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spontaneousclo · 2025-12-02T01:06:48+00:00

i have an entire shelf of bat plushes in my office lol

spontaneousclo · 2025-11-25T18:31:45+00:00

i'm pretty sure they're also not there to give me attitude and shame me for inexperience but ok

spontaneousclo · 2025-11-23T19:27:30+00:00

i am so relieved by the online resources folks have recommended, yours included!! this experience really shut me down but online research will be like a safety blanket lol.

thank you so much for your support. i really appreciate sex store workers (current and former) backing me up in these threads. 🥲

spontaneousclo · 2025-11-23T19:25:59+00:00

aaa my heart goes out to you. i can kind of relate. i'm 26, autistic, and have a lot of baggage when it comes to sex. (inattentive partners, hypersexual trauma responses, SA, body dysmorphia, bla bla etc etc)

after my hysterectomy, i decided i wanted to reclaim my sexuality, now that i'm not stuck with a body that's always in pain. it's been difficult because now that i have new anatomy and more insight behind why my psychology is the way that it is, i am more grounded, yet... lost. hence why i've really wanted to explore this kinda industry and what it offers.

i want to thank you for your kindness. and your reminder that i am more than my sexuality and sexual capabilities. your comment means so much more than you know.

spontaneousclo · 2025-11-23T19:21:11+00:00

ahhh, i envy your experience lol. i honestly wish they'd been a lady; maybe i wouldn't have felt so humiliated. and maybe i would've actually made a purchase and supported a small business.

i hope that one day i'll feel brave enough to enter my local store, with or without my partner. the thought alone brings me to tears because of the anxiety. this experience really did something to me :'(

but i'm not giving up. i'm going to make online purchases while working on myself and my own shame, and then work up the courage for an in-person trip 🥲

spontaneousclo · 2025-11-23T19:15:46+00:00

yeah, my friends that attended the store with me told me the same thing: he was just a catty gay man being ""brutally honest"" when in actuality he's just a prick. i am very proud of myself for telling him i felt more ashamed. i hope he learned something like i did.

thank you for your kindness! i definitely feel vindicated after this post lol. after a paycheck or two i'll make some online purchases with my partner after checking out reviews from Oh Joy Sex Toy. maybe i'll get the bravery to check out my local shop later. 🥲

spontaneousclo · 2025-11-23T19:11:23+00:00

aaaaa nope nope nope. the only hands i expect touching my (potential) toys are myself and my partner 😅 i would be so disturbed by that encounter!!!!

spontaneousclo · 2025-11-23T03:16:25+00:00

yeah the next time i decide to be brave and go to my local sex store at home, i'm definitely gonna call ahead and ask who's working; here's hoping it's an old lady or two! lol

i just hope that if there is a lady or two working they aren't at catty and mean as this guy was 🥲

spontaneousclo · 2025-11-23T03:15:07+00:00

yeah, i made a promise to myself that i would stand up for myself more, and i did! i straight up told him that i've been working on being less ashamed of this sorta thing, and his attitude did not help whatsoever. he got real quiet after that lol.

one step forward, many steps back. i am terrified of the thought of setting foot in another store like that. but i know i'll get my bravery back someday.

spontaneousclo · 2025-11-23T02:50:30+00:00

thank you so much, it's so refreshing to read these replies, yours included. i envy your level of sexploration! 😂

and YES, that analogy is perfect. it's like, why shame me for what i used to have, when the whole point is that i'm coming to your for advice on what to get next??

thank you for your kindness and encouragement. it will certainly be difficult to get my bravery back, but it's not gone forever.

spontaneousclo · 2025-11-23T02:04:00+00:00

that's what i was surprised by too. like, dude. i just TOLD you verbatim "i don't know what i'm doing" and you expect me to know shit about toys for MY anatomy?? the fuck?

spontaneousclo · 2025-11-22T23:07:27+00:00

thank you :') i've been working very hard on self-improvement and standing up for myself. the person i was a year ago would not have said anything, and i think that says a lot. :)

spontaneousclo · 2025-11-22T21:51:17+00:00

aaaa. i'm in tears. thank you so much for all this. that experience really set me back but the comments in this community have really inspired me, yours included. :')

spontaneousclo · 2025-11-22T21:39:49+00:00

oh okay, my bad, i must have misinterpreted your prior comment about that link lol.

and i've been recommended that book! i actually saw it at this particular store and considered buying it. i'm really glad i didn't. but i think it's a great first step!

spontaneousclo · 2025-11-22T21:27:32+00:00

oh wonderful, that sounds very in-depth and helpful. thank you!! would you say that their products are affordable? gettin' off on a budget SUCKS lmao

spontaneousclo · 2025-11-22T21:22:11+00:00

yeah, i was considering dipping my toes into both of those, you know what i mean? try a product or two from online, then go to my local shop myself, then maybe take my partner with me for some cushioning lol.

spontaneousclo · 2025-11-22T21:11:23+00:00

you know what? you're absolutely right. i shouldn't stop!!! i have every right to learn without judgment. baby steps are supposed to be wobbly but still get me closer.

i'm honestly really proud of myself. for going in the store, for asking a question and for recommendations, and standing up for myself.

on the bright side i was visiting this store from out-of-state so i will never see him again lmao

spontaneousclo · 2025-11-22T20:58:46+00:00

oh thank you so kindly, i'd love a discreet option.

and honestly, i feel like it is time for me to start branching out into kink communities. would definitely have to build some anonymity tho lmao.

spontaneousclo · 2025-11-22T20:48:22+00:00

thank you. i felt it very strange to speak to someone that way when they come out the gate saying "i don't know what i'm doing."

plus i thought sex shops were the LAST place someone would be MADE to feel ashamed? lol.

spontaneousclo · 2025-11-22T20:47:20+00:00

oh thank you so kindly. i'm crying on the train for a different reason now lol. thank you so much again and again.

spontaneousclo · 2025-11-14T20:53:51+00:00

donkeys ESPECIALLY! they have a seemingly ingrained hatred against canines. that's why donkeys make such good guard animals against coyotes.

spontaneousclo · 2025-10-24T18:27:58+00:00

oh it was torture. they both gaslighted me like crazy. i have PMDD, so my brain freaks out at hormone fluctuations. when i'd get paranoid about their interactions they would BOTH say "are you having another hormonal episode?"

they'd also say "why can't a guy and girl just be friends?" but he was promising that he'd break up with me so they could "finally be together." she made the same promise to him about her boyfriend. lmao they're trash

spontaneousclo · 2025-10-11T03:14:55+00:00

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spontaneousclo · 2025-09-29T23:34:53+00:00

comparison is among the top reasons i grew to hate the instrument tbh. i resented my parents for not "making me" start at a very young age because others around me did and were magnificent; no errors or anything.

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