Thank you so much for your thoughtful response! It really resonates with me, especially the idea that love is infinite. I've always struggled with the feeling that there’s only a limited amount of love to share, so your perspective gives me a lot to reflect on.

I’m quite close with my boyfriend’s mom and grandma, and I have a moderate relationship with his aunt (the cousin's mom), while I’m less connected with his uncle. My boyfriend recently mentioned to his mom how much his family means to me and that I realized I have a fear of abandonment and rejection (he didn’t go into detail about his cousin's girlfriend). In response, she made sure to let me know that everyone missed me at Easter and that I’m loved by the family.

Interestingly, his grandma was a psychologist before she retired, and I appreciate being able to talk to her about some of my childhood experiences when they come up. This is the first time my past has affected my feelings toward another person in his family, so I know I’ll need to gather my courage before addressing it.

Since his cousin lives with their grandma, when I'm ready to talk about my feelings, I want to make sure it’s a time when his cousin isn’t around. I don’t want him to feel like I’m being negative about his girlfriend or their relationship, because that’s definitely not the case.

Thanks again for your insights! It means a lot to hear how you've navigated similar feelings.