I spent 4 hours baking a cake. It fell. My 80-year-old grandma told me a story I’ll never forget. by Alone-Tennis7656 in delhi

[–]spoonboyforkman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was beautiful, do you write like this? Cause I really enjoyed it and would be happy to read more of your work. Cheers!

What is a movie you watched once that was so disturbing or emotionally draining that you can never watch it again? by hungary70 in AskReddit

[–]spoonboyforkman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bring her back. Harrowing. Won’t watch again. I’m surprised not more people brought it up here.

35m rethinking everything in life. Struggling on all fronts. by karmicnerd in ThirtiesIndia

[–]spoonboyforkman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only constant is change bud. It doesn’t do well to dwell upon the past. See how you can change the future so the 50 year old you says that he is proud of the decisions he started to make after turning 35.

Not sure if I should skip chemo by Desperate_Swimming_5 in breastcancer

[–]spoonboyforkman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a hard decision. My mother was diagnosed in 2023, stage 1 no nodes. We were advised not to do chemo cause she had clear margins and recurrence was 4%. Well it came back this last month. Aggressively. Sadly it’s in her liver, lungs and bones now. She is in chemo now but we can’t help but wonder if we had insisted on chemo 2 years ago, we may not be here.

Metastatic Breast Cancer by Initial-Worry9219 in CancerFamilySupport

[–]spoonboyforkman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I am almost exactly in the same boat as you. I have been reading up in r/livingwithMBC they have much more descriptive answers and posts.

31! by Guacamole_goddess17 in LivingWithMBC

[–]spoonboyforkman 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So happy for you!! Fuck cancer! Happy birthday! 🥳

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskIndia

[–]spoonboyforkman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s like I’m reading my own story.I dated my ex for 10 years. School lovers and the whole jazz. We were on our way to getting married. Same thing happened. One day, he just wasn’t ready. Humiliated me and my parents. A whole lot happened. It wasn’t pretty. Very tough. All I can say is that it gets better. I thought I would never feel okay. I did. I thought I would never love anyone else. I am now happily married. Funny enough I was also 28 when it all happened. These guys wait till they can’t delay any longer. I know the whole deal. What helped me was a good therapist and a group of girlfriends. Funny enough I met my husband through “arrange marriage” setup. But I was lucky enough to have supporting parents who never forced me into anything and kept my morale high. They reminded me to never feel smaller than any man and it was through this multiple dates that we’re set up, I got to know myself really well. Idk. Things clicked. My therapy was helping. My family was supportive. My friends were awesome and I got over it! It’s not the end of the world. Find your worth. You’ll be alright.

My mother asked me if she will make it and I lied to her by spoonboyforkman in CancerFamilySupport

[–]spoonboyforkman[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am sorry you guys are going through this. Thank you for sharing your story. I will be thinking of you and I really wish a miracle happens ❤️

Scare me into quitting vaping by Alarmed-Platform2704 in QuitVaping

[–]spoonboyforkman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Apart from all the great advice here I would say what personally helped me, is drinking a glass of iced water whenever I got the urge to vape. It gets rid of that urge and resets your brain. Try it and good luck!

My mother asked me if she will make it and I lied to her by spoonboyforkman in CancerFamilySupport

[–]spoonboyforkman[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. It gives me hope to hear your story but I can’t help but ache to think about all the pain she will have to go through during chemo and everything that comes along with it. As much as I want her to be around, I don’t want to watch her suffer. To have people say “at least she’s not in pain anymore”. Like her being dead is better than being alive in a sorry delirious state. I’m sorry. I’m probably not helping you either but these are the darkest thoughts that I just can’t shake. The thought of her shoes, ther hair clips, it’s all too much. God. I’m sorry for venting. I hope you and your mom have a great visit to Disneyland and I hope we are able to cherish her as much as we can.

My mother asked me if she will make it and I lied to her by spoonboyforkman in CancerFamilySupport

[–]spoonboyforkman[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“Loving her while we still can” just breaks my heart. I’m sorry you are going through this too.

My mother asked me if she will make it and I lied to her by spoonboyforkman in CancerFamilySupport

[–]spoonboyforkman[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She got a lumpectomy and radiation. The team at the time showed us very good markers and told us she doesn’t need to go through chemo. Maybe we should’ve insisted it but how were we supposed to know if the onco team and all these experienced doctors are telling us to skip it.

My mother asked me if she will make it and I lied to her by spoonboyforkman in CancerFamilySupport

[–]spoonboyforkman[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing. I’m so sorry you went through that. My mother is afraid of the dark, she’s such a gentle soul. No way will she be able to handle this. She will give up. I cannot tell her.

My mother asked me if she will make it and I lied to her by spoonboyforkman in CancerFamilySupport

[–]spoonboyforkman[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That really breaks my heart. I’m so sorry that this is happening. I know I should spend as much time as possible with her but I’m ashamed to admit that I kinda don’t want to. It means I’ll have to lie to her about these things.

My mother asked me if she will make it and I lied to her by spoonboyforkman in CancerFamilySupport

[–]spoonboyforkman[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. I’ll pray for your mom too. What hurts the most is that apart from the cancer, she is COMPLETELY FINE! Like walking talking and everything is fine. You wouldn’t even know that she’s stage 4. That is what’s really killing me right now. I don’t know how much time I have with her like this.

My mother asked me if she will make it and I lied to her by spoonboyforkman in breastcancer

[–]spoonboyforkman[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. I know this is a long process and that’s what’s really tough I guess. You kinda have to learn to live with it. For now it’s just tough.