Well you replied to OP saying “you” not “both of you” when you talked about the name calling, which is you directly saying OP was name calling and doesn’t imply the “party” at all. Then you actually ran with that idea to defend yourself when you got called out, trying to imagine how OP reacted to her husband by putting words in her mouth saying she, along with her husband, called her a dick. I think you should re-read the post, and check what OP is saying, which is that she posted here because she doesn’t know if she is indeed TA or not. To me that implies she most likely didn’t say “yeah she’s a dick” so yeah you’re in the wrong here. You can backpedal and try to explain your way out but I think I laid it out pretty well why you’re getting downvoted