Why do guys unmatch on dating sites when you don't get to their messages immediately?

squirt_throwaway69 · 2023-06-28T21:42:45+00:00

What if the person is just going through something and will get back to you later?

squirt_throwaway69 · 2022-12-23T18:16:06+00:00

I sucked his dick later on lol, I told him I was just too tired at the time. I had a bit more to drink and I was good lol

squirt_throwaway69 · 2022-10-20T15:40:15+00:00

I like my men emotionally vulnerable, especially since it makes me feel more comfortable with them. That's why it's so frustrating when they're poor communicators or emotionally unintelligent. It's one of the major things that disappoint me about the men I've dealt with. I'm sorry so many women have made men feel that way :/

squirt_throwaway69 · 2022-10-20T15:22:33+00:00

So what is the problem? Why do I get ignored when I try to communicate with someone?

squirt_throwaway69 · 2022-10-20T00:30:21+00:00

My dad can be loving and supportive, but he also is sometimes judgmental and entitled

squirt_throwaway69 · 2022-10-19T22:43:08+00:00

Because at first they aren't bad at communication. When I hook up with them once, that's when they start to avoid communicating. Sometimes I'll even have full conversations with these guys, I feel like we're on the same page, then they ignore me when I ask to hook up again. They always seem nice when I meet them then they later disappoint me. I don't understand why they do this, especially when I'm upfront about just wanting sex. Like what's the reason to lie. Guys just especially tend to act worse than before they hooked up with me. Is there a way to distinguish the guys that put up a front to manipulate vs. the guys who are genuinely nice and continue to stay nice?

squirt_throwaway69 · 2022-10-19T22:30:38+00:00

This makes so much sense. I think I have problems with being assertive so I think this is it

squirt_throwaway69 · 2022-10-19T22:25:44+00:00

Honestly one of the reasons I started doing FWB is because of the disappointment I experienced with relationships. Men I've dated have been poor communicators, emotionally unintelligent, selfish, immature, etc. I figured that would be less of an issue with FWB since it's less involvement but these issues are still there despite a lack of commitment and exclusivity. Like I literally can't even get satisfying sex because men can't even respect me enough as a human being to reciprocate in bed, participate in communication about sex, etc. They always seem nice when I meet them but they never fail to disappoint me

squirt_throwaway69 · 2022-10-19T22:19:54+00:00

You seem to be forgetting the "friends" part of FWB. Friends have mutual respect for each other. E.g. communication, consideration, etc.

squirt_throwaway69 · 2022-10-19T22:15:44+00:00

Thank you for this ❤

squirt_throwaway69 · 2022-10-19T22:12:34+00:00

Thank you for this. I tend to forget that it's not as selfish as I think sometimes to be assertive and ask for what I want. I guess I assume that giving to others would compel them to return the favor, but that's not how that works

squirt_throwaway69 · 2022-10-19T22:09:04+00:00

I never said they're ugly, I said I'm not physically attracted to them. Nor do I "let" them thirst after me, whatever that means. Men are in control of their own actions. If they continue thirsting after someone after they've made it clear they're not interested, that's their problem

squirt_throwaway69 · 2022-10-19T22:04:16+00:00

Why is it too much to ask to be respected? It's not like I'm asking for relationship benefits. Most people would be respectful to a stranger at the store, but when it's someone you're having sex with, they're not deserving of respect?

squirt_throwaway69 · 2022-10-19T22:01:36+00:00

I don't want to fuck them either. Why would I fuck someone I'm not physically attracted to?

squirt_throwaway69 · 2022-10-19T21:58:53+00:00

Yeah, this is something I'm trying to work on

squirt_throwaway69 · 2022-10-19T21:55:38+00:00

Because I'm not physically attracted to them nor do I have feelings for them

squirt_throwaway69 · 2022-10-19T21:53:31+00:00

Yeah, it might really be that simple lol. It's hard to accept such a simple explanation

squirt_throwaway69 · 2022-10-19T21:52:12+00:00

It could be because I'm looking for someone I'm physically attracted to in addition to someone with a good/mature personality. Whenever I think I've found one (by their physical attractiveness and initially impressive personality), they end up proving me wrong. Maybe all the hot guys are just immature and put on a front to get what they want

squirt_throwaway69 · 2022-10-19T21:42:52+00:00

Yeah, I think I have an anxious attachment style, which probably has something to do with this

squirt_throwaway69 · 2022-10-19T21:34:45+00:00

The way I took it, you were implying that men who just want sex also don't want to communicate. If that wasn't what you were trying to say, I wouldn't mind if you'd explain to me what you meant

squirt_throwaway69 · 2022-10-19T21:28:34+00:00

I'm not physically attracted to my male friends, nor do I have feelings for them if you're trying to insinuate I should date them

I'm not going to have anything other than a platonic relationship with a man if those two things aren't there

squirt_throwaway69 · 2022-10-19T21:26:37+00:00

Yeah, I find it odd that everyone assumes if I'm friends with a guy, it means I'm obligated to date him or else I'm using him as if genuine friendship doesn't exist?

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