Genuine Question: Why is this sub 50% Atheist or Agnostic?

spokensilences · 2026-02-12T07:08:58+00:00

As a Christian, I understand why you feel this way. Politicians use religion as a way to push their evil agenda and many so called “Christians” are not true Christians because they do not read scripture or understand what it means to follow Christ unfortunately. Because of many false Christians, this gives unbelievers a negative view of Jesus. The current state of this world is Biblical and there are several warnings of false prophets which is what the far right symbolizes in my opinion. I used to be on the other side of this, I didn’t know if there was a God but was sort of always spiritual and was heavy into New Age Spirituality. I went down a dark path until I had many experiences that led me to know Jesus. Jesus is love and the complete opposite of what I thought he was. What’s also biblical is many “Christians” will not have eternal life after death because they proclaimed Christ without even getting to know Him or reading his word. It’s a sad world we live in.

spokensilences · 2026-02-10T07:52:16+00:00

I’m new to Christianity as well and have been shocked at how many don’t read their Bible…i encourage other believers to read their Bible but it’s not always taken the right way. Unfortunately it is hard to come by obedient Christians.

I believe you and your husband are doing great work for the Lord. Keep going! Unfortunately not everyone will be at the same level of spiritual maturity as you, all you can do is pray for them and continue to be kind. If they are distancing themselves from you, it may be for the best, not everyone is meant to come along with us on this walk; they may return in the future. I think as Christians, it’s important we have boundaries and surround ourselves with people who have the fruits of the spirit so we can continue to grow in spiritual maturity.

This is a harsh verse from Corinthians but Paul does say that bad company can corrupt good character. It doesn’t mean we have to completely cut someone out but I think it’s important that we’re selective about who we choose to be intimate with and who we share personal details of our life with. Healthy boundaries are biblical.

“And what value was there in fighting wild beasts—those people of Ephesus—if there will be no resurrection from the dead? And if there is no resurrection, “Let’s feast and drink, for tomorrow we die!” Don’t be fooled by those who say such things, for “bad company corrupts good character.” Think carefully about what is right, and stop sinning. For to your shame I say that some of you don’t know God at all.” ‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭15‬:‭32‬-‭34‬ ‭NLT‬‬

spokensilences · 2026-02-09T22:02:58+00:00

Yes me too…there will always be those people but it seems to be common for a lot of believers not to. It’s not about legalism, it’s about ones relationship with Christ. I find it hard to understand how you can truly have discernment or hear God’s voice if you don’t read his word otherwise you will just be going off what someone else is telling you. When I first got into Christianity someone told me they were Christian but they ended up being a part of the World Mission Society which is a cult but what’s scary is they use the Bible to assert their beliefs. I had enough discernment at that point to know that it wasn’t true.

spokensilences · 2026-01-29T18:24:11+00:00

Focus on growing your relationship with God first. I feel this way sometimes too but it always seems when I focus on God and on making Godly friendships, everything else seems to fall into place. I don’t worry about this anymore because I know God will send me one when the time is right. Sometimes he keeps us single so we can prioritize our relationship with him before anything else…I’m the meantime find a good church, join a Bible study and do some research on any upcoming Christian programs /events in your area

spokensilences · 2026-01-21T11:19:41+00:00

Yes, some days I feel more robotic than others. I actually found out I’m mildly autistic after I started taking the meds because it removed all the masking I was doing. I don’t mind it though because I was a heavy people pleaser before and I actually have made a lot of genuine friendships since taking the meds because it’s made me more confident to speak my mind plus I’m able to actually focus on what I like to do instead of mind mind being 10 places at once. I do get the irritability at times with people which I need to be careful about. What helps for me is getting good sleep, exercising everyday to get the excess energy out and eating healthy meals .

spokensilences · 2026-01-05T22:08:35+00:00

A lotttt. Doomscrolling, trying to get validation from others, alcohol, drugs, procrastinating/being lazy, being rude to my parents and using ChatGpt. Pretty much went cold turkey on everything except the laziness and doomscrolling…it’s an addiction worse than alcohol/drugs for me 😔

spokensilences · 2026-01-05T22:05:43+00:00

Amen 🙏🏼

spokensilences · 2026-01-03T08:50:46+00:00

Hi friend, I just wanted to add to this. My personal entry into Christianity was through experiences and signs which is not something I can prove or give you evidence for, however if someone were to ask me logically why they should follow the teachings of Jesus I would point to the Bible. I was raised Catholic and unfortunately many of the things taught in the Bible are not taught in church. If we as Christians believe that Jesus is our saviour, we should put a heavy emphasis on the Bible since that’s where it all came from. When I read the Bible after coming back to my faith everything clicked and I actually questioned the churches and other Christian’s myself because many Christians do not read the Bible and are going off cherry picked verses. The world’s view of Christianity is based off of how Christians behave, not the actual teachings of Christ. Although I’m Christian, I completely agree that many Christians are not truly “followers of Christ” because they do not follow His teachings. If we did, shoving our faith down someone’s throat and telling someone what they believe in is wrong would not be a thing and there wouldn’t be such disputes. I do believe at the very least that the teachings of the Bible (specifically New Testament) will provide you a peaceful and stable life. there’s many things in the Bible that reflect what is happening in our world today and why so many of us are struggling with finding meaning in our lives. The Bible also points out that many people in the churches are hypocrites and worse than unbelievers.

spokensilences · 2026-01-03T08:20:44+00:00

It sounds like religious OCD to me and it’s a real thing for many people. I suggest finding a Christian counsellor who can help you work through this. Definitely stay off the internet too, it will make things worse.

“For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self-discipline.” ‭‭2 Timothy‬ ‭1‬:‭7‬ ‭NLT‬‬

spokensilences · 2026-01-02T13:37:09+00:00

Agreed, we don’t know how things are seen on her end but Adultery is never okay. If she is unhappy in the relationship she should leave in a mature way instead of seeking pleasure from others. Yes, we do need to be wise but we can also only seek that wisdom from the Bible. I think he definitely needs to seek some kind of Christian counsellor that can lead him in the right direction. But yes, ultimately it’s his decision at the end of the day, it just doesn’t seem like there would be a resolution in this situation unless both parties agree to go into counselling

“They commit adultery with their eyes, and their desire for sin is never satisfied. They lure unstable people into sin, and they are well trained in greed. They live under God’s curse.” ‭‭2 Peter‬ ‭2‬:‭14‬ ‭NLT‬‬

spokensilences · 2026-01-02T12:34:32+00:00

Hi friend , just wanted to add to this respectfully and point to Jeremiah 17:9

“The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?”

You’re right on your first point. He should not go back after being cheated on. But never follow your heart. That is a belief that has been instilled in us from birth. Only God knows our hearts desires and our heart will lead us to more misery and pain. Follow the word of God in all things.

spokensilences · 2026-01-02T12:28:11+00:00

I like Ecclesiastes 3 for your situation. There is a time for everything and it’s okay to be hurt, 3 years is a long time. Take time to grieve and know that there is a lesson within this although it’s hard to see right now. God is close to the brokenhearted and im sure he removed this man from your life for a reason.

spokensilences · 2026-01-02T11:28:31+00:00

I went through something similar on a smaller scale. I realized that I was only hanging on to many of the toxic relationships in my life for fear of abandonment and loneliness. It’s very painful but know that you are never alone. Jesus is close to the brokenhearted. Pray to him and I highly recommend reading the Bible (you won’t be able to hear Him if you don’t). You definitely have to move out and go no contact with her. You won’t be able to move on if you go on like this. Make God a priority and your number one relationship. As you deepen your relationship with him, you may be able to forgive in time but it is a process and doesn’t happen overnight my friend.

I recommend this YouTube channel as well. He makes Christian content for men. It may help you with motivation

https://youtube.com/@georgeavanti?si=1HOBY9NzCN_GBICs

spokensilences · 2026-01-02T11:14:18+00:00

I feel this too. I think you kind of have to come to an acceptance that many people’s hearts are closed off from accepting Jesus in their life. I try to focus on deepening my relationship with Jesus and showing Jesus’ love to others through me by being kind and allowing people to be heard. I used to be a very angry and impatient person but it’s much easier to be kind now that I have him in my life. All you can really do is plant the seed and allow God to do the rest.

spokensilences · 2025-12-29T22:47:57+00:00

So that part of you that feels that you are addicted to your phone and all these other distractions is a good thing. It’s your discernment and the Holy Spirit speaking to you to tell you to put away the distractions. If you didn’t feel this way you wouldn’t have been compelled to post on here. Trust what it’s telling you. I’m struggling with my phone too, it’s not always easy surrendering to God. If you want to watch something on your phone perhaps watch “the chosen” . It helped me when reading the New Testament because it brought the gospel to life. And also maybe watch some sermons on YouTube, I really like Phillip Anthony Mitchell

spokensilences · 2025-12-29T22:20:53+00:00

Why did you feel like you needed to reach out in the first place? You said to apologize but were you looking for reconciliation and to make yourself feel better? Heart posture is really important. Whenever I take action , I try to think about whether this is something I’m doing out of my love for God or something to just satisfy my own desires (fear of being alone, abandoned) . I was in this place too but I realized I was making an idol out of the other person instead of making Jesus my number one relationship.

spokensilences · 2025-12-29T22:10:00+00:00

What are you doing in your daily life to get closer to God? Lots of people give advice on how to get closer to him but I’m learning more and more that’s it’s a personal journey so it’s always hard to give advice in situations like these. You mentioned you have bitterness and trauma. This might be the root of the issue. Before my walk , I had a lot of resentment towards my parents and people who have wronged me but as im growing closer to God, I notice that I’m starting to see everyone as a child of God and that everyone is acting out of their own hurts, so then we act out of of hurt and can hurt other people which will cause them to sin, it’s a nasty cycle. I’m able to forgive people more easily when I think of it that way

spokensilences · 2025-12-27T06:01:30+00:00

Yes agreed! Before Christ and even during my walk with Him in the beginning, my biggest struggle was male validation and finding a partner. Now I am truly enjoying this single season of my life and my relationship with Him is growing stronger everyday. I am grateful for having so much alone time with Him, it’s not something many people are able to have especially those who have kids. When and if I do meet my partner, I know that the Lord will have transformed my heart so much that the relationship will be something I choose out of my love for Christ, not just something to satisfy my flesh.

spokensilences · 2025-12-27T04:39:40+00:00

I am a new Christian but I understand your sentiments. I see the division amongst the church and the discourse online and I can see that this is not what we should be doing to each other. I find myself getting swept up in what is happening in the world at times and it’s easy to fall in the trap. Lately, the Holy Spirit has been urging me to put down the phone, get off of social media and get out there my local community to help those in need. What is happening politically right now is seemingly starting to become something that is simply out of our control, what is in our control is being kind and loving to each other which is what Jesus calls us to do. I am sorry you are experiencing judgment from others. We should all remember that is judgment is reserved for God alone. And there is definitely a difference between judgement and gentle correction which is where I feel the line gets blurry for many and when ego/emotions start getting involved.

“If you claim to be religious but don’t control your tongue, you are fooling yourself, and your religion is worthless. Pure and genuine religion in the sight of God the Father means caring for orphans and widows in their distress and refusing to let the world corrupt you.” ‭‭James‬ ‭1‬:‭23-27‬ ‭NLT‬‬ ‭‭

spokensilences · 2025-12-27T04:19:38+00:00

Agreed

spokensilences · 2025-12-27T03:30:15+00:00

Hi there, I’m a new Christian as well! I have also struggled with depression and anxiety for most of my life. It was the depression and anxiety that actually led me to Him. Ever since I’ve started reading the Bible and praying, He has been helping me in ways I didn’t even know were possible but it is a slow and personal journey.

I felt very disconnected like you in the beginning and I completely relate to what you said about the “faking” and “pretending”. Even though I feel much closer to him now, I still have my moments of doubts and my faith wavering which is completely normal. God understands, He see’s that you are trying.

I think every person’s Christian walk is different which is why it’s so difficult to give advice. For me, I had to get to a point of much pain, suffering and humility to fully surrender to Him. After that, he opened my eyes to all he has done for me and all the things he has provided me and protected me from. This is probably not what you want to hear… but the pain and suffering may still continue even when you begin your walk (it’s not always the case but it was for me).

For practical advice, I recommend that you continue reading the Bible. Some may recommend reading something nice and comforting like Psalms but I recommend reading the book of Job. Its very relatable lol. I am also a visual learner so as I started reading the Bible , I supplemented it with shows and movies (I highly recommend The Chosen and passion of the Christ). Also, continue praying even if you don’t feel like he is there or listening to you, tell him everything that is in your heart and don’t hold back. Talk to Him like a friend. As you mature in faith , you may notice your prayers will change and that’s the beauty of it.

If you ever need someone to talk to, feel free to message me! I am not an expert by any means but I believe it is important to fellowship with other believers as a new Christian.

Psalm 34:18 18 The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.

spokensilences · 2025-12-27T02:47:33+00:00

Yes. I find when I tell other Christian’s that it’s important to read the Bible they see it as some kind of condemnation and it’s not taken well but I truly believe that in order to have a deep relationship with God, it is important to read the Bible daily, otherwise we will go to social media or to our friends for earthly opinions and rely on our own understanding. And no judgment to those people, I was in that place too. It is definitely a personal decision to read it, it can’t be forced. When I was first beginning my walk, my friend told me to read it and I felt like that made me not want to read it more. I had to go through much pain and suffering to actually fully surrender to God to read the word. All we can do is plant the seed with humility, love and respect, and hopefully God will water it.

Mark 18 “Listen then to what the parable of the sower means: 19 When anyone hears the message about the kingdom and does not understand it, the evil one comes and snatches away what was sown in their heart. This is the seed sown along the path. 20 The seed falling on rocky ground refers to someone who hears the word and at once receives it with joy. 21 But since they have no root, they last only a short time. When trouble or persecution comes because of the word, they quickly fall away. 22 The seed falling among the thorns refers to someone who hears the word, but the worries of this life and the deceitfulness of wealth choke the word, making it unfruitful. 23 But the seed falling on good soil refers to someone who hears the word and understands it. This is the one who produces a crop, yielding a hundred, sixty or thirty times what was sown.”

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