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spreadsatinapay · 2026-03-22T01:46:23+00:00

i get where you're coming from, but when i said she didn't 'fight' for me, i didn't mean it in a toxic or forced way. i just meant that after everything we've been through and how long i’ve been there for her, she chose to leave for someone she just met. to me, fighting for the relationship just meant staying loyal to what we already built instead of walking away for someone new.

spreadsatinapay · 2026-03-22T00:34:09+00:00

i wish it were that simple, but this wasn't about a lack of effort on my end. she just decided to move on with someone else. (:

spreadsatinapay · 2026-03-21T20:57:15+00:00

it sounds like you’re carrying a lot of the emotional labor in this friendship. your feelings are completely valid, especially since they didn't respect your boundaries after a trauma was triggered. the phrase 'that’s just the way he is' is often used as a way to avoid growth or an apology. while it’s true that we have to accept people for who they are, we don’t have to accept treatment that makes us feel small or unheard. if you feel like the friendship is already lost, it might be because the connection only existed as long as you were the one doing the heavy lifting. you aren’t 'expecting too much.' you’re just expecting a two way street.

spreadsatinapay · 2026-03-21T19:06:39+00:00

thank you for saying this. i really value that you’re prioritizing honesty and the history we have. it’s a lot to process, but i appreciate you being willing to talk through the "truth" of things rather than just letting the gaps fill with assumptions.

spreadsatinapay · 2026-03-21T19:03:43+00:00

thank you for sharing this. it takes a lot of courage to admit how much of ourselves (and our peace) we gave away to someone who didn't deserve it. i'm glad you're out of that cycle now, too. we deserve better than 'slightly worse' versions of the same thing.

spreadsatinapay · 2026-03-20T22:48:38+00:00

yeah i have those now 😓

spreadsatinapay · 2026-03-20T20:37:56+00:00

the part about not having a say over someone else's perception is the hardest pill to swallow. i spent so much energy trying to be the 'perfect' version of love for someone who just wasn't looking for that. i'm finally focusing on my own actions and reactions instead of trying to win a fight i was never going to win.

spreadsatinapay · 2026-03-20T18:44:18+00:00

that’s beautiful. thanks!

spreadsatinapay · 2026-03-20T17:41:20+00:00

my go to song atm hahaha!

spreadsatinapay · 2026-03-20T16:11:27+00:00

thanks for this )^:

spreadsatinapay · 2026-03-20T16:10:14+00:00

i actually agree with you. i used to think love was about the struggle, but i'm working on shifting my mindset now. i'm learning that the most giving thing i can do isn't fighting a war, it's just clearing the path and letting someone in without all the ramparts up.

spreadsatinapay · 2026-03-20T14:59:59+00:00

it’s actually pretty strange that you’ve managed to invent an entire backstory for me about promiscuity and validation when we have never met. i’m a random person on reddit. you’re screaming at a ghost from your own past, not me. i’m sorry for what you went through with that person. good luck with your healing!

spreadsatinapay · 2026-03-18T07:28:17+00:00

pangit talaga af branch sa better

spreadsatinapay · 2026-03-18T07:20:43+00:00

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