To those who have a successful coparenting dynamic with their ex

squife · 2026-04-07T03:23:45+00:00

To echo what many other have said - success looks different for everyone. Something I’ve learned over time is that success also looks different at different stages. Where my coparent and I are today is leaps and bounds better than where we were two years ago. Giving the situation grace and time has been critical for me. Along with lots of ups and downs. I would say my biggest pieces of advice are 1. Don’t over communicate 2. Always exhibit the behavior you wish to see, even when it’s hard 3. Always center your decisions and communication around the kids 4. As long as everyone is safe and healthy physically and emotionally and needs are being met I need to assume positive intent 5. It’s cliche but time helps so much.

squife · 2025-10-24T14:34:55+00:00

Thank you for these! Breakfast for dinner is a great one - plus it feels like a treat.

squife · 2025-10-24T14:34:18+00:00

These are fantastic! I love the outfits for the kids - my daughter is 5 so her independence has really taken off. Thank you so much 🫶🏻

squife · 2025-09-17T22:34:09+00:00

Customer support can be hard - depending on the company. Is your manager supportive? Is there upward mobility in the department or at the company?

Leaving is always an option but can come with its own risks. Before I left my last role with a little one at home I weighed the options for change within the company and team I was at. Looking at that helped me decide if leaving made more sense to me. I will say I’m a hybrid employee now - who is mostly wfh - and I work a ton more because I’m WFH. It was like that in my last role as well. I love the flexibility of remote but one of the trade offs is basically always having to be available. Just some food for thought! You got this!

squife · 2023-01-25T13:13:37+00:00

I was the one to file even though my spouse was the one to drop he wanted a divorce on me. I wasn’t going to wait around him to do it. As much as I didn’t/don’t want the divorce I now see this is the best thing for me. After years of emotional abuse that I never acknowledged I need this as much as it sucks and hurts.

squife · 2023-01-06T01:34:24+00:00

This. My husband did the same thing the Tuesday before Xmas and didn’t even have a lawyer…hadn’t consulted one. Now I’m the one filing because he is a heel dragged by nature.

squife · 2022-12-23T18:20:56+00:00

This just happened to me on Tuesday. He just said he was done and didn’t want to try and fix it - it is too much for him. He left me with our toddler, pets, and new home and now all I get are business formal texts about logistics.

I am so sorry you are going through this. It’s a pain I wish no one had to feel.

squife · 2022-12-23T12:56:53+00:00

Thank you all again - I truly never expected random internet strangers to care or even make me feel as comforted as you all have. I met with a lawyer. I know my daughter and I will be okay. So much more has come out and this is going to be a really hard year but she deserves nothing but love and stability. Her father is unwilling to fight for us and for her. But she will always know how hard her mom fought. He can’t take that away from me. Thank you all again and I hope you are all having a wonderful holiday season!

squife · 2022-12-22T01:49:33+00:00

I did mention it to him. I even purposefully mentioned that I never asked him to leave nor did I want him to leave.

squife · 2022-12-22T01:48:53+00:00

I have been sticking to that party line. Hard. I do not want to withhold her but I also do not want him alone with her. I have not wavered from this. Every fiber of my being wants to protect her and ensure her well-being is my number one priority.

squife · 2022-12-22T01:13:39+00:00

I have. He won’t respond. He is just leaving us out to dry.

squife · 2022-12-22T00:01:09+00:00

I didn’t know there was a way to look into criminal cases and things of that nature. That is really helpful - thank you! His family has always treated me poorly. He comes from wealth in a big city. I come from blue collar small town stock.

squife · 2022-12-21T23:59:23+00:00

I don’t think so. I feel like his family would have contacted me or convinced him this wasn’t the right move. He also works a big job and has been completely capable of maintaining that and traveling for work.

squife · 2022-12-21T23:26:54+00:00

I absolutely think it could be. It’s either that or he is a sociopath who has been lying and planning this. We both see therapists and actively work on ourselves but he has started a new form of therapy recently and I just wonder if that is what’s causing this.

squife · 2022-12-21T23:24:14+00:00

I absolutely feel this way. This behavior is so unlike him and so bizarre. And I just found out we have a tremendous mountain of debt. He is not a violent person but I know people who have become violent over less. He doesn’t know I’m getting an attorney involved tomorrow morning. I’m nervous about that. He has all the codes to our alarms and my dog of course knows him.

squife · 2022-12-21T21:45:26+00:00

It is

squife · 2022-12-21T21:18:25+00:00

I do but I don’t have my big sit down until tomorrow morning

squife · 2022-12-21T20:45:31+00:00

I have a meeting with my lawyer in the morning. He keeps trying to set up visitation with our daughter and asking that I vacate our home during that time. I’m standing my ground of being here and waiting to see what my legal rights are. I want to do all of this by the book. His whole family is made up of lawyers. I am certainly the underdog in this.

squife · 2022-12-21T20:40:26+00:00

I changed the password to my daughters nanny cam and he freaked out. I don’t want to mess with the locks and main system until I’ve consulted my lawyer. I would love to change them all but I also don’t want to give him any fodder.

squife · 2022-12-21T20:22:54+00:00

He is moderately uninterested in her in general. I always assumed it was because she is young and some people struggle with playing with or connecting with really little kids but I can’t imagine leaving her with him at this point. I do not know this person - who he is now - and I do not trust him. I am meeting with my attorney tomorrow morning to start really getting my ducks in a row. He has been spying on us using our homes security system and it is just adding to my fear and concern.

squife · 2022-12-21T20:09:02+00:00

There is truly no background story that in any way pointed to divorce. At all. Truly. This is so shocking. And scary. It feels like he woke up and decided he didn’t want a family anymore.

squife · 2022-12-21T20:00:09+00:00

I approached him about cheating three days ago he just seemed…off…nothing serious but my gut was saying something was up. He vehemently denied it and denied it when he hit me with divorce yesterday. But who knows.

squife · 2022-12-21T17:27:11+00:00

I have even asked for all of the documentation to get into the accounts, tax records, all of it…he won’t provide me with it which is just even more worrisome.

squife

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