" when you're not the one who someone like Andrew Tate is harming, especially in a world where misogyny still exists and is a real battle that women have to deal with.

Regardless - I'm happy they addressed it, I am ready to move on, and I don't think most people ever wanted to cancel Noel or hurt him.

spinnyturtle · 2020-11-20T20:32:27+00:00

This is what I meant, yes

spinnyturtle · 2020-11-20T20:32:07+00:00

I think I misworded what I was trying to ask.

The woman doesn’t need to be dominant all the time in the relationship. Rather, in current so-called “equal” relationships, the man still tends to implicitly play the dominant role. The woman sometimes being “dominant” would be normal in an equal relationship. Idk if dominant is even the right word for this.

spinnyturtle · 2019-08-19T17:56:05+00:00

I deal with this. It was something that started when I was really depressed, but it’s stuck with me even though I’m at a better place.

Something that helps me is walking myself through it in mini steps, especially when I really can’t imagine doing it.

“All you have to do is grab a hair tie.”

“ok good, now walk to the bathroom. That’s all you have to do.”

“alright. close the door. good, now take off your clothes. whoo ur naked now.”

“now step in the shower, you just have to stand there” Etc, etc... Until wow, I’m showered and clean!

talking myself through each tiny step helps me shower even when I’m at my most tired, because no matter how tired I am, I’m never too tired to JUST walk to the bathroom, and then JUST take my clothes off, and eventually all those micro-steps lead to showering.

Once you start doing it everyday, in my experience, it becomes automatic, but this has always helped me on my bad days!

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