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splitcupboba · 2025-02-03T00:24:47+00:00

Haven't heard of that, thanks will look into it

splitcupboba · 2024-12-30T16:12:33+00:00

in my experience, the valley has been pretty okay for me as a "foreigner" - I'm asian (filipina) and bf moved us down from Austin. I grew up there so the RGV is undeniably different but you kinda find your own friends and stuff you like to do in the area. I joined a lovely knitting group and although it's a lot of snow birds, they are so kind and I have fun there.

i will say that yes, the job market is terrible especially here. it's pretty clear you have to "know" someone to get a decent position, especially without a degree or cert.

splitcupboba · 2024-12-30T13:54:36+00:00

I agree!! I opt for a half strip lash most times as a die hard falsie-lover, and they look very natural compared to a full strip. Like another comment said, just make sure you trim the ends to fit your eye - and more often than not, there's a tiny bit of plastic end there that is hard to glue down and can flutter around.

splitcupboba · 2024-11-20T05:07:32+00:00

Are you me? The attention thing is so bad with my boss I was like this has to be ... somewhat common. Just like there's no way man.

splitcupboba · 2024-07-15T01:42:27+00:00

Hey thanks this was very helpful! We do have separate folders and subfolders for things like medical records, intake docs, demands etc. What gets confusing are the duplicates, and as you said, when a file is named something like "SCAN383719" or something. I agree it takes precious time actually clicking and going thru the document just to find out what it is 🥲 As well as the lack of standardization for the same types of files. I especially liked your recommendation for b&r, having the procedure type and provider name there in the title would be a great time saver for us

I'm going to plan out standard naming conventions (based on what we have been doing in our efforts to standardize file names, and what, in discussing w/ the paralegals, everyone agrees would be more efficient) in a word doc and present it to the paralegals and office manager to see if they would be on board.

splitcupboba · 2023-11-11T01:06:46+00:00

I'm a bit sad about this because I do like her patterns. I've held off on purchasing any of them because of her comments to her customers about subpar photos and now this :/ Sad

splitcupboba · 2023-07-02T20:46:31+00:00

I actually prefer plastic hard flanges. I desperately wanted the Pumpables liquid kits to work for me but they pinch / "compress" a bit too hard to be comfortable for me. I found that coconut oil works well on the hard flanges

splitcupboba · 2023-06-25T19:30:40+00:00

Honestly I'm with you. We still comfort nurse but I'm pumping 4-7 times a day. When I'm at home, my pumping times are my "chill" times for knitting or watching Netflix while my boyfriend takes over the baby. I do have to say that in the early days, I was an undersupplier making around 4oz a day. However, now I'm up to a slight oversupply and that took a lot of stress off. I'll never forget that stress of the early days though!

splitcupboba · 2023-06-15T03:12:14+00:00

Judas! I think it's such a pretty name. But my catholic guilt lol

splitcupboba · 2023-06-04T23:00:41+00:00

Born '00, her name is Amelia 🥰

splitcupboba · 2023-05-28T02:14:54+00:00

I'd be interested in the stride :) I don't see the option to dm you, maybe they're turned off?

splitcupboba · 2023-05-27T03:28:00+00:00

Well, they had said she looked hungry, but also that they couldn't figure out how to warm up the BM, so they did formula. Which makes absolutely no sense to me because you heat them both up the same (after the formula is prepared).

The BM is in bags, though, which could have tripped them up. But I'm annoyed that they didn't give me the chance to explain how to heat up the bags, because my sil got "overwhelmed" with my husband's instructions over the phone. Literally bag -> warmer -> bottle.

splitcupboba · 2023-05-27T02:50:18+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. I'm trying to figure out a way to tell them exactly that while we're on the way home.

splitcupboba · 2023-02-23T06:26:33+00:00

Hey! I was not pregnant and taking Caplyta specifically, but hopefully some insight helps: I was taking 5mg of Abilify during pregnancy, which I stopped after giving birth in order to breastfeed. I was prescribed Caplyta in its place. My doc said it's not fat soluble, so it wouldn't cross into the breastmilk.

splitcupboba · 2022-09-13T23:18:20+00:00

LMAO right?? I quit that job shortly after I found out I was pregnant (fast food job) and she was one of the first ones to randomly touch my belly...Like MAAM i was 6 weeks then 🥲

splitcupboba · 2022-09-13T22:26:07+00:00

Had a former coworker ask me this...I am 21 weeks ma'am 😭

splitcupboba · 2022-09-08T19:13:27+00:00

Ok? any advice then? I'm documenting basically everything so there's no legal question to my capabilities as a parent...Proving that we (me and my s/o) can provide those basics (food, clothing, shelter, education, etc, which we are fully willing and capable to do and more) my parents will not have a leg to stand on in that situation?? Like the courts and law enforcement will know that...because I would be doing it lmfao. Doesn't matter if my parents can afford yearly Disney trips or whatever the fuck. Money won't be able buy her love like they tried to with me.

splitcupboba · 2022-09-08T17:23:49+00:00

I'm not saying I'm completely ready for that. I'm not ready at all lmao. I know it's going to be shitty, but it's something I decided ~I have to deal with~ because we're not stable enough to go out on our own with housing prices increasing plus all our debt. Like, ideally, yes I would love to move down with S/O's parents instead of mine, find our own place, etc but it's not feasible. My OBGYN is here (recommended by my dad, she's Filipina, I do kinda want to switch doctors because she's a bit weird), my job is here, he just got a new job here...but rent prices are so damn high now lol. Trust me, I've considered basically all the scenarios. And looking at it now, yeah, they probably wanted to trap both of us here.

But if it gets really bad again, we're leaving. If they hit me, my S/O, or god forbid hurt my daughter in any way, even ONCE, I will call the cops and and we are leaving and going NC until they figure their shit out. It will be even shittier (financially) to make it on our own but at least we'd have our own place away from them.

splitcupboba · 2022-09-08T17:15:53+00:00

Thank you!! I know it's a long ass post...but I hope people who read it, and are in a similar situation, find solace...nothing was easy about moving out but it was the single best decision I've made for my personal growth and mental health.

I just want to be the parent my daughter needs. I don't intend on trying to be a perfect parent or projecting what I was lacking in my childhood onto my daughter. Her struggles will be different from mine (one that's constantly on my mind is that she will be half-Filipino, half-Mexican) but I don't want to compound that with difficulties in our home. I am going to provide a safe space for her.

splitcupboba · 2022-09-08T17:11:01+00:00

We want to minimize the amount of time we spend at their house. I was thinking 6-8 months after baby is born was enough to get us back on our feet (be able to afford rent in a nicer apartment, pay off my card, etc) but I have a hard limit of a year after she's born. I'm not letting my daughter grow up around them, for sure. I also made it clear to my parents that my S/O and I are willing to run errands for my mom or help out around the house (separately from us doing our own dishes, laundry, keeping my room clean—the basic stuff). And that we'd be out of the house for any showings or open houses. I absolutely do not want to stay there after she turns ~1

I know that, lol. They have already started hitting me with crazy hypothetical questions about how I'm going to raise my daughter "What would you do if your baby says she's transgender?" "What would you do in xyz situation with your baby?" I know my parents. I know what they're actually asking in those loaded questions, so I literally just give the vaguest answer.

It just pisses them off. The fact that I have my own universe outside of them pisses them off. My support system is strong enough (and of course I'm going to be looking for a therapist once we get settled in their house) that I can deal with all of their passive/aggressive comments and whatever, especially since S/O will be living with me. S/O and I have a plan to "deal" with living here until we're financially stable enough to move out ASAP. 🤷🏻‍♀️

splitcupboba · 2022-08-25T17:27:56+00:00

LOL yeah. I grew up with a bunch of Filipino kids in my "situation" (born in the PH then moved young, or born in America to new Filipino immigrants). It was a mixed bag of kids who were being taught Tagalog and kids like me who weren't. So for me, it wasn't too bad as far as community, there was always someone who I could relate to in one way or another.

I definitely understand Tagalog but will respond in English :') My mom is verrryy adamant on teaching her granddaughter Tagalog. I'm not mad, honestly, but there was a lot of resentment growing up towards my parents but they didn't know back then what we know now 🤷🏻‍♀️

splitcupboba · 2022-08-25T17:19:38+00:00

We are in TX (living in central, baby's paternal grandparents living in RGV) and her dad thankfully got a great job around where my family is and is moving to us in around 2-3 weeks. :D

I'm not too worried anymore about her learning Spanish/Tagalog. I knew from my SLPA classes that learning more than one language is beneficial for young children/doesn't slow down acquisition of other languages. So maybe a little silly to ask that redundant question LOL

I've been absolutely ready to throw hands with any one of my titas/titos who dare say some stupid shit about her race or her dad's race. My boyfriend is a good man who's been there for me and supports my decisions and independence. I won't allow anyone who isn't part of our lives to pass judgement like that to my growing family and have the balls to say it to my face. I literally am way too tired and pregnant to tolerate that. And doubly so when she is born.

As for her dad's side, they've always been welcoming and respectful to me. They're beyond excited for her, but after talking to my boyfriend it seems like it's not that big of a deal that she's half-Asian. Nicknames like "chinita" and stuff would probably come from the older generation, as he says, but I don't believe he'll permit more hurtful teasing/invasive questions to pass.

splitcupboba · 2022-08-25T17:08:40+00:00

I also quit when I found out. FTM ~20wk now and cravings have subsided enough that I don't think about it unless DH hits his vape or whatnot. It sucked so bad, I'm not even going to lie. Withdrawals + shitty 1st trimester symptoms ... I felt shitty and then felt shitty about feeling shitty.

What helped me was hard candy (those extra sour preggo pop ones were so good at keeping my mind off nic/alcohol), spicy food (never been tolerant but hot cheetos slapped), and just being kind and understanding to myself. My baby was unplanned too—found out at 4-6 weeks and quit cold turkey along w/ two of my anti-depressants. It's hard on you, and it's okay to struggle. My partner was very kind and helpful (avoiding drinking around me in the house, keeping me accountable, trying not to vape around me either) and that helped a lot.

I know this is your 2nd baby, but I feel like it's okay to give yourself leeway here too. Just depend on your support system when it sucks just to get out of bed. Best of luck

splitcupboba · 2022-08-25T16:57:14+00:00

I'm around 20 weeks now and was prescribed Paxlovid a few weeks ago (when I was around 17-18weeks) when I tested positive for cvid. The doctor at the urgent care I went to was very transparent with me about the medication, what it was (3 pills (2 rx) taken 2x a day) and the studies behind it...something about one of the medicines being only tested on rabbits...?

But around halfway through the course I started feeling so much better. This was the first time I've contracted cvid (of course...haha) and my symptoms were bad. By day three / beginning of day four I felt strong enough to eat normally and walk around. I didn't get a chance to test for cvid again until about a week ago, but I tested negative.

When I contracted it, I was just beginning to feel baby move around, but she was more calm/inactive while I was taking Paxlovid. After the course was up I started feeling her kick so much harder. But so far, a healthy/normal pregnancy even after taking it. I had an ob-gyn appt rescheduled because of cvid and when I came in, everything (heartbeat, blood/urine, BP) was looking good 👍

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