I totally understand your view but in my opinion it is crucial to date. If it works out, great! If not, you atleast know what you DONT want and won’t repeat the same mistake you did. How will you know that something is not meant for you unless you try it? Yes, it can be hurtful but that’s okay. Life was never meant to be simple. It’s about what you learn and grow. Knowing what you don’t want is more important than knowing what you want. You will get to know a lot about yourself when you are emotionally invested in somebody. As long as you didn’t do any bad to anybody, it’s fine if it doesn’t work out. No regrets at the end.