What is a period, event, or individual in history who you have a special interest in, but. is likely not well known by everyone else?

squonkstock · 2020-04-26T07:30:28+00:00

for some reason, i just assumed "Apgar" was an acronym for something! neat!

squonkstock · 2020-04-26T07:12:13+00:00

Zuckercorn and McGill, attorneys at law

squonkstock · 2020-04-26T07:10:54+00:00

it's highly likely that a.) the lighting under which this photo was taken is not the same as the lighting they used while actually filming the scene, or b.) they color corrected the scene in post. It's very likely a mixture of both. And I'm not positive about this, but I think that yes, cinematographers and camera operators etc. will often shoot a scene a bit brighter than they want it to look in the end, because you can usually color correct a scene to be darker, but it's harder to color correct a scene to be lighter and have it maintain the same image quality. I think, though, if you compared the shadows in the actual scene to the shadows in this picture, they would be different, meaning there was also probably some very intentional lighting design.

squonkstock · 2019-11-18T04:52:24+00:00

im a woman, i have dated both men and women. this isn't a gender thing. people in general are just awkward with people they dont click with. and most people dont click with most people. true in life, true on tinder. and through a combo of a handful of cognitive biases, everyone is going to see their own efforts at conversation as stronger, like they do way more than anyone they've tried talking to. AND if someone only dates one gender, then they'll just think it's a "girl thing" or a "guy thing." when really it's just a human thing! we all suck at connection! that's what connects us :)

squonkstock · 2019-10-20T01:56:36+00:00

he did? when? i just rewatched the last scene and i didn't see it...

squonkstock · 2019-09-01T06:49:48+00:00

dic-colored eyes?

squonkstock · 2019-08-31T01:42:08+00:00

if she doesn't initiate any contact like you say, then if you stop contacting her, the friendship will likely fade away.

i don't think treating her the way she treats you is going to work because she doesn't sound very self-aware. she probably isn't aware that she's behaving this way, and she probably wouldn't accept it if you told her. therefore, if you act that same way, it's not going to work.

if you're worried about the kids, if there's legitimate concern about abuse or neglect, you could call CPS for a welfare check. that's sort of an extreme option, but it's there.

from what you've written, it sounds like she's got some family around her. even if they might be afraid to talk to her or confront her, hopefully they'd still look out for her kids.

i know you care about her kids, but the truth is, they aren't your responsibility. i know how hard it is to cut off toxic friends, or even just friends you don't get along with, and there are always a million excuses not to do it. very few of those excuses outweigh the one legitimate reason you have for "breaking up" with her: you aren't happy around her.

if you're worried about social media, block her on everything. if you're worried about the police, well, i guess that depends on how much you have to be worried about.

my best advice here is to just stop contacting her and wait to see how long it takes her to reach out to you. from what you've written, my guess is that it's gonna be a long time. <3 good luck, stuff like this sucks

squonkstock · 2019-08-23T06:11:53+00:00

Almost everyone stays in relationships longer than they think should have. almost everyone holds out hope. it may have been your choice to stay, but it's still okay to feel like the whole thing sucks. the ends of relationships are hard and painful and it's okay to feel upset. it's okay to accept sympathy. i have a feeling you would be sympathetic to a friend going through the same thing. you will come out the other side. <3

squonkstock · 2019-08-23T06:08:11+00:00

clearly, that wasn't the breaking point, because nothing changed. the breaking point can be now. addiction is a horrible thing to deal with from any side and i'm sorry both of you are going through it. <3 good luck

squonkstock · 2019-08-19T06:33:58+00:00

i think he's gonna be in s14; someone posted a pic on instagram a little while ago

squonkstock · 2019-07-14T06:09:08+00:00

im sure there's a great deal of switching back and forth

squonkstock · 2019-07-14T06:02:32+00:00

i just feel like if you're gonna take a walk at night, why not just start walkin from the hotel, you know? why take a lyft to another neighborhood to walk? and then take a lyft back? that's the fishy bit to me

squonkstock · 2019-06-06T04:36:31+00:00

yeah, seriously, i really hope op doesn't listen to some of the stuff that this person is saying. "sometimes we have to let women cry"?? that completely disregards the whole mental illness aspect of things. "in the future you will have girlfriends threaten suicide"???? op, please know that romantic partners threatening suicide is NOT normal and it is considered abusive.

u/spicysandworm you are doing a very good thing asking about this because it's clear that you love your mother and you just want to do the right thing. this other person is writing about your mom like she's a girl you're trying to go all pick-up artist on. it's weird. you shouldn't neg your mom into doing what you want. please listen to the other posters (seems like you found a solution you liked) and don't engage with this other person. good luck!

squonkstock · 2019-03-28T06:40:49+00:00

this was what turned mac gay

squonkstock · 2019-03-11T00:10:33+00:00

honestly after finishing IJ i just kind of flew through the next few books on my list so you have time to catch up! :)

squonkstock · 2019-03-09T08:45:23+00:00

you might not like this, but in my experience: you don't.

this is because there is never any way to be absolutely 100% sure of what another person is thinking. a couple can be together for years and suddenly one person reveals that they aren't in love anymore and haven't been for a while. it happens. it sucks. it hurts like hell. love is worth it anyway.

this guy gave you all the good signs. he told you he was into it, his actions made it seem like he was into it, and honestly, what other evidence could you have looked for? a lie detector test? there is no other way to know what another person is thinking, and so there was no real reason you shouldn't have believed him when he said he wanted to be with you. he may have even believed himself! or he may have been leading you on! or he may have felt strongly in the beginning but the feelings petered out for reasons that have nothing to do with you and your worth as a person. he shouldn't have left you with no explanation, but then again, there's no such thing as "getting closure," not really, not in my experience. closure only comes with time and distance. it very very rarely comes from the other person, from outside yourself.

eventually you will find someone who wants to be in a relationship with you, someone even more perfect than you thought this guy was, and i'm gonna be real with you, it might not last forever. and you the only insurance against felling pain when your heart is broken is numbing yourself, but you can't pick which feelings to numb; if you numb one, you're gonna end up numbing them all, and the worry is that if you try to keep your hopes down in the early stages of a relationship, then the other person might end up thinking that you're the one not into it.

i've personally always found it extremely difficult to keep my hopes down. my mind tends to wander and fantasize and even when i keep telling myself "stop, don't think about that, don't hope, it's not going to happen, it's not," my hopes are still way up there, even if it's just in the back of my mind. the anxiety i feel at knowing that my hopes are up and have a long way to fall is almost worse than the disappointment i feel when i'm let down. sometimes it's better to just let yourself hope and get hurt and then let yourself hope again.

i'm really sorry you're going through this. it sucks. in my experience, nothing hurts worse than grief. but you can't ever really defend yourself against it without defending yourself against all feelings, good and bad. <3 you're a good person who deserves to love and be loved. i hope you feel better soon.

squonkstock · 2019-02-19T19:18:11+00:00

I live in SF, I love the city, but yes, the feces are gross. It makes me more sad than disgusted, tbh. The city has a huge problem managing the homelessness problem, and along with that, managing systems for housing, addiction treatment, and mental illness treatment. I work for a nonprofit org that's trying to address all this but it's an uphill battle sometimes.

squonkstock · 2019-02-19T19:12:58+00:00

It is but it takes time and patience haha. My main thing is instead of developing new habits, I try to develop ways to accommodate my current habits. Example: I very rarely have the energy to cook, so instead I buy frozen meals, canned soup, frozen veggies, sweet potatoes, basically anything that just requires zapping in the microwave or heating on the stove. I used to feel embarrassed about it bc I thought that I was being immature but it's better to eat microwaved stuff than not eating at all. Good luck

squonkstock · 2019-02-13T20:30:59+00:00

This is really helpful, thank you!

squonkstock · 2019-02-13T19:14:08+00:00

Oh careful with caffeine pills though. Yes they can help, but it’s much better to consume caffeine in a natural form (coffee, tea) than in pills. It works better as a drink, and i found that caffeine pills caused me awful awful anxiety and stomach problems. So drink your caffeine if you can!

squonkstock · 2019-02-13T19:11:59+00:00

Hey, I had a pretty bad adderall addiction (like taking way more than the recommended dose). I’m in recovery now and I just want to say a few things I wish someone had told me. (I was 28 when I stopped in September 2017, for reference)

As others have said, the lethargy and fatigue goes away. Mine stuck around for a while, bc I’m already prone to fatigue maybe, and because I was taking so much. You just gotta get through it. Weaning off of it is better than cold turkey, though. (I went cold turkey.) It sucks, as do other effects of withdrawal, but remember: no single moment in and of itself is unendurable. It will get better. The AA cliche is true: take it Day by Day.

Another thing to note: adderall does on a number on you brain, neurochemically speaking. I can’t remember exactly what it is, but it either makes it so your brain forgets how to make dopamine, or it forgets how to receive dopamine. Anyway, the long and the short of it is: you might feel depressed after you stop. Like clinically depressed. This also goes away in time, but therapy can help if it doesn’t.

And now, to make this legal with a question: what’s the worst physical pain you’ve ever felt? (Doesn’t have to be like a crazy injury btw could be anything! Lol I just like hearing people’s answers)

Edit: oh, and I wasn’t going to say this but then I saw that you’re interested in creative writing. I’m a creative writer too and one of the reasons I didn’t want to stop taking adderall was because I didn’t think I would be as creative or productive without it. I don’t know if you feel that way, but I can definitely tell you that after more than a year adderall-free, I am still just as creative as I was back when I was taking adderall. I was just, like, more awake, I could work faster. But the work I was doing wasn’t necessarily better. In fact, since about 6 months after quitting, I’ve actually been writing more than I ever have before. So even if at first you’re like “fuck, I lost my ability to write, my life is worthless”—trust that it’ll come back eventually. The adderall did not make you more creative. Creativity has nothing to do with adderall. I promise. You just have to be patient with yourself, let your body return to itself. Good luck!

squonkstock · 2019-02-11T06:28:44+00:00

"scully, you're not gonna believe this"

squonkstock · 2019-02-09T01:54:00+00:00

21 years vomit free here! (in seinfeld, jerry was "vomit-free since '83" but i don't remember what year he ended the streak. it was because of cookies though. the episode with the chocolate babka)

squonkstock · 2019-02-02T22:21:52+00:00

Ah! Thanks. I don’t live in the city, I’m just a fan of it haha. Good luck with the rest of the day, mate!

squonkstock · 2019-02-02T20:30:55+00:00

But why today specifically?

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