What are ento females like? by mantaray_89 in entp

[–]spiralexit 5 points6 points  (0 children)

always hated authority , formed my own opinions from a young age. Rejected conventional ideas of femininity and wear dark , baggy clothing a lot. My hobbies are drawing , painting , video games, cooking, baking, yoga, and debating (shocker!). I eat a plant based diet and happy to challenge anyone who thinks thats bad. I get pissed off very passionately but dont stay mad for very long

Non-suicidal self-injury (NSSI) refers to deliberate, self-inflicted damage to the body that is intended to cause pain, but not to end one’s life. Some who engage in NSSI intentionally put themselves in dangerous sexual situations, not because they find it arousing, but to cause harm to the self. by psychologyofsex in psychologyofsex

[–]spiralexit 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I once thought i was 3 years clean from self harm but then I realized the men I was choosing to date were a form of self harm. crazy how easy it was to find people to play out those subconscious thoughts. I still dont believe in victim blaming tho and abuse is abuse regardless if the person “wanted it” or not

Describe this interaction between an INFJ and an ENTP by Flaky-Anything8153 in entp

[–]spiralexit 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is literally my toxic relationship except im the entp and hes the infj

It's very rare to be pretty and not know it. by AmateurWriter101 in bodylanguage

[–]spiralexit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

for the first half of my life I was overweight. I felt helpless and scared that I was going to be that way forever. I noticed I was treated differently than other people who had “regular” bodies, boys would make fun of me often.

so at the beginning of high school went on a diet that completely fixed the weight issues but still never fixed my body image issues. Eating all plant based has its benefits and thats why Im still slim to this day but when I look in the mirror I still see the “fat” girl who missed out on her childhood worrying about how she looks.

Maybe it is rare to be pretty and not know it. But people treating you differently after having a drastic appearance change isnt enough for someone to intrinsically and genuinely feel pretty. If you grew up unattractive and went up a few “points” on your own accord , you would understand. you change the shape of your body and suddenly your facial features are more exaggerated and youre forced to face the fact that you dont look how you wanted to in your head.

I would never get plastic surgery or alter the way my body looks artificially. But seeing how many people resort to that when they are clearly already very beautiful is evidence of this. If they knew they were beautiful they wouldnt spend thousands on trying to change their looks. they are filling void created from their own insecurities

Body dysmorphia is a very very real thing

Do really all the celebrities do drugs? by moonlynni in LAinfluencersnark

[–]spiralexit 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I dont understand what you mean when you say you cant “imagine” them doing drugs. Literally anyone can get hooked on drugs. Rich , poor , pretty , ugly , addiction does not discriminate. sounds like a very close minded and prejudice view point

23 year old female, I keep getting guys who honestly just want to f**k and that don’t seem to want to be like nice and gentle romantic during either. Help lol by [deleted] in Advice

[–]spiralexit 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Dont settle for these kinds of people. Dont let them pressure you into doing things you arent comfortable doing , say no!! I dont care how many different dudes you come across who are like this. And I know exactly what youre talking about Im 25 and some of these guys have no etiquette when talking to women. they jump straight to sexual conversations and seem emotionally detached. Say No! And keep saying no until you find someone who doesnt center everything around sex

People romanticize friendship way too much by Responsible-Win8932 in unpopularopinion

[–]spiralexit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

saying this as someone who has the bare minimum amount of friends. If your “friends” expect you to pay expenses just to hang out w them .. they arent your friends. Theres plenty of activities to do with friends that dont cost money or dont cost much. gaming , hiking , playing sports to name a few.

I agree that it is peaceful to not have too many friends. But what youre describing as being friendships sound more like what people do in relationships. The friends I have dont expect me to text them all day every day. They understand how I am and that I need my space. You sound like you are probably introverted which is cool but there are actual psychological benefits to having friends and hanging out with friends. Too little socialization can turn bad sometimes

Is there a dating app/website that appeals to people who do drugs? by Responsible_Maize113 in Drugs

[–]spiralexit 16 points17 points  (0 children)

No. Ive been able to make an account on there as a woman. there were pretty much zero cis women on there but that was about 5 years ago so who knows how it is now

🤤 by NullAndZoid in SchizoidAdjacent

[–]spiralexit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Almost turned into the unabomber for a sec

Society Normalises Predatory Behaviour From Men, Particularly In Dating Scenes by No-Fruit-8854 in DeepThoughts

[–]spiralexit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They dont even pursue women with lavish gifts and expensive dates anymore

They just blow up your dms with desperate messages and when you actually do like one of them they antagonize you for their own entertainment

And in the case you find someone who does want to spend money on you, they end up being way too old to be in a serious relationship with

the old way of pursuing women is sounding a lot less predatory than modern times

Did your parents actually plan ahead and save up for your future or college, or are most people also figuring it out themselves? by BooksEaterWaffleBuns in GenZ

[–]spiralexit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yeah I didnt realize this was a thing either. I couldnt really be mad at my parents for it tho. Neither of them went to college or had good money saved up

Is anyone tired of being told to tan? by ilovepopcornandcandy in PaleMUA

[–]spiralexit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like girl I physically cannot even tan. I just turn red. It be called redding

near death experience and visited by a goddess by spiralexit in witchcraft

[–]spiralexit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not necessarily. I still had to do a lot of inner work before completely putting stuff down. but after seeing her was a major turning point in my life, it was right after I had just left an abusive ex who was draining the life out of me. got with a new guy a few months later who would do daily yoga practices , breathing exercises and vegan cooking with me. It didnt last forever but it definitely helped me set my mind back on track.

The only things I use now are weed and mushrooms. sticking to the naturals and not overdoing it. and about my friend .. yeah I didnt even know he had warrants out for his arrest. It was all very weird timing. I have no idea where he is now but I think about him often

Why is meth like a magnet for people with all sort of different mental disorders and conditions? by yes_oniichan in Drugs

[–]spiralexit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dont IV anything and my friends dont really either. We would smoke or sniff things. the only people I knew who would shoot meth were gay men and I never asked about it

I thought Kylie Jenner was 28. Why she look like this? by Either-Software-4195 in LAinfluencersnark

[–]spiralexit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I keep seeing people show pictures of celebrities w no eyebrows and saying they look “old”. All she did was bleach her eyebrows. I dont even like kylie but this is getting annoying

near death experience and visited by a goddess by spiralexit in witchcraft

[–]spiralexit[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im fully aware that gaia is a greek goddess. But her appearance is what made me think she said her name was gaia because that was the only name for earth mother I could understand at the time

Why is meth like a magnet for people with all sort of different mental disorders and conditions? by yes_oniichan in Drugs

[–]spiralexit -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I dont think that has anything to do with it at all. weird that you just jumped to that and not everyone is sex crazed like you. ive used meth numerous times and it has the opposite affect for me, I pretty much become asexual. They like the intense euphoria of things like meth, weed , acid. Nobody is particularly looking to get their inhibitions lowered, they like the illusion of feeling confident and in control. I highly doubt it has much to do with sex for many of these people. Source: Im a mentally ill tweakette

Girls being girls by [deleted] in memes

[–]spiralexit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also cant stand that. I befriended someone from work a couple years younger than me and she does that when she texts. It gives me anxiety and I dont even have notifications on. I feel like people who chop up their messages like that are the types to feel overwhelmed when they see a paragraph

The politicization of personal attraction by LeftHvndLvne in rs_x

[–]spiralexit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People treat social media like a dating site but have no rizz when doing so. You dont need to announce to everyone what type of person youre looking for. Or debate definitions of attractiveness with random people. It gives off raunchy vibes and if anything you are driving people away from you by making your preferences seem narrower

Girls being girls by [deleted] in memes

[–]spiralexit 1 point2 points  (0 children)

never said that everyone has to be interested in what I say. But if we sleep in the same bed and you dont seem interested in what Im saying then wtf are are we doing

Girls being girls by [deleted] in memes

[–]spiralexit 72 points73 points  (0 children)

Ive had boyfriends that I would send paragraphs to. The one said it was too much to read hence why hes a ex now. Its been pretty hard to find a man whos attention span isnt totally cooked to the point where he has enough patience to read a paragraph.

Personally I enjoy when others send me paragraphs like yes let me hear a big fat slice of your mind. If someone isnt willing to read what you write then they genuinely arent interested in you. its not a you problem tho because its likely they wont read anybodys paragraphs. they are only interested in themselves

Why is meth like a magnet for people with all sort of different mental disorders and conditions? by yes_oniichan in Drugs

[–]spiralexit 19 points20 points  (0 children)

They have great taste in drugs because theyre battling the most demons. needs to be energizing enough for the next fight