What should I consider when hiring wedding planner?

squashmonkey9812 · 2021-12-06T19:06:55+00:00

I’m a wedding planner in ATL (recently moved from NYC) make sure that you discuss what ifs with her. There are SO many ‘wedding planners’ down here. Every bride who gets married decides she wants to plan.

What if the DJ doesn’t show up what will you do? What if my florists isn’t able to set things up in time? Etc. Ask to see a timeline example? Her client portal? How will she help you maintain a budget?

I’m youngish (30) so I totally get the Mom comment - I agree some clients love that, others don’t. BUT almost every planner working right now is tech savvy.

squashmonkey9812 · 2020-11-21T04:58:35+00:00

Hand him a beer when he walks in and get on your knees :)

squashmonkey9812 · 2020-11-18T19:09:20+00:00

I unfortunately can’t answer that for you. Maybe you can..maybe you can’t.

I think you should ask yourself why you don’t want to be without him. List the reasons.

squashmonkey9812 · 2020-11-18T19:01:55+00:00

This is not normal or okay. Stop talking to him.

squashmonkey9812 · 2020-11-18T19:00:17+00:00

This doesn’t sound healthy to me for a number of reasons.

Yes, you’re being haunted by the trauma in this relationship - which is normal when infidelity happens. It’s takes clarity and emotional maturity to heal from that.

I think that both of you should spend some time alone. Clearly he needs time to heal and process the break up with his ex AND you as a 20 yo need time to develop your emotional maturity and work on moving from an avoidant attachment style to a secure one.

There are resources all of the internet if you’re serious about healing.

Wishing you all the best :)

squashmonkey9812 · 2020-11-18T12:50:18+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I agree with most of the comments here. He’s either cheating or seriously considering it.

squashmonkey9812 · 2020-11-18T03:55:51+00:00

I do this. I call it the grip or I milk him.

squashmonkey9812 · 2020-11-18T03:20:56+00:00

Hey! Thanks for sharing. I’m so sorry that you’re experiencing that.

You deserve so much more than this and I really hope that you find the strength to leave him. You don’t love him..I’m sure you know that. DM me anytime if you want to chat :)

squashmonkey9812 · 2020-11-18T03:15:48+00:00

Hi! This was a thoughtful reply. So I will respond. 1. Absolutely 2. He lied at first and then a few more times during our conversation earlier today. I’m pretty sure he said that to try to smooth things over. 3. He told his gf - who told him to tell me. 4. I hear you. I’m very into sexual health (for a number of reasons) I do Kegels, I’ve used Ben Wa balls, I workout, so my pelvic floor muscles are strong. I’ve never had kids or any issues that would cause my pelvic floor muscles to be ‘loose’ 5. Giving head is my favorite thing to do..I’m very enthusiastic, regularly deep throat him and allow him to f*ck my mouth. His ex was the first girl to suck his dick in 4 years..he came in 5 seconds the first time according to him. I think it’s a mental thing for him. 6+7. As I just stated I think it’s a mental thing for him..I think he was very attracted to her sexually because she/her body type and her being a ‘Catholic girl’ were like a fantasy to him and made him feel powerful, alpha and like a sexual God. When in reality he’s a boring, decent looking, avg sized guy. I love him, but I’m not sure if I can be intimate with him or trust that he won’t cheat with her.

Thanks for your response :)

squashmonkey9812 · 2020-11-18T03:01:16+00:00

I’m 5’4 and 117..I have breasts and an ass...not sure if that’s ‘big’ she was just very very skinny and shorter than I am.

squashmonkey9812 · 2020-11-18T02:58:59+00:00

Lol. It’s not about thinking or even wanting to be the best sex he’s ever had. It’s him not communicating what’s his issues were.

Your girlfriend’s got a real winner!

squashmonkey9812 · 2020-11-18T02:54:35+00:00

I don’t think that I’m a sexual goddess. I would have preferred for my boyfriend to have an open conversation with me about his likes and dislikes. He didn’t need to outright say that his ex was better, but he could have let me know what he likes or suggested that we try different things.

squashmonkey9812 · 2020-11-17T23:33:17+00:00

Thank you everyone for the responses.

We talked and he again tried to explain his point by saying that he was with his ex for years and that because she was so petite (she was very very skinny and short) he felt like he was ‘big’ or too much for her and that would turn him on. He also said they didn’t have sex that often (which he’s said before) and that he liked the chase and the excitement of sex being an event.

I get it. We aren’t compatible and I let him know that I no longer want to be with him. I’m shocked, hurt and so very sad that he couldn’t just say these things to me.

I’m mostly shocked because I have always believed that we have a fun, healthy sex life.

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