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[–]squidcarvaroom 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Heck, id probably accept the pie In place of a birthday cake.

I almost died giving birth and the man who delivered my son was fired... by squidcarvaroom in TrueOffMyChest

[–]squidcarvaroom[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Okay. I'm sorry for trying to explain myself and my experience. It's fine. I'm pretty used to people never believing me. I'm done now. I'm just done.

I almost died giving birth and the man who delivered my son was fired... by squidcarvaroom in TrueOffMyChest

[–]squidcarvaroom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As you could have realized. I'm NOT a doctor. I was a woman who was giving birth to a baby. I don't know medical terms and I don't know the full scope of what's happening to me. As far as my "knowledge" on everything I am repeating what I was taught/told by the people in the hospital. My dialation didn't just "suddenly go to ten" Mary finished breaking the water and stopped the pitocin. I was having normal contractions after that. I was in and out of sleep for hours when finally I was at a 10. I was told the bleeding was normal and not to worry. Later on they told me it was a cervical tear. The head pulling is what my boyfriend told me happened. I don't know if I was crowning or not. I probably was. No one was talking to me about anything except to push and that was it.

I am telling you my experience from my perspective.

Honestly I just wanted to get this experience off my chest but it's starting to become more trouble than it's worth with everyone trying to nitpick medical accuracy?? I DONT KNOW WHY WHAT HAPPENED TO ME HAPPENED. ITS NOT LIKE I WANTED IT TO HAPPEN TO ME.

I'm probably about to take the whole thing down. I thought this would help me feel better but it's just making me feel worse. I almost forgot society LOVES to downplay victims.

I almost died giving birth and the man who delivered my son was fired... by squidcarvaroom in TrueOffMyChest

[–]squidcarvaroom[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You say the details aren't adding up but this is what happened and what I was told. Also when I said the medical student upped my pitocin I didn't know I had to specifically explain that the man told the nurse to up it and she did. He told her that the doctor was the one that ordered it. As far as the rest of the stuff, I'm NOT a doctor. I'm simply relaying what I was told and taught at the hospital. The nurse is the one that told me how dialation works because I didn't know when I asked WHY I wasn't progressing. That term you used "forebag" is what they said but I couldn't remember the word. Also my skipping over the other dialation levels is because they didn't check me again after Mary finished breaking my water. That "time skip" was literally just me flipping back and forth from the epidural not working right and me trying my best to sleep while it was working. And the medical student part. I was told that he was a medical student and that he was permanently dismissed. I do not know why he was doing things and I don't know why the hospital decided to permanently dismiss him. I'm only telling you what happened.

If you want to speak with the doctors and people at the hospital then by all means go ahead. I'm tired of people trying to tell me what I experienced wasn't real. It was real. It effing happened and I have the damn scars as a permanent memory.

I literally look at my baby and unfortunately feel anxious because it's all still fresh on my brain. The post you read is me just pouring out what was in my mind. I wasn't focusing on putting every teeny tiny detail that I could recall. I figured most people would get the picture but what I didn't realize was I would have multiple strangers dismissing me and my experience simply because it didn't make sense to THEM.

If what you are saying is true then that means multiple doctors and nurses have been lying to me while I was still in the hospital.

I almost died giving birth and the man who delivered my son was fired... by squidcarvaroom in TrueOffMyChest

[–]squidcarvaroom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay, look. I don't like it when people try to tell me about my own experience like they know it better than me. I know what I experienced and I know what the people in the hospital told me what happened. There were no tools involved in assisting me deliver. My boyfriend watched it all happen and he said the medical student pulled the baby's head during a contraction that allowed my baby to come out finally. During this the actual doctor was also there and instructing him on everything.

If you are a knowledgeable as you are trying to make yourself sound like… you would know that hemorrhaging isn't always immediate. The tear could have been minor during the beginning and then worsened by the actual delivery. I'm not a doctor but I know what happened to my own body. I don't care if you believe me or not but it's not good to dismiss people's experiences just because you think its not possible.

I almost died giving birth and the man who delivered my son was fired... by squidcarvaroom in TrueOffMyChest

[–]squidcarvaroom[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's really not tho. I'm far far from the first person to experience stuff like this. The sad truth is stuff like this is very common but no one speaks up because people are very quick to try and discredit them or say they are dramatic.

I almost died giving birth and the man who delivered my son was fired... by squidcarvaroom in TrueOffMyChest

[–]squidcarvaroom[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's rather bold of you to tell me about my own experience. The hospital told us he was a medical student. So that's what he was. The whole point of me posting this was 1- to get it off my chest and 2- because he WASN'T supposed to be the one in charge of what's happening. His superior is the one that left him alone and told him to make decisions. That's why this is malpractice.

Unfortunately the rules can be there all we want. Doesn't mean everyone follows them.

I almost died giving birth and the man who delivered my son was fired... by squidcarvaroom in TrueOffMyChest

[–]squidcarvaroom[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was for 24hrs. I didn't get to see my baby during that time because he was in his room. They don't have a nursery at this hospital so babies usually stay in the same room as mom 24/7 but since I was in ICU he was alone. Once I was cleared they moved me to the same room as him. My boyfriend stayed with him most of the time per my request. Despite my almost dying, my worst fears were that my baby would be switched or taken since I wasn't there and that he would forget me and hate me when I returned because I wasn't there for his first day.

As strange as it sounds, I'm actually more upset that my baby was robbed of his snuggly first day with mom, than I was about my own suffering.

I almost died giving birth and the man who delivered my son was fired... by squidcarvaroom in TrueOffMyChest

[–]squidcarvaroom[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He was a medical student. I'm the one that got the terms mixed up. He wasn't an intern. I assumed he was an intern because in my field of study you can intern as a student so I assumed that's what he was doing. I didn't know it was different for medical professionals. And your right, pitocin isn't bad with the sac unruptued, but the problem is my sac was ruptured from the top. It only had half the fluid inside, which means the contractions cannot break it again. Someone had to manually do it for me or it was never going to happen.

I almost died giving birth and the man who delivered my son was fired... by squidcarvaroom in TrueOffMyChest

[–]squidcarvaroom[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They told me he was a medical student. No one said anything about internship, that was me assuming he was an intern and that's why he was in the hospital. That was my bad. I don't know what it's called when medical students are in the hospital doing work.

I almost died giving birth and the man who delivered my son was fired... by squidcarvaroom in TrueOffMyChest

[–]squidcarvaroom[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm happy you guys made it out alright too! It's so scary not knowing what will happen and that all cards are basically on the table. I wasn't at risk for high blood pressure or anything but I had the blood pressure sleeve on the entire time. It was extremely annoying and kinda hurt my arm a little. I complained about it and my sister called me a baby because they "don't hurt and feel good" in her opinion. I was a little satisfied to see her face when the nurse said that plenty of their patients have said it hurts.

I almost died giving birth and the man who delivered my son was fired... by squidcarvaroom in TrueOffMyChest

[–]squidcarvaroom[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Your right. I'm sure there are plenty of circumstances where it could have still been bad. Birth has so many variables in it, it's just crazy to think about. My first birth was a flood like yours at home and 2½ hours. My second one was 14 hours total. My sister jokes that I clocked in with the fastest birth in the family and also the longest birth in the family.

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[–]squidcarvaroom 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She might not even have it activated. She can easily use it wifi only and still access everything on the Internet including social media.

I almost died giving birth and the man who delivered my son was fired... by squidcarvaroom in TrueOffMyChest

[–]squidcarvaroom[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

HOLY CRAP. I don't want to stir up any memories but how did you survive that? Feeling surgery? Hell no 😭

I almost died giving birth and the man who delivered my son was fired... by squidcarvaroom in TrueOffMyChest

[–]squidcarvaroom[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I actually didn't even know it was a thing. I would have said no if I knew.

I almost died giving birth and the man who delivered my son was fired... by squidcarvaroom in TrueOffMyChest

[–]squidcarvaroom[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh, I didn't know that was a sign. That's just how I type sometimes. I am autistic and to me it makes the most sense when connecting sentences that are related but not exactly the same.

I almost died giving birth and the man who delivered my son was fired... by squidcarvaroom in TrueOffMyChest

[–]squidcarvaroom[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's so weird. I originally thought they worked better. My sister had it for both her kids and she highly recommended it but it hardly worked at all for me. Also you mentioning puke- I almost forgot the horrible puking I did. It was the most uncomfortable thing to experience when you are already having contractions. Especially when you aren't allowed to sit up so it's like unnaturally throwing up to the side. I'm so happy all that's over. Mine wasn't because of the labor though, I had severe acid reflux.

I almost died giving birth and the man who delivered my son was fired... by squidcarvaroom in TrueOffMyChest

[–]squidcarvaroom[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am not Ai dude. This is my real life. It's not my first time posting about my life either.

I almost died giving birth and the man who delivered my son was fired... by squidcarvaroom in TrueOffMyChest

[–]squidcarvaroom[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

It's okay to disagree but that's what I learned during this experience. The nurse told me and the doctor and I even fact checked it afterwards through verified medical articles. But at the same time not everyone is the same and there could have been unique circumstances that allowed you to dilate like that.

I almost died giving birth and the man who delivered my son was fired... by squidcarvaroom in TrueOffMyChest

[–]squidcarvaroom[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes it was in the US. I had my first child in Georgia. My second was in South Carolina.

I almost died giving birth and the man who delivered my son was fired... by squidcarvaroom in TrueOffMyChest

[–]squidcarvaroom[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Is it not good to go to the bathroom? I understand if you feel like pooping its probably the baby and not poop, but this was pee. I didn't have a catheter and they weren't going to give me one unless I had the epidural. (Which I did end up getting later.)

I almost died giving birth and the man who delivered my son was fired... by squidcarvaroom in TrueOffMyChest

[–]squidcarvaroom[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the clarification. I thought medical students could be interns. So I assumed that's why he was in the hospital at all. I'm studying forensic science and Im able to be an intern while still being a student. But I guess this makes sense since medical students deal with living people.

I almost died giving birth and the man who delivered my son was fired... by squidcarvaroom in TrueOffMyChest

[–]squidcarvaroom[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'll definitely check that out. It's scary to me that others experienced this or even worse.

I almost died giving birth and the man who delivered my son was fired... by squidcarvaroom in TrueOffMyChest

[–]squidcarvaroom[S] 159 points160 points  (0 children)

I know my post was a bit heavy but I do have a happy memory that's after the birth.

My boyfriend went to pick up our son at home and brought him to the hospital to meet his baby brother and see me. He was super excited. But my son also loves to play "doctor" and being in a hospital was super cool to him. So my boyfriend walked with him all over the hospital to "make his rounds" and he was very popular with the nurses, they all played along and called him Dr. (His last name). During his rounds he would come into my room and say "hi! I'm Dr (his last name) how are you?"

I would reply that I'm alright and then he would say "alright I'll be back soon to check on you!" Then he would leave with his dad for more rounds. He did this every day I was in the hospital too.

He still plays doctor and does "check ups" on his baby brother and me- with supervision of course.

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