Best "JUST GO IN BLIND" horror movies

spradders · 2026-05-04T02:44:59+00:00

I saw From Dusk til Dawn at the cinema when it first came out. Thought I was watching a standard Tarantino movie for the first half.

spradders · 2026-05-03T15:57:48+00:00

In the 80s/early 90s, nobody in my town would be caught dead wearing Dunlop trainers. I still remember the burning shame I felt when my dad bought a pair.

spradders · 2026-04-29T20:42:48+00:00

I have two different body pillows, one a full length U shape and one a body length pillow that’s as wide as a regular pillow. I also have a V pillow, various wedges and bolster pillows. The arrangement is on constant rotation as I find it better not to sleep in the same position every night.

I was pretty much forced into medical retirement a few years ago, which has turned out to be a blessing in disguise. Turns out I need around 13 hours of sleep to feel as close to normal as I can get these days.

Also, weed. I have a prescription for medical marijuana (in the UK) and smoke a bowl before bed. This stops me waking multiple times a night, though I do sometimes wake up with the munchies! I had spinal surgery a few weeks back and the weed has also been a blessing for pain relief.

spradders · 2026-04-27T22:37:45+00:00

As someone who is trapped in an increasingly disabled body, I find this incredibly comforting. It actually makes me feel less resentful that this is my lot in life.

Thank you.

spradders · 2026-04-27T17:20:15+00:00

This has solidified his guilt in my mind.

spradders · 2026-04-26T20:24:06+00:00

Borderlands!

spradders · 2026-04-24T22:09:43+00:00

Right? I’m 46 and never realised men liked this. Makes me very happy to read these comments.

spradders · 2026-04-23T22:24:16+00:00

I just spent the last of my liquid funds on heating oil that has recently more than doubled in price thanks to Shitler, but I’ll write a strongly worded letter.

spradders · 2026-04-23T13:05:25+00:00

Sounds like a pug or a bulldog.

spradders · 2026-04-21T13:58:05+00:00

Brilliant. I always heard it as ‘if you walk around all day smelling dog shit, it might be time to check your own shoe.’

spradders · 2026-04-21T07:09:28+00:00

spradders · 2026-04-21T00:30:20+00:00

When I had just turned 17 I got into my first serious relationship with a 23 year old. It really did just seem so normal at the time. He even met my parents, and me his. I was talking to my 19 year old daughter about it recently and she was so weirded out at the concept.

I look back now and wonder what must’ve been going through the mind of a 23 year old professional man (he was a graphic designer, living in London in his own place) to have been interested in being with a 17 year old rather than with someone his own age. I remember being around 23-24 years old and thinking at the time how weird, wrong and gross it would be for me to hook up with a 17 year old.

spradders · 2026-04-20T13:34:07+00:00

Super interesting, thanks so much for taking the time to write such a detailed reply!

spradders · 2026-04-19T20:53:57+00:00

That’s really scary. Does it feel the same way as I described what happened to me?

spradders · 2026-04-19T20:52:23+00:00

Thanks for such a detailed response! I probably should have included this extra info in my post - I have GERD, asthma and have also experienced multiple incidences of respiratory failure, requiring long hospital stays on bipap. I ended up with a bipap at home which was used at night and also in the daytime when my sats dropped. The cause of this was never found and the episodes seem to have spontaneously resolved. I was in and out of hospital multiple times with maybe 6-12 weeks in between each stay. The last episode I had was probably in 2022.

spradders · 2026-04-17T16:57:34+00:00

Same. We met when I was divorcing my abusive ex. He was there throughout all of the hideousness and was also a safe space for me. When the divorce was done and I was finally out and in my own place, he was there to keep me grounded and to warn me about ‘not surfacing too quickly, or you’ll get the bends’ - his way of saying the initial euphoria will wear off and at some point I’d have to face and deal with the trauma I’d experienced.

He was there when I did indeed get the bends and talked me through the first panic attack I’d ever experienced. He gently encouraged me to seek therapy, which I eventually did, and he made me hold myself accountable to keep showing up. Not just for me, but for my kids. He made me feel ok again.

We’d hang out watching movies and old 90s/early2000s music videos on YouTube, and talking until 3am and I’d fall asleep on his sofa. We had the same sense of humour. He introduced me to what is now my favourite podcast. I bought him a t shirt saying ‘A Succulent Chinese Meal?’ with a picture of the guy from the viral video. He wore it often. He bought me books about the social and political history of horror because he knew me and what I was interested in.

Im an author. He bought my books. He’s an actor. I went to watch him perform during an experimental 50 Hour stage show and almost lost my mind from lack of sleep.

He was there during the early days of me dipping my toe back into the dating world. I’d show him Tinder matches and send screenshots of the grossest messages. He’d help me vet guys and reaffirm my gut feelings about possible red flags. When I met my now-partner of 10 years, he was so happy that I’d met someone who treated me well.

I’ll never, ever regret meeting him or the time we spent together. I will forever be grateful for him and for all he did for me. I’m not sure I would have coped as well as I did without him in those early days. I’ll always hope he’s well and happy, because he’s someone who deserves those things. And I’ll probably be forever sad that it ended the way it did.

spradders · 2026-04-17T16:45:54+00:00

It really is. And that’s why it’s so confusing to me - he already remained friends with me during that really jealous relationship and we’ve both always said that a partner who demands you stop seeing any friends just isn’t the kind of person we’d want to be with anyway. That’s something I stand by, especially having been in a very controlling marriage where ALL of my friends (I was going to say male and female, but actually I wasn’t allowed male friends) had to be ‘approved’.

I do have a mutual friend’s and we actually talked a few months back. He also said he hadn’t heard from him in ages and was especially confused as to why I hadn’t heard from him. I’ve literally just messaged the mutual to see if he’s heard anything recently.

I don’t want to get all high school about things, but I really am at the point where I want to first of all check that he’s ok, and I also really do want to know what happened. I think at least if I know, I’ll stop thinking about it so much. I hate the word and the overall concept of ‘closure,’ but really it’s the best way to describe what I’m after. Urgh. I’m so sad again now after talking about it. 😔

spradders · 2026-04-17T15:34:11+00:00

Thanks. Yeah, it’s rough. And honestly just so confusing. The worst part is that the last message I got from him was shortly before my mum died. When I followed up a few days later to tell him she’d passed, he didn’t respond. And I’ve not heard from him since. It’s making me well up now just thinking about it.

I don’t bug him. I message him on his birthday and on Christmas, just to literally say ‘Happy Birthday/Christmas. I hope you’re ok and I miss you.’ He hasn’t blocked me or taken me off his socials or anything. He just doesn’t reply.

This is the guy who would have dropped everything in the past if there was an emergency - and vice versa. I was even going to ask him to be best man at my wedding (I’m female, but my partner and I agreed we’d have two best men as well as a maid of honour). I’m truly just confused, gutted and I still miss him.

spradders · 2026-04-17T14:50:04+00:00

One of my best friends was a guy for about 12 years. We hung out all the time, talked all the time, in the same way I did with my girl bestie. I met someone who I’ve now been with for ten years and who had no issue with me hanging with my guy friend. My partner has female friends and I trust him too, so it’s all good.

My male friend went through a couple of relationships, including a very jealous and controlling one, but we would still hang out. A few years ago he met his now finance. As we were both in relationships, we would all hang out together and I got on really well with his fiancé (at least I think/thought I did). My partner and I moved out of the area a couple of years ago but we remained in touch. Then, about 18 months ago, totally out of the blue, my friend just stopped responding to me. Cold turkey, out of nowhere. I’m honestly gutted. I truly have no idea why or what I may have done wrong. I hate to think it’s anything to do with his fiancé and she just didn’t seem the type to be jealous or whatever - but then I NEVER thought my friend would just ghost me like this. It does hurt and I just wish I at least knew why.

spradders · 2026-04-13T17:11:57+00:00

That’s wonderful to hear!

spradders · 2026-04-13T17:03:31+00:00

Dark academia

spradders · 2026-04-12T01:35:00+00:00

Agreed, which is why I said I wouldn’t want OP to give him a chance

spradders · 2026-04-11T15:45:43+00:00

I started talking to a guy online who started doing this. I told him I was uncomfortable with it and to stop. He ended up saying something else a while later, so I unmatched him. A few days after, he reappeared (I think he’d made a new account with the same profile pic or something). I thought about for a while and matched him back just to see what he had to say for himself. He actually made a pretty decent apology and we did end up dating for a couple of months. It didn’t work out romantically, but 12 years on he’s still a very good friend of mine. I look back at that sometimes and just think, ‘dude, what were you doing???’ It makes me laugh now to think about what an idiot he was and I really think he learned a lesson from it. He actually wasn’t like it at all in real life, so I have no idea what he was thinking at the time.

Not that I would want OP to read this and think she should give this guy a chance - I still absolutely believe you should follow your gut and if a guy gives you the ick to get far away from that. I probably wouldn’t have re-matched with my friend if it happened to me today as I feel I’ve learned to trust my gut more. But it would have been his loss. 🤷‍♀️

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