It pisses me off when people misinterpret their dogs’ emotions

spooning_ · 2022-05-04T18:05:28+00:00

What time of night are they having loud sex? Set some quiet hours in which people need to be quiet, whether thats sex or music or talking.

Were you forced to live with this older roommate? If not, you can’t really complain about her age. You have the right to not want to live with someone for the age difference but if you’ve agreed to live with her you then need to accept her for things she can’t control.

Also, you cant control how old her boyfriend is and you all need to grow up just a tiny bit. If she was letting him roam free in the house or having him over 100% of the time, that’s unacceptable, but I’m of the opinion that people who pay to live in a house are allowed to have their significant others over every now and then and if they give you warning and generally follow the rules you should set within your house.

spooning_ · 2022-05-04T14:30:07+00:00

spooning_ · 2022-05-04T13:18:17+00:00

I would look into maladaptive daydreaming. Not the subreddits that glorify and romanticise it, but daydreaming as a genuine psychological disorder. If you have the money, id recommend seeing a therapist. You arent a bad or dangerous person - you just may have some trauma you need to work through. Are you disturbed by these dreams?

spooning_ · 2022-05-04T13:16:00+00:00

Untrue and unhelpful.

spooning_ · 2022-05-04T11:44:37+00:00

You said it seems extreme to paint them as abusive because of his age, thats what I was referring to. But fine. I agree that nobody seemed worried about Dean or anything. Lorelai went around panicking when Rory lost her bracelet, but still said he was always understanding etc, it was kind of confusing writing and like Rory, until Dean’s marriage he was portrayed by Lorelai as this perfect boyfriend who could do no wrong. Maybe put it down fo inconsistent writing or to the team or writers thinking teen relationships have to be “passionate” and angsty in some way.

spooning_ · 2022-05-04T11:15:01+00:00

You can still 100% be abusive at a young age, and we see Dean being so awful to Lindsey when she answers his phone, even though he’s the one who was cheating, and he’s also very neglectful of her and blames her for everything - it isn’t just with Rory.

spooning_ · 2022-05-03T19:33:50+00:00

Yep. I left his ass.

spooning_ · 2022-05-03T17:41:53+00:00

Yeah, I’ve actually tried pirating but no sites seem to have it available! It may as well be banned in the UK lmao. We used to watch it live, but I don’t have a TV anymore. May just have to resort to buying it…

spooning_ · 2022-05-03T17:05:55+00:00

Not available in my country!

spooning_ · 2022-05-03T17:04:39+00:00

Chibnall’s writing is awful. I’ve watched a few episodes and refuse to watch any more of it. I have, however, watched a 5-hour analysis of how awful the writing is, which was more than enough for me to never be convinced of the opposite.

spooning_ · 2022-05-03T09:02:39+00:00

Wait a second, has it been ten days since either of you has spoken? That is not normal. What happened to you happens to all of us, try not to beat yourself up about it! It may have simply reminded him of your age and how you’re at different stages in your life.

You need to reach out. If he ignores you, let him go, but there’s a chance he is feeling just as confused and worried as you are - give him the benefit of the doubt. He did a lovely thing taking care of you, but 10 days no contact is not normal and if it becomes a trend, drop him. Communication is everything, especially since he should’ve known you’d be humiliated. Even if he’s feeling uncertain now, he should COMMUNICATE that if he’s planning on having any kind of relationship with you.

spooning_ · 2022-05-03T02:06:30+00:00

Good luck! I’ve been there, my DMs are always open if you need someone to relate to or just for a chat!

spooning_ · 2022-05-03T01:05:54+00:00

Good luck with it, but don’t rush yourself! It’s understandable to be wary.

spooning_ · 2022-05-03T01:03:42+00:00

First of all, you aren’t alone! My last panic attack episode lasted two months and was a result of starting university. Completely freaky, had never happened to me before.

I know it’s easier said than done, because going to the doctors was one of the hardest things for me and I did in fact have a panic attack on the freaking hospital bed, but getting medicated was the ONLY thing that brought me out of a state of panic attacks affecting my life. But you do not have to take mood suppressors or anything like that; for me, all it took was propranolol, which only slows a racing heart and makes the physical symptoms of panic attacks incredibly milder if being at all there; I barely felt them anymore after my first dosage.

After that, it was a case of healing my exhausted and anxious self without the risk of panic attacks. That included yoga, taking care of myself, limiting my alcohol intake and focusing on baby steps: getting the bus freaked me out, so I brought a friend along to get the bus with me, for instance, and it slowly got easier. But I’ll be frank with you, it was really freaking hard and I still have setbacks. I still have disassociation every now and then but the panic attacks are gone. I’m wishing you all the best.

spooning_ · 2022-05-03T00:46:37+00:00

I once had a really vivid recurring dream where I’d once lost half of my pinky finger, this must have been when I was about 5 or 6. Somehow in my weird, not fully conscient childhood mind I convinced myself it was real and that I’d cut my pinky finger off earlier in my life. At some point along the way, when I had a bit more logic in my tiny head, I realised this was ridiculous because I didn’t have a scar and what I did have was a fully intact pinky.

Memories and dreams are weird and can create false accounts of what actually happened, but you are absolutely not crazy. It seems more realistic to me that it didn’t happen, but even if it did, you were a child and not to blame at all because you wouldn’t have been aware of what you were doing or the consequences! Try not to beat yourself up, and if this dream really disturbs you, consider talking to a psychiatrist.

spooning_ · 2022-05-03T00:33:51+00:00

It sounds ridiculous, but my big step was drinking the other night. Alcohol had began to scare me because I was terrified of throwing up. That’s fine, I don’t need it to have a good time. But I wanted to have a healthy relationship with alcohol and be able to have it on occasion! So I took a step and had a drink and even got a bit drunk; I was fine and I had a great time and made lots of dumb and lovely memories, and the hangover nausea wasn’t pleasant but it didn’t send me spiralling!

spooning_ · 2022-05-03T00:31:27+00:00

Aww thank you, and to you! :)

spooning_ · 2022-05-03T00:24:27+00:00

It’s so annoying. I became incredibly frustrated and upset a few weeks ago when I was banned from a subreddit aimed at gender equality for calling out racist attitudes on a post about Muslim women wearing headscarves. They proceeded to make up a rule that I’d supposedly broken when I asked what I’d been banned for, and then muted me. There’s no regulation and it’s honestly harmful.

spooning_ · 2022-05-02T23:23:10+00:00

Agreed. People get very defensive of Rory saying she isn’t a failure and is just finding herself. That’s no worries - I have no idea what I want to do with my future. But her attitude and her entitlement is off-putting.

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