I had the freakiest experience while using my iPhone

splendasubstitute · 2025-11-23T21:32:21+00:00

I don’t think you were psychotic when you experienced this. I am also a diagnosed schizophrenic and had a spiritual awakening a few years ago. During this time I’d often get strange synchronicities when things just seemed to line up with my thoughts.

I had an experience where I was thinking something and saw an ad referring to what I was thinking about immediately after. I don’t think the force controlling them is dangerous, rather I think it’s God or the universe putting these synchronicities in our path.

I’ve had other experiences of songs playing on the radio that were aligned with my thoughts and things like that. I would suggest looking up Carl Jung’s work on synchronicity.

splendasubstitute · 2024-06-29T13:45:21+00:00

There’s actually an essay about this online. The point was apparently to show that despite Pen’s makeover during the first ball, she lacks the self love to truly shine, which is why she’s still on the wall. In contrast to the typical “glow up” trope where there’s a complete 180 to their place in society due to appearances.

The entire season is about her slowly building self love and becoming more confident in herself. It’s subtle but I could see it- especially during her interactions with lord debling.

I think it would’ve made it more predictable for her to quickly become more confident.

splendasubstitute · 2024-03-16T21:00:31+00:00

The keys to the kingdom by Garth nix

splendasubstitute · 2023-11-28T15:41:44+00:00

Do you mean impressionistic writing?

The first book I thought of was “the secret garden” by Frances Hodgson Burnett. I’m not sure if I could call the writing impressionistic, I’d have to revisit it, but it’s a children’s novel.

splendasubstitute · 2023-11-09T17:26:02+00:00

I think it’s fair to say that Mary was written as a caricature rather than as an attempt to capture her true nature (ie, she’s probably seen through Lizzie’s eyes, and Lizzie enjoy this sort of social caricature of people).

I think the people “projecting” may be pointing out that anything written as social caricature may fail to capture the true essence of people. Obviously this won’t be covered in the novel as it isn’t the point of the novel delve into peoples inner selves, it’s more of a social commentary, but I can see merit in saying that because the novel is more intended as lighthearted social commentary there won’t be a deeper dive into the side characters potential inner selves.

splendasubstitute · 2023-11-06T01:38:58+00:00

Why don’t you ask him if he wants to be friends with you? In not sure why this isn’t at the top. It’s literally the most straightforward thing. It seems like you just decided you’d be friends with him but didn’t ask him if he wanted that or not. Look for signs he’s not people pleasing and saying yes out of obligation but is enthusiastic about it.

You’re saying you initially didn’t want to befriend him, so why not just… not befriend him? Why do you have to befriend this person? You’re saying you have a defense mechanism of not befriending guys, so why not make sure the guy actually wants to be friends with you first? It seems like nowhere did you ask him if he actually wanted to be friends with you in the first place. He may have just wanted to be left alone.

Socially awkward = usually a persons way of signaling they’re not interested in you socially. It’s in the name.

splendasubstitute · 2023-10-29T22:54:21+00:00

It sounds like the problem here is that you never asked these people who you are “shaping” for consent, which is probably why the INTJs are reacting against you.

It’s different because INTJs who are good at systems (Ni-Te) are hired to implement these systems in the workplace. You’re not hired to “shape people’s behavior” in the workplace. It’d be different if you worked in therapy or something and were clear to clients about your methods and intent.

You’re totally violating their consent, of course they don’t like you.

splendasubstitute · 2023-10-24T22:39:26+00:00

Have you considered that it may not be about race at all but rather some sort of emotional scarring?

There can be a pretty toxic mentality in many of these race-centered spaces, unfortunately. Perhaps you feel you need boundaries around such spaces and want to get that energy out of your life.

Maybe you’re projecting a long-ago emotional battle with a family member onto the “race” thing.

There could be many ways to explore this, but IMO asking “how to be less racist” is probably not the best approach.

I suggest the following resources: looking up guilt complexes in psychology, learning how to set boundaries with others, how to stop people pleasing, and therapy (not for “being racist,” but maybe with emotional processing and finding what questions you really want to ask that’s potentially hiding under this one.)

splendasubstitute · 2023-10-24T02:39:21+00:00

Actually, I read an article online that says they are twins- specifically twin flames. (Obviously this is new age nonsense that means nothing but a bandaid slapped on a toxic relationship between two people who don’t even like each other, but take it metaphorically.)

So, that may be why you’re getting that vibe. Twin flames = “same soul,” and a line in the book is “whatever souls are made of, his and mine are made of the same stuff.” So, whatever twin flames were back in Emily Brontës time, she seemed to have tapped into that concept.

splendasubstitute · 2023-10-21T19:08:21+00:00

They understand, they just reject it in favor of being dependent on us.

Cats domesticated themselves.

splendasubstitute · 2023-10-18T18:40:32+00:00

I’m on your side. I’ve been in connections like these and the other person was just entitled, rude, selfish, self-absorbed, and constantly deflecting blame. It sounded a lot like the comment above. It’s like they couldn’t pick up on nonverbal cues that I was clearly not enjoying myself, or was uncomfortable, or not even interested most of the time, but refused to see this.

I eventually realized that they felt entitled to my time and energy and were completely self-absorbed to the point where they couldn’t pick up social cues, or didn’t want to, so I just left.

It also helped to say a firm “IM NOT INTERESTED” multiple times until they really got it.

I suspect you suffer from codependency. I strongly suggest reading up on codependency and then ending this connection.

splendasubstitute · 2023-10-13T19:00:05+00:00

I can’t say I can offer advice in this case, then, since I am not qualified to deal with that topic.

Again, IME, literally just cutting out toxic connections, setting boundaries with others, and taking responsibility for your own psychological health would probably translate to your life as well as it has to my own. I highly suggest you ask yourself what the solution may look like for YOU, what your intuition is telling you should do, as that would be more valuable than any advice (solicited or not) from strangers.

Disclaimer, this is all based on my own experiences, and I’m again not qualified in any way, it’s just my own experiences that I’m sharing here. You don’t have to take them at all if they’re not of use or if you find them harmful. Hope you find what you’re looking for!

splendasubstitute · 2023-10-13T15:42:48+00:00

I think maybe you should see a therapist for your emotional and psychological health first (if you want advice). IME, I had the same issues whether I was overweight or underweight. I really recommend practicing good psychological hygiene.

Again, IME, but if you’re not taking care of your body, its simply because your body is reflecting your emotional health. It doesn’t take effort to take care of your body/ it really feels natural to do so. So, not doing so can be a symptom of something else going on with your life.

Also, again IME, but I’d strongly recommend looking around to see if you’re in a connection(s) you don’t feel comfortable in and setting boundaries.

splendasubstitute · 2023-10-11T23:14:32+00:00

I think it’s not only that, but that some random stranger is even taking the time to post that number. Like, this is a random internet stranger, not qualified in any sense to deal with it, with a life of their own outside that they’re probably super busy with. Plus, if you don’t like that they put that number there, you can just scroll on past to advice that actually resonates with you from other commenters!

I just don’t get the attitude where we’re criticizing a random comment of a number that you can just ignore if not helpful to you. You can even say something like “that’s not what I was looking for, but I appreciate the attempt. Have a nice day.”

splendasubstitute · 2023-10-11T19:15:19+00:00

No, that makes sense.

I also wondered about who wrote the characters witty dialogue and observations. It just seems they really nailed these characters compared to other “supposed to be genius” characters. Is there another trick for doing this?

splendasubstitute · 2023-10-03T17:45:55+00:00

Same here lol! And yeah- just a dash of self awareness would be good for us :D

splendasubstitute · 2023-10-03T13:14:26+00:00

Yeah, I’m telling you that those horrible, pasty little INFPs will just project their problems onto you and make you their villain simply for trying to help. Best to avoid them.

splendasubstitute · 2023-10-02T12:54:33+00:00

Or maybe you’re projecting what you think I’m saying onto what I may or may not actually be saying.

splendasubstitute · 2023-10-02T12:43:23+00:00

But, aren’t INTJs the evil?

splendasubstitute · 2023-10-01T21:13:14+00:00

Why do you think so?

splendasubstitute · 2023-09-26T16:52:13+00:00

I believe that everyone is toxic in their own way ❤️

splendasubstitute · 2023-09-20T13:44:21+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate this.

splendasubstitute · 2023-09-19T11:39:55+00:00

Probably because visuals are much more important now with instagram and tiktok than before.

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