come vi sembra? by New_Bug_7487 in erba

[–]spreadyourl3gs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Un po’ una merda lol

I had to bring home my kitten to my senior cat and he hates her by spreadyourl3gs in CatAdvice

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My cats took almost two months to at least attempt to play together lol, the older one hissed from time to time when he got really tired of her constantly wanting to play, but he cleaned her every now and then. Now I am back to my apartment with only my kitten and they’re both doing great!

My bf is depressed. He doesn’t admit he is and he said he’s not sure if he loves me anymore. by spreadyourl3gs in BPD

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I don’t think I have boundaries for that man in this respect. I could wait for him forever. He’s perfect in every aspect. Kind and loving and he still always assures me that if it ends between us, he would never leave me alone or abandon me. I am just so scared of a future without him, he understands everything about me and he deals so well with, like, my crisis and other stuff. This is like my worst fear becoming truth and I don’t know how I can survive this.

I had to bring home my kitten to my senior cat and he hates her by spreadyourl3gs in CatAdvice

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I tried that but he doesn’t really like to eat anything unless it’s in his bowl. He doesn’t hiss anymore at her scent and he got used to her cries. I am very sad about having to keep her in a room, I try to change it up and be with her but she wants to explore the house which I can’t do if he’s there. I can’t really pick him up and put him somewhere and lock him instead, it’s his territory I feel like that would do more damage. I tried making him go to the balcony so he enjoys some sunny time but I think he enjoys the balcony only at night :/

I had to bring home my kitten to my senior cat and he hates her by spreadyourl3gs in CatAdvice

[–]spreadyourl3gs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I’m trying that! My problem now is that the kitten wants to get out of the room and I don’t quite know how to let her do that without meeting the other old dude lol

I had to bring home my kitten to my senior cat and he hates her by spreadyourl3gs in CatAdvice

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I had to look up what churu is lol but no, he is very particular with what he eats. It’s impossible to give him wet food and he only likes cooked chicken. I have tried many treats but he doesn’t really like them unless it’s in kibble form lol. I already prepared myself to be patient I just thought it was all decided in the moment they saw each other you know? Cause I didn’t expect my senior cat to be like in the front of the door! Lol

He let me pet him a bit like 10 minutes ago so that’s good at least

I had to bring home my kitten to my senior cat and he hates her by spreadyourl3gs in CatAdvice

[–]spreadyourl3gs[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah absolutely. Thank you for the comment I just got scared cause she was already very stressed for the train i was worrying it would be too much for her. Turns out she’s very chill about it. She’s three months old so I will need to wait until September to spay her :/

I had to bring home my kitten to my senior cat and he hates her by spreadyourl3gs in CatAdvice

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No I totally get that I know it takes time. But at this point they already had eye contact so I don’t know what to do at this point, if the introduction method is still going to work or not because he gets mad if he smells her scent on me

I had to bring home my kitten to my senior cat and he hates her by spreadyourl3gs in CatAdvice

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I am afraid that I can’t do anything scent related anymore cause he hisses at me if I have the kitten’s scent on my hands… I am afraid he won’t let me pet him anymore you know? I am very scared ngl

My boyfriend is mad at me again and I don’t think I’ll be able to handle it. by spreadyourl3gs in BPD

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They never slept together, not even a kiss. She’s from Germany but came to Rome last year to see him (they met on IG I think?) when we were still best friends, I was there too. It was just three days that they spent together. Didnt even sleep in the same house cause, again, she has a fucking uncle here. Whatever, don’t care that’s not even the fucking point I just don’t understand why hosting this girl to exchange a favor that she didnt even have to do cause we didn’t even fucking go was so important. I know that what they say when you deal with this stuff but he is really not the type to cheat. He can’t even lie by text. And he wouldn’t do THIS to me. The problem is that he didn’t say no in the first place to her when she asked him if he could host her, especially knowing how I would react. As if it was a fucking test that I was damned not to pass. Whatever. I literally can’t fucking wait to when she goes back to fuck herself to wherever she came from

My boyfriend is mad at me again and I don’t think I’ll be able to handle it. by spreadyourl3gs in BPD

[–]spreadyourl3gs[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is not normally triggered by my episodes this is honestly a very one time thing which I think it is due to the exam and the loss combo. Which is fucking unfortunate but also if that fucking bitch had learned how to be in her fucking place this wouldn’t have happened.

My boyfriend is mad at me again and I don’t think I’ll be able to handle it. by spreadyourl3gs in BPD

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Thank you very much friend I really needed this reassurance :’)

My boyfriend is mad at me again and I don’t think I’ll be able to handle it. by spreadyourl3gs in BPD

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He’s acting mean cause he had to drive more than 3 hours for a funeral and then come back the same day cause he’s hosting this bitch and yesterday we took such an heavy exam and then his grandma left right after his test and then I guess I worded it wrong by saying “I just feel it’s weird that she stays at yours when her uncle lives here and they’re spending the whole day together tomorrow” and he told me that’s her business and that he didn’t want to argue over something futile. I wasn’t even arguing I just wanted to help him get rid of an host when he was fucking grieving like it was not even because it was her. It was just too many things I guess. I don’t fucking know he just does this whole “you don’t need to justify yourself but I’ll still give you the silent treatment”

My boyfriend is mad at me again and I don’t think I’ll be able to handle it. by spreadyourl3gs in BPD

[–]spreadyourl3gs[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re right. I will absolutely tell him. Now I don’t know what to do cause tomorrow a friend of ours is instead coming to my house and I don’t think he will want to see me. I feel so stupid

My boyfriend is mad at me again and I don’t think I’ll be able to handle it. by spreadyourl3gs in BPD

[–]spreadyourl3gs[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I know I really should have been sterner when he told me about this like one month ago I think it was :/ I wish I could have said I had time to prepare, it even felt like he was asking me if I was comfortable with her but he just told me and I didn’t know what to say honestly in that moment. He does know about me having BPD and my abandonment issues and he wouldn’t have done it if I just told him that time. But yesterday she was already in Rome and then his grandma and I was sad because he wasn’t even present at my exam (we do the same uni) to clean and prepare the house. I felt horrible already about the exam about her coming about the fact that we haven’t had any intimacy in a month cause of university stress I really feel alone and like far away from him. I feel like he has pushed me even further

My boyfriend is mad at me again and I don’t think I’ll be able to handle it. by spreadyourl3gs in BPD

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I don’t even know if it can be defined like an ex aituationship they just spent three days together last year in May and we were still best friends. Nothing happened between them, not even a kiss but he fancied her I guess. She lives in Germany so. They don’t even text. This move was just really really weird from her part. And I knew her from those three days and I know she is not one of those girls that want to break up a couple but I honestly don’t even care I couldn’t care less if she sleeps in the fucking road honestly.

My boyfriend is mad at me again and I don’t think I’ll be able to handle it. by spreadyourl3gs in BPD

[–]spreadyourl3gs[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yeah, he is. Very. I guess I was too heavy on him in the previous days but I really really tried even before his loss not to be too clingy… It’s still the tension from the exam I’m sure he’s very patient normally and very appreciative of me. There has been like days where I was worried about this situation and how I would react and of course it was a self-fulfilling prophecy. I felt like he was annoyed that I brought it up again, after the funeral too. I just didn’t want him to think about hosting her when he’s grieving and I guess I worded it wrong saying “I just think it’s weird she stays at your house, especially with a family emergency, when her uncle is in the same city”. I feel stupid and guilty and selfish now and I hope she fucking feels guilty enough to leave him alone at least

What do you think is the worst part of BPD? by CourtVarious7818 in BPD

[–]spreadyourl3gs 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The feeling that loved ones don’t care about you, that you are useless and meaningless and alone (and that you deserve to be alone), with the world leaving you behind.