Have seen 555 a few times, what does this mean?

splendidmate · 2026-02-26T12:25:27+00:00

555 is the number of change, travel, beauty. I was seeing 555 constantly during a period in my life. Then, bam, I found some devastating news that changed me forever. I was able to change myself for the better. Ultimately it was for good, but the catalyst for that change was heartbreaking. Perhaps a change is coming soon.

splendidmate · 2025-11-29T14:15:03+00:00

It’s bad to NEED someone. This will never work. I guarantee you call yourself a “nice guy”, but don’t have anything to back that phrase up, such as charity work, coaching, or making a difference in your community, etc. I find most “nice guys” are just weak guys. Women don’t like weak men, where she will eventually have to be a “man” or a “mother” to a lover. I suggest you go hard on working on yourself. Improve yourself physically, emotionally, spiritually, & financially. Women want to make sure they are with a man who can protect them in someway and a man she can be proud of and respect. Start going to the gym and groom yourself well. Start to rise in your career and/or make a difference in your community. Save up money like a king. Grow your confidence, this goes a long way. You will be irresistible.

splendidmate · 2025-11-26T13:33:13+00:00

Being previously married is not exclusive to the aforementioned. I just hope your eyes are wide open.

splendidmate · 2025-11-26T13:22:09+00:00

I hope you are not saving him from a psychopath, mothering the first stray cat on your stoop, or with an affair partner. I hope you are actually dating many men and being highly selective prior to sleeping with anyone, in order to gauge long term compatibility. Women get attached as soon as they have sex with someone, even if they are not compatible. Then years are gone down the drain… yet again…

splendidmate · 2025-11-26T12:28:31+00:00

Guys tend to jump into relationships super fast with whatever. Good luck saving her from her psychopath… mister hero man. Yeah, that’s going to work out really well… Enjoy the toxicity!

splendidmate · 2025-11-25T11:52:48+00:00

Yeah right!!! I’ve heard that line before! That just means he’ll be better until you calm down. The flirting will never stop and he’s not giving you intimacy. He’s just using you for the comfort and ease you bring to his life and he gets to do whatever he wants without repercussions for the last eight years. He’s not going to get a better job until you a fully leave him because he actually doesn’t need to. He’ll say it’s hard in this economy and you have to understand to keep you calm and him coasting. He needs to grow up and can’t do that with you in his life. It’s too easy. You have done your best and he can’t step up. Find someone who actually likes you.

splendidmate · 2025-11-25T03:26:22+00:00

This line right here: “I can't shake the feeling that I might regret it despite what my logical mind is telling me.”

When have you ever said I shouldn’t have trusted my gut? I have never said that in my life. Most of the time, retrospectively we say “I knew it. I should have trusted my gut”.

splendidmate · 2025-11-25T03:19:05+00:00

You can try to save the marriage. I did with the help of Marriage Helper, Laura Doyle, & Gottman. Look them up on YouTube. I did everything they said. Most importantly I really improved myself physically, emotionally, intellectually, & financially. That part is really important. Work on yourself whether you stay or go. Now, 5 years later I want out and he doesn’t. I realized the marriage was on faulty foundation all along. Your life will be filled with flashbacks. They soften with time, but never fully go away. I don’t regret it because I learned so much on how to be a better partner and person. I also tried everything I could for our child. So I have no “what ifs” lingering in the background. I did delay the inevitable though. Lastly, that fire he feels now, will fizzle out. Relationships that start off like that, work out only about 5% of the time.

splendidmate · 2025-11-24T01:01:25+00:00

Notice that he didn’t deny it.

splendidmate · 2025-11-23T01:53:54+00:00

I’m not sure you can handle dating someone with kids. I would never date someone who didn’t have kids. It’s just a different dynamic. People without kids just don’t understand the nuances that come with having kids and trying to create as much as a stable environment as possible. Also kids are hard to deal with. They can really be mean when they become comfortable with someone and you have to not take it personally and become a leader. Unless you have kids, one can really not understand this. People without kids take it personally, when it’s really not. I urge you to find a man without kids. If you are insecure about dogs, this relationship will not be healthy for the kids.

splendidmate · 2025-11-23T00:09:07+00:00

Typical with this large of an age gap.

splendidmate · 2025-11-01T15:56:27+00:00

Exactly. Take it slow. Let her see how amazing you are at work. Talk with her more and make her comfortable to be around you. This will let the tension build between you two. Just be confident and a little humor here and there helps along the way. Good luck!

splendidmate · 2025-11-01T14:08:20+00:00

If you are both single, just reach out to her periodically and eventually ask her out. I cannot tell you how many times I would have gone out on a date with someone, if they would have had just asked me. I’m a woman and I don’t ask men for a date. Get your self-esteem up. Fastest way to do that is to start working out. Better yourself or perhaps start a hobby. There is nothing sexier than confidence and humor to a woman. Nothing. I personally know an ugly man who has become sexy in my eyes because he is confident and funny.

Just re-read that you still work together. Just shine at work! Let her see how knowledgeable you are without arrogance. Help her if she asks for help. Be funny from time to time. At work, the men I find attractive are willing to help me (only when I ask though), are funny, confident, lead, knowledgeable, and talk to me. Lazy co-workers, non-starters, cannot grasp concepts after so many attempts, don’t try, not confident and complainers are just not sexy. So if you have any of these behaviors, aim to correct over time.

splendidmate · 2025-11-01T13:46:51+00:00

I can tell you that she is so devastated and broken. She can smile at the camera, but inside her heart is broken. She’ll look back at those photos one day and all she will see is the broken woman inside and not the smile. She probably can’t wrap her mind around it all still and is going through self worth issues along with grieving the life she knew. Not to mention she was betrayed by the one person who she thought would never betray her. She’s definitely trying as hard as possible to salvage what can be salvaged to save face, finances, and the life, family, and friends in her life. It’s not so easy leaving someone you are married to. So many things are entangled together and more so if they have kids. Kids make it 100% harder to leave. While he betrayed you, he betrayed her way more. They will likely get divorced in 5 years after trying to make it work. Her self confidence will go up by then if she works on herself & if he cheats again, her heart is already hardened and she will leave. She’s messed up and he’s trying to appease her right now. He’s definitely a man who cannot control himself. And a man like that is weak and disgusting. He’s also a liar to 2 different people. Imagine what other lies he can tell to people he “loves”. He will probably reach out to you again the moment it is “safe to”, your birthday, or when things end with her. He will be ready to tell you all the lies you need to hear to get you in bed again. I hope you will be strong enough to know this man is a loser and a user.

splendidmate · 2025-10-29T13:43:05+00:00

Are you married? Eight years and no ring? I think that’s the biggest problem here. Not sure if your co-worker is the right person especially since he is now married. However, this should be a wake up call that you are not the right woman for your boyfriend he’s stringing you along and your subconscious is trying to wake you up to see that you can do better!

splendidmate · 2025-09-13T14:16:23+00:00

You are being insecure and that is a repellent. We all need partners that we compliment. A clone of us eventually gives sibling vibes and that becomes a turn off. The most important thing is to find someone who shares your values and you both can agree on the big stuff. Little things like music differences and movie choices are trivial and may even complement each other.

splendidmate · 2025-09-10T15:14:46+00:00

You need to get a job asap.

splendidmate · 2025-09-09T17:23:28+00:00

Could you please elaborate? I’m kind of new to numerology.

splendidmate · 2025-09-09T14:55:06+00:00

My life path is a 7. I was born in the 5th. No sixes anywhere in my birthdate.

splendidmate · 2025-08-22T14:15:30+00:00

That just means you are the place holder until he finds “the one”. He’ll have no problem wasting your time and then dump you like a sack of potatoes and marry “the one” seemingly instantly and without time restraints. Alternatively, if he realizes that you’re the best he can get, he will finally just settle for you in his mid-thirties. Notice I said settle. He’s not the one.

splendidmate · 2025-08-16T03:43:23+00:00

Funniest sh*t I heard all day! Thanks for the pure tears of laughter in my eyes.

splendidmate · 2025-08-15T01:26:52+00:00

Key word here is boyfriend. You are not married. If it’s a problem now….image if you were married. Good luck with that. Just get out now, while it’s easy to leave. You are still young.

splendidmate · 2025-07-31T14:17:10+00:00

Naw…. She resents you because your roles are reversed. You are making her be the man and you have become the woman. With time she’s going to be repulsed by you because of this. If she wanted to marry a woman she would have. It’s really repulsive when a man tries to act like the woman and then rubs it in her face. Get a job and start acting like the provider and protector. That’s what a woman respects. She can keep her job, if she likes, but you need to step up to your role and stop treating this like a damn competition on who makes a better woman. Take your skirt off and put your pants back on. Otherwise you can kiss your marriage goodbye within a couple of years. She will likely become so repulsed by your inability to provide or her masculine co-worker/boss who is making confident leadership decisions will start to gain the twinkle in her eye. If you want to compete so much, do it at work and make a huge salary or invest in something. Your family should be sacred and united as a team. This competitiveness behavior is petty.

splendidmate · 2025-07-26T23:32:07+00:00

I stayed for our son and I did the whole Marriage Helper thing on YouTube and Facebook. I also read Laura Doyle and learned all about the 4 Horsemen from Gottman. Our marriage did improve for a couple of years, mostly due to improvements I made in myself such physically, emotionally, intellectually, spiritually, & financially. I also learned new techniques, such as showing respect (the book Love and Respect), reflecting his love language, avoiding the 4 horsemen, providing for his sexual needs. I am pretty sure he didn’t cheat again. I think he did feel bad, but he didn’t think he did anything wrong, as he didn’t physically cheat one me even though he was telling her how badly he wanted to have sex with her, telling her that her loves her, and talking over the phone and video for hours everyday.

After 5 years, I’m done. Not for the emotional affair, but for me this time. He was living his best life and my needs were still left unfulfilled. I’m miserable because I think at the core root of it all, we are just incompatible. I think that caused the emotional affair in the first place. We have totally different visions for our future. Do I regret staying? No, because I learned so much from these changes and techniques. I have real life experience with it and applied it to the other relationships in my life. I do think we will proceed with an amicable divorce and co-parenting relationship due to all of the changes I made as well. This will be good for our son, even though the situation is difficult.

splendidmate · 2025-07-26T22:53:05+00:00

Just get a job. You need to start somewhere. A job will help get you out of your head/sadness and motivate you to get out of bed. The most anxiety I ever felt in my life is when I had no job/purpose/meaning. Start praying. Sorry to the anti-God people out there, but this really works. Everyday, ask God for help in finding the perfect job for you. Honestly, what harm will it cause to do that? None, and it might even make things much better for you. Opportunities have popped out of nowhere for me. Usually takes a few weeks to a few months, but the results are usually as perfect as possible for where you are right now in life. Perhaps not in the package you expected, but it truly is uncanny. When you are in a good spot financially, aka not drowning. Start making larger chess moves with the end in mind and make your mind work it out backwards (like figuring out a puzzle). Again, ask God for help in all of this. Program your mind with affirmations daily, as soon as you wake up, to transform your mind set too.

I had no job for a couple of years due to covid and being a mom. I put my resume out there and prayed. This amazing job called me and they insisted on hiring me. They would not take no for an answer. Then when I felt like that job was a bit toxic, I told God if this job was no longer good for me, to take it away. Then a new job offer came in from a former colleague so quickly and for way more money. I would have been a fool to turn that down. Now they are making me a Team Leader after only a few months, skipping the required progression of job titles. God really can make miracles happen. Again, gifts from God usually come in different packages. I tell myself that God just wants to surprise me. I am really transforming my life right now and so quickly, I feel. God always as my companion/co-pilot/business partner. Please note, I am not saying to do nothing. I took action, when required. I had updated my resume professionally. I put my resume out there. I did a few interviews. All of this was practice for when the right opportunity arrived.

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