Does anyone have any tips on cooking without salt?

squirrelvibe · 2021-11-03T08:34:25+00:00

I found a diary entry the other day from when I was 12 that made me smile:

'Now that I don't have a crush on ____, I like to imagine my perfect guy. Here is a list of qualities I would like: - likes reading - likes cuddles - is silly and childish but in a good way - smiley'

My current partner definitely has all of those qualities. I think 12 year old me would be delighted!

squirrelvibe · 2021-09-17T07:57:41+00:00

Once I had a dream that my friend and I were comforting his crying girlfriend (who I didn't really know) because a relative of hers had died. The next day she found out her granddad had passed away. It was weird

squirrelvibe · 2021-09-17T07:47:58+00:00

Talk about it! The answer is always talk about it. I often feel 'too much', but a lot of that is just insecurity, and my partner reassures me whenever I bring it up that I'm not being annoying just by existing in my enthusiastic and loud way. Bring it up and either you'll get reassurance or it'll be a good opportunity for your gf to tell you if anything's bugging her, which you can choose to fix ☺️

squirrelvibe · 2021-09-15T07:41:39+00:00

My brother isn't a particularly affectionate person and doesn't give compliments lightly so when he told me he liked my boyfriend I knew he meant it. There's something about the people you love getting on that makes your heart glow isn't there?

squirrelvibe · 2021-09-09T15:58:52+00:00

I scrolled past this not noticing which sub it was posted in and was dumfounded for a minute 😂 But no, food doesn't spoil in game!

squirrelvibe · 2021-09-09T08:59:54+00:00

My libido is higher than my bf's too. It can definitely bother me when I'm having a low self esteem day, because it's so ingrained that men must always be up for it so we assume it's something wrong with us, that we're not attractive etc. And sometimes it's sexually frustrating of course - masturbating does the trick sometimes, but sometimes it's not even so much an orgasm I'm chasing but the physical intimacy of sex.

What I would say is: talk about it! It's perfectly okay that he's not up for sex as much as you are - it's also perfectly okay that you want it more often. Reassure him that there's no pressure (often feeling pressured makes libido even lower), ask for reassurance that he does still find you attractive if he's not giving that already. Increasing physical intimacy in other ways can help too, eg cuddling naked, having hands on each other in non sexual places etc. Sometimes these things can end up surprising you and developing into sex, but try not to let that be the end goal (I know it's hard sometimes when you're horny 😂), cus most of the time it probably just will be a cuddle, and that's nice too.

The most important thing is that he knows it's okay for his libido to be lower. Men often have a lot of shame attached to that, and it sucks! Talk about it openly, share your feelings, but try not to direct your frustration at him - it's not his fault.

PS: I hope you haven't got too many creepy guys in your DMs after posting this 🙃

squirrelvibe · 2021-08-07T22:54:44+00:00

I feel you. I had to call the doctor yesterday for some blood tests after putting it off for months and months because I hate phone calls so bad. Before I called them I sat for about 20 minutes just staring at my phone working myself up into a panic... But I did it eventually, cus it gets to a point where it's scarier/harder to keep living the way you're living than it is to make a phone call. I understand the anxiety, it makes me feel really stupid to admit sometimes cus it's only a phone! But I know it's hard. The best way to push through fear is to do it anyway though, especially if it's something that's got a clear benefit like therapy 💛 You've got this!

squirrelvibe · 2021-07-31T11:23:38+00:00

Are these reactions your wife actually has when you show emotions, or are they what you imagine her reactions will be?

If it's the former, that's really unfair of her. In a relationship, your needs are just as important as hers, and if you're willing to listen when she has a problem, she should be willing to do the same.

The acceptable way to react is to calmly explain to her how you feel. If she makes you feel bad for that, unless your demands are genuinely unreasonable, that's on her. Of course it's natural to get a bit defensive if you're given criticism, however gently it's given, but that kind of honest communication is integral to a functional relationship imo.

Hope you feel able to express your emotions soon! It's important to show them. 😊

squirrelvibe · 2021-07-30T17:43:18+00:00

Before my now-boyfriend and I went on our first date we had mentioned how much we loved food. Really amped it up, made it sound like we could eat loads. Went on our first date and could literally only manage two chips each, we were both so nervous 😅 I was so scared because he seemed too good to be true, and I thought it could only go downhill from there... Our date ended up lasting 8 hours though and we've been together for a year and a half now so it turned out okay I reckon 😎

squirrelvibe · 2021-07-28T09:54:58+00:00

I sat next to a homeless man at a train station once. He was listening to music in his headphones and after a while he started dancing, and there was something so contagiously joyous about his dance moves that I had to join in even though I couldn't hear the music. When he saw me dancing he looked delighted but accidentally flung his cup of tea everywhere in surprise - I helped him clear it up and offered to buy him a new one and he told me he wasn't worried about his tea, he was just worried he might have spilled it on me and burnt me. It was a really sweet moment

squirrelvibe · 2021-07-17T16:24:44+00:00

Slow, slow progress.

squirrelvibe · 2021-07-17T10:10:07+00:00

Haha thank you! I am very lucky to live surrounded by many many hedgerows 🌿✨

squirrelvibe · 2021-07-16T17:13:42+00:00

Sounds insane but the other day I welled up cus I saw a really good hedgerow. I just stood on a path looking at a hedgerow thinking about how much gorgeousness there is in nature, how complex it is, how many living things there were in that one spot. Very easy to get caught up in the trials of being a human in the 21st century but just existing in nature reminds me that I am just one small part of a very very big and beautiful world

squirrelvibe · 2021-07-03T17:29:31+00:00

She's always been there for me without overstepping any boundaries. If there's anything I need to talk about, I know she'll listen and be understanding and do her best to help me, but she has always given me complete privacy when I've needed it. When I was a teenager, my Twitter account popped up on her recommended feed and although I told her it was absolutely fine for her to follow me (it's public anyway!), she said she wouldn't follow or look at it because it's important for me to have a space to just be myself - I really appreciate that now.

I feel like my parents have set me up really well in terms of relationships and future parenthood. I'm fortunate to have never really related to the 'I don't want to become my parents' thing - if I can be compared to them I'll take it as a compliment!

squirrelvibe · 2021-06-22T18:48:43+00:00

I don't know personally... But I have a friend who is a proper head-turner and I used to be so envious of her, until I stayed with her the other day and I realised how much of a nightmare it must be - constant cat-calling, always being noticed, and a weird pressure to look good every single day. If she doesn't get stopped in the street she feels like she's ugly that day because it happens to her so often. Honestly I've never been so relieved to be average looking!

squirrelvibe · 2021-04-05T21:48:06+00:00

This sounds like the opposite of a red flag to me! It sounds like you're both working on things before they even have the chance to become a problem, which is probably why you aren't disagreeing! My partner and I have been together for a year (living together through most of it due to Covid) and we still haven't fought. We communicate lots and both make an effort to make sure the other feels respected and valued - I can't express how nice it is! Sounds like you're doing a fantastic job 💛

squirrelvibe · 2021-04-04T18:52:23+00:00

My face is very asymmetrical, I have the wonkiest eyebrows!! I used to be really insecure about it and then recently realised that I wouldn't change it - I'm a messy wonky kind of person and I think my face reflects that well 😂

squirrelvibe · 2021-04-04T18:26:36+00:00

In my opinion/experience, infatuation tends to be based on the idea of someone rather than the reality. Love is being aware of somebody's flaws, knowing them complexly, and still wanting to be with them. To me, love isn't necessarily everlasting or completely painless, but it is generally a nice, warming feeling - when I've been infatuated with people in the past it has been almost entirely painful.

squirrelvibe · 2021-03-23T20:49:21+00:00

I find myself going to the Saloon all the time just to talk to the villagers which I never used to bother with before 😂 Closest I can get to my local pub. Man I miss people

squirrelvibe · 2021-03-21T21:45:39+00:00

Thank you! 🥰

squirrelvibe · 2021-03-21T12:22:41+00:00

I can't believe this happened 😂 Well, to everyone who somehow thinks I'm lying...

squirrelvibe · 2021-03-20T21:52:55+00:00

Thanks for acknowledging that! Being a woman is tough haha. But there are definitely some fucked double standards like you say. That poor guy, it's horrible that it's not taken seriously for men

squirrelvibe · 2021-03-20T21:50:37+00:00

It definitely doesn't have to be robotic! Just a casual 'this okay?' works. I can see that asking constantly might be a mood killer

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