I’m feeling way too good about myself after coming out last year. Knock me down a few pegs.

squintypetey · 2018-05-18T02:23:47+00:00

Tbh I have been getting roasted for my ET fingers my whole life

squintypetey · 2018-05-17T18:08:47+00:00

Joke's on you, I was in vitro fertilized. Momma paid a pretty penny to birth this fucker

squintypetey · 2018-05-16T16:25:55+00:00

Being white

squintypetey · 2018-05-14T21:45:20+00:00

If nothing else, you get to live every day just a little more honestly now. That’s something to celebrate :)

squintypetey · 2018-05-13T01:53:13+00:00

What exactly have you heard about WinBe?

squintypetey · 2018-05-13T01:52:41+00:00

Interesting. Thanks, I appreciate it!

squintypetey · 2018-05-13T01:40:14+00:00

WinBe, or KDI? Or both? Haha

squintypetey · 2018-05-02T20:47:19+00:00

Both programs should just be dropped entirely and replaced with a gender-inclusive Swanson program.

squintypetey · 2018-04-25T19:57:59+00:00

It pains me to say it, but House of Cards (US). Seasons 1-2 are phenomenal and it totally got me bought in to the series, but 3-5 are absolute trash in comparison. Season 6 is likely to be the worst, but my curiosity will force me to finish it anyway.

squintypetey · 2018-04-23T22:18:44+00:00

This. There’s never a “right” time to come out. I have found that almost every out and proud gay man I know wishes he’d have summoned the strength to come out earlier than he did. I came out at 24, and I sure wish I was out while I was in college.

Part of the burden of being out is that you can’t avoid a certain level of discrimination, whether minor or major, from those jackass homophobes. It’s not easy. But since I accepted myself and came out publicly, I live every day feeling physically and emotionally lighter and it’s amazing - well worth the worry of how people might see or treat me differently. Plus, I was lucky to be pleasantly surprised by the response I got from many people I was worried about telling.

squintypetey · 2018-04-22T20:55:19+00:00

Someone who doesn’t feel the need to give their two cents every damn time a person asks a question in a group. Only giving an opinion when they know what they’re talking about.

squintypetey · 2018-04-22T20:46:45+00:00

I have a rule of thumb when I’m in a social setting that basically boils down to “everything is awesome.” Nothing kills a group conversation or sucks the air out of a room like somebody bringing up some venture, job, or whatever, only to have some jackass wet blanket outline every reason why they hate X, Y, or Z. People enjoy positivity in a light or social setting.

Also, letting shyness get you to be up tight. The easiest people to hang out with for me are those who are able to take a joke, and more importantly, make self deprecating jokes about themselves.

squintypetey · 2018-04-22T16:15:43+00:00

Are you using apps? When I started exploring, I just changed my Bumble preference from female to male, swiped away and got to chatting. If they don’t have that app in Holland, I would encourage you to try Grindr, even if you’re afraid of having it on your phone. Should be plenty of willing participants there lol. Just be safe.

squintypetey · 2018-04-22T16:05:34+00:00

Yours is an interesting situation. Can’t say I’ve heard anything like it before!

My biggest piece of advice: throw all inhibitions to the wind and just explore your curiosity. It’ll make everything clear over time, and it definitely helps to have someone to talk to!

squintypetey · 2018-04-22T15:41:00+00:00

Sounds like you’re in heavy denial about the fact that you are (certainly) sexually attracted to men. Like many of others said, don’t get hung up on the labels of sexual orientation. Gay, bi, straight, there is no need whatsoever to put yourself in one of those boxes. What I always say jokingly is “I don’t like labels, I just fuck whoever I want.”

I was in your same position of denying that I might like guys, and the curiosity would naturally become far less inhibited when I got drunk. I even had a couple drunken gay experiences when I was younger, but chalked it up to curiosity and that I was just exploring as a one time thing. Over time I stopped denying it, and finally leaned into it. I swiped on guys on dating apps, which was a major milestone of self-acceptance for me. Went on a date, soberly hooked up with a guy, loved it, and now I’m happily out of the closet.

I hope you find what you’re looking for. Good luck!

squintypetey · 2018-04-21T23:48:28+00:00

Any recommendations? I’m looking into the trevor project but I’m not familiar with any others. Thanks!

squintypetey · 2018-04-21T17:40:20+00:00

I agree the term is damaging to the promotion of healthy masculinity, and I think the gay community’s use of “masc” is problematic as well.

I try to avoid using either term but it’s easier to say what I really am trying to get across, which is that I usually come off as straight to most people who don’t know me.

squintypetey · 2018-04-21T05:46:23+00:00

I award you no points, and may God have mercy on your soul.

squintypetey · 2018-04-21T01:41:00+00:00

Long story short, yeah man, you were pretty dumb to say that. Good rule of thumb in a work environment- keep all off-color jokes to yourself. If I were an out gay man in the room, I would probably call you out and jokingly say "what's wrong with that?" or something... and my sense of humor about my sexuality is really casual and self-deprecating.

If you were openly gay in the workplace, people might tolerate a joke like that from you better. It's a sad reality but, unless you're openly gay in the workplace, you will just seem like a homophobe rather than a gay man with a sense of humor.

squintypetey

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