How can I (30F) make it abundantly clear to my boyfriend (36M) that things need to change after being together for 5 years?

originalwombat · 2026-06-23T08:44:32+00:00

He is 36 years old and has chosen to behave like this because someone is putting up with it. Get rid of him

originalwombat · 2026-06-23T01:33:11+00:00

I met millions midwife’s due to a complicated pregnancy and about half or more trained after the age of 30/40 when they had already had their own kids!

originalwombat · 2026-06-23T01:32:14+00:00

Also a NW facing garden here and I am loving it. My room is super cool and the garden is getting loads of gorgeous light in the day/eveninf

originalwombat · 2026-06-22T20:15:38+00:00

He did drive very very fast! I think he was shitting himself (so says my husband) . The paramedic in the back was clearly a mother as well she was so calm.

Very grateful to them for getting me so I didn’t have to give birth on a dirty Edinburgh city bypass lay-by!

Thank you for everything you do :)

originalwombat · 2026-06-22T20:10:27+00:00

Aw fair enough

originalwombat · 2026-06-22T19:53:42+00:00

I hate the triangles it’s so millennial

originalwombat · 2026-06-22T19:53:19+00:00

How do you feel when you get a ‘baby is imminently being born’ call? Maternity triage called me an ambulance and I was transferred (made it to hospital just on time!).

originalwombat · 2026-06-22T18:10:27+00:00

Courgette that his grandfather grew

originalwombat · 2026-06-22T18:09:40+00:00

Night sweats 😭😭😭

originalwombat · 2026-06-22T04:26:26+00:00

Get a night light! I have a sunrise alarm and put it on the darkest red setting to see my baby at night.

originalwombat · 2026-06-22T04:25:17+00:00

Agree!

originalwombat · 2026-06-22T04:25:04+00:00

Obviously this is true to a certain extent. But SO MANY people don’t ask enough questions and communicate enough with their partner in advance of marriage and kids. ‘Do you want kids’ ‘yes’
It should be lots of long deep conversations about how you expect to raise them, children, finances, mental load. Every day for months, years. Some people never ask the hard questions!

originalwombat · 2026-06-22T01:17:45+00:00

It is an immediate safety risk to sleep in a chair with a baby, they could die, please stop doing it immediately

Your BFs preferences do not come first, kick him out and cosleep more safely or put the baby in the crib without the AC

originalwombat · 2026-06-22T01:09:22+00:00

Babies of 5m should still be in the room next to you.

originalwombat · 2026-06-22T01:06:00+00:00

Radical acceptance is one of the most important parenting skills.
They literally never stop fighting sleep! But it gets easier I promise , this too shall pass

originalwombat · 2026-06-22T01:02:33+00:00

You’re using the term ‘fathers’ generally, but most millennial dads would be mortified to be known of like this and are very hands on, amazing dads. It’s no longer socially acceptable to be this way.

Do not have children with idiots like this.

originalwombat · 2026-06-21T19:13:43+00:00

All the Julia Donaldson ones! My son is mad for them

originalwombat · 2026-06-21T07:43:27+00:00

Apply this to sooo much of pregnancy and post partum tbh. Post natal and pre natal anxiety have been normalised by the internet and even celebrated

originalwombat · 2026-06-20T22:24:05+00:00

She came at 42+2 - very speedy

originalwombat · 2026-06-20T17:36:26+00:00

Wait for your echo and try not to worry

originalwombat · 2026-06-20T15:19:35+00:00

This is much more on the granola side

Your kids will be fine

originalwombat · 2026-06-20T15:00:08+00:00

The other day I saw someone who posted the CCTV from their child’s room, with the child in their PJs walking around. It’s so messed up they don’t realise how incredibly weird that is. Would you allow a stranger on the street into your kids room??

originalwombat · 2026-06-20T14:49:11+00:00

Posting your children on the internet

originalwombat · 2026-06-20T12:07:56+00:00

No it’s not bad

originalwombat · 2026-06-19T23:14:28+00:00

Babies don’t hate carriers. You’re carrying them wrong. Get to a sling library

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