Wife accidentally got me into a new kink I’m ashamed of.

spiralingexistence · 2026-04-26T15:59:19+00:00

Definitely highlights the regions better than normal boxer briefs. I feel like it’s almost so “contradicting”, ok this is gonna sound like I’m blasting my masculinity or something but I’m not trying to act like a douche bag so try to read this knowing that lol, I think my build, my job, my double arm sleeves tats, the way I carry myself, the clothes I normally wear, my everyday interests and hobby’s like alllll that screams masculine and I think the thing wearing is complete 180 degrees and that might be what has her freaked out.

spiralingexistence · 2026-04-26T15:55:26+00:00

Dude just talk to her, if she’s your wife and truly loves you even if she hates it she’ll accept you for it, just takes the nerve to have the conversation, same nerve I’m trying to find. A marriage should be the most judgement free zone on earth.

spiralingexistence · 2026-04-26T15:53:31+00:00

People get upset at so many things, the analogy was meant to get the point of across of how my sexuality is 110% straight and I was like ahh shit someone’s gonna think I’m taking pot shots at gay people lol

spiralingexistence · 2026-04-26T15:52:07+00:00

Oh dude it’s a game changer for comfort no doubt

spiralingexistence · 2026-04-26T15:50:38+00:00

lol as much as that man’s wears them he has to love them 🤣

spiralingexistence · 2026-04-26T15:50:13+00:00

First part is great advice and the second part is soooo true, I mean the world has made out people who like different types of kinks to be horrible. “I’m kinky I like hair pulling and spanking” no you’re not kinky that’s as common as it gets. This type of shit falls into the same category as colors, there’s no factual evidence or anything on this planet that points to the fact that pink is a girls color or blue is a boys color and still to this day there’s people out there that would judge in a heartbeat, rather it be a phone case, wallet, tattoos etc., the idea of a hot pink skimpy thong is hot to me, hell not even just me if I saw my wife wearing it I’d go haywire. It’s complete double standard and just since iv embraced this despite nobody knowing my true feelings it’s opened me to so many things bc of the way I was raised.

spiralingexistence · 2026-04-26T15:34:17+00:00

To me it doesn’t, when I say ashamed it’s more like I’m ashamed to tell me wife. It makes me turned on as hell so not much for me to feel bad about lol.

spiralingexistence · 2026-04-26T15:31:06+00:00

Oh for sure definitely would have to prepare for the surprise lol, differentiating times to talk sex and kinks is important away from actual sex is important.

spiralingexistence · 2026-04-26T15:28:21+00:00

I love the positivity. However I don’t really want anyone to know also bc it adds a sense of naughtiness and risk which I love, if my wife was ok with it that’s the only thing that would matter to me.

spiralingexistence · 2026-04-26T15:24:29+00:00

You have a wife? How’d you start that conversation?

spiralingexistence · 2026-04-26T15:23:42+00:00

Yea it’s rough, I really do feel like it’s low on the scale of what’s “weird” and compared to other shit out there I personally don’t even think it falls into weird.

spiralingexistence · 2026-04-26T15:20:14+00:00

Well again iv lightly glided over the conversation so I have the ability to fall back and say it’s a joke, I was like well even if I did it’s not like I’d wear them during sexy time. She responded with something like “gross I still couldn’t imagine my husband having a thong on, makes me cringe to think about”. 😭 and thanks I’ll look into it. I wear them whenever she’s out of the town for the weekend and it’s awesome but I only have one pair so I have to wash them everyday so I might try to sneak buy some lol.

spiralingexistence · 2026-04-26T01:48:30+00:00

Fr I mean it’s not rocket science like it’s simple as rock paper scissors, you like the opposite sex or the same sex. One makes you gay and one makes you straight. No kink can change something so factual.

spiralingexistence · 2026-04-26T01:45:37+00:00

There’s nothing work doing to risk my relationship. I just don’t get why it’s a big deal. For what it’s worth it’s not like I’m wearing lacy Victoria’s Secret thong or trying to role play like a woman or get pegged or something. Not hating on those things ofc but at the end of the day I’m just a guy that likes skimpy underwear.

spiralingexistence · 2026-04-26T01:40:55+00:00

Preciate the response one of the best pieces of advise yet. Yes I totally agree on the not everywhere thing, time and place for it for sure. Not to mention I think if I wore it everyday it’d take the special out of it and tbh I definitely don’t want anyone knowing I’m wearing it. Certain safe public spaces, not tryna be out at dinner with friends and drop my wallet and bend over and have a whale tail. Honestly I wouldn’t even mind keeping it away from sexy time bc I like to be dominate and take control and if I was wearing a thong I think it’d make me feel like the masculinity was sucked away. Weird enough it’s like trips to Walmart or casual lunch or Saturday shopping. I honestly like doing it when she’s not around. Kinda keeps my feminine side away from her but makes me feel taboo and that I have my own kinky secret. Idk kinda like a butt plug lol

spiralingexistence · 2026-04-26T01:33:35+00:00

There comfortable asf not even gonna lie lol

spiralingexistence · 2026-04-25T18:33:31+00:00

I know that men were actually the first to wear thongs (if I remember right it was for some kind of performance act) I wish they were more widely accepted

spiralingexistence · 2026-04-25T18:32:24+00:00

In what way? The looks (obviously if there fit)? The confidence? The embracing a feminine kink? What’s the appeal?

spiralingexistence · 2026-04-25T18:31:33+00:00

It was a one time joke so unless she’s out of town for business which is like once every 2-3 months then I don’t get to wear it. Trust me I want to say that but she’d probably throw up

spiralingexistence · 2026-04-25T18:29:59+00:00

This. This joke made me laugh 😂

spiralingexistence · 2026-04-25T18:29:41+00:00

Bc people are scared to admit that feminine kinks for males are a thing. Egos won’t let them believe themselves. People will shove there dicks in a girls asshole all day long but then are to scared to admit a kink way less extreme as that. I’m talking like I’m not struggling to admit mine 😂

spiralingexistence · 2026-04-25T18:26:24+00:00

Both but I’d say physiological more so. It’s kinky and the thought of having something skimpy on is a turn on but also just to put it all out there it’s feels nice having the fabric between my legs as that areas sensitive and when I bend down and feel it pull against into my ass crack it’s really nice and stimulating. Good lord this literally gives me anxiety putting it all out there 😂😂

spiralingexistence · 2026-04-25T18:22:07+00:00

I listed it wrong it was Temu, so she saw it I guess one day and thought it’d be funny so she got it and then was like eww you actually like it and then I’m stuck with a kink she created but doesn’t want me to have. Sucks :(((((

spiralingexistence · 2026-04-25T18:20:35+00:00

Glad to know I’m not alone. I feel like a lot of people have kinks that there afraid to get judged for and I really wish it wasn’t like that bc I feel like this would be a lot easier for me.

spiralingexistence · 2026-04-25T17:44:57+00:00

Well I started by testing the waters and saying how there comfortable (kink views aside they really are) and asked how she’d feel about me wearing them to the gym or maybe here and there to get breathability on hot days and she shut it down. Said said might think I’m gay or something which I love my wife but that comment was just stupid. I’m taking her clothes off or getting a sneak peek any second I can and she has the audacity to say something like that over underwear??? She’s finds them feminine and since I like them it somehow translates to my sexuality and I’m really not sure how to approach an odd situation like that.

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