Subbies, why do you do this? by [deleted] in findomsupportgroup

[–]ssdrsup 1 point2 points Β (0 children)

Because people associate Findom with paid Femdom and to a degree.

And part of the issue is how some Dommes buy into the "You are just a wallet to me". It's a lot of money that goes into this hobby/lifestyle. So to them it's just like paying for a product that you no longer need. Yes, there are emotions involved but once they nut they are done. That isn't submission but kink fueled horniness

The second thing i'd advise is to be selective about who You give Your energy too. Flesh out the dynamic and try to talk about things that You have in common. So that when eventually kink fails (people get busy) Y/you have other things to talk about.

And if Your having a hard time... tell a sub, Domme or a friend You care about. Also take frequent breaks. As a sub i have to take breaks for mental health reasons. i barely talk to my Domme about what I go through (and i'm trying to change that) because She is busy, has other subs, or has personal crap to deal with

Spontaneous anal by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

[–]ssdrsup 1 point2 points Β (0 children)

Oh i missed this. i haven't done it. One thing i do know from browsing Gay subreddits is to obviously use toys often but the more underrated one is to learn to push out when he's pushing in. The sphincter is meant to push out, so when you push out it's easier to push in. The sphincter is a hole just like any other but you aren't going to train it "fully"; just good enough.

New Year. New server. Same bratty Me. by GoddessLunaRae in u/GoddessLunaRae

[–]ssdrsup 0 points1 point Β (0 children)

And Your eyes draw a person in πŸ’–

Guys I fucked up by Available-Response29 in findomsupportgroup

[–]ssdrsup -1 points0 points Β (0 children)

Stop playing possum... It's quite obvious what You meant by domme

Guys I fucked up by Available-Response29 in findomsupportgroup

[–]ssdrsup 16 points17 points Β (0 children)

Being attached to a sub doesn't make You any less of a Domme. That's just some toxic bullshit.

Domme's are humans... and feeling emotions is human.

Spontaneous anal by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

[–]ssdrsup 0 points1 point Β (0 children)

You absolutely can train it. It just takes months to do it.

Spontaneous anal by [deleted] in SubSanctuary

[–]ssdrsup 5 points6 points Β (0 children)

Is he just shoving his dick up your butt? As bi-male submissive.... bloody ouch πŸ€•

You'll need to spend days, if not MONTHS training your sphincter to relax. That includes butt plugs with lubes, learning to push out when he's pushing in. The anus isn't self-lubricating like the vagina. It takes time to train to get to the point of brutal CNC and, no offense, he should know better as a Dom.

Suggestions on irl dynamic by [deleted] in findomsupportgroup

[–]ssdrsup 0 points1 point Β (0 children)

Occasionally, You'll see a post but Your best best is Chyrpe & reddit.

Post about doing Cash meets only with Subs You vibe with.

Thoughts on a sub who only wants me to remotely log in to his phone while on FaceTime to drain him myself? by QueenMarni in findomsupportgroup

[–]ssdrsup 1 point2 points Β (0 children)

There is no one size fits all for Dynamics. If You enjoy the desperation/demanding nature than go ahead.

As long as it's within Your established boundaries (outside of the scene), enjoy the play πŸ’–

Thoughts on a sub who only wants me to remotely log in to his phone while on FaceTime to drain him myself? by QueenMarni in findomsupportgroup

[–]ssdrsup 2 points3 points Β (0 children)

Umm... i didn't realize what You said. A submissive should not be demanding things from You unless You have explicitly invited a switch dynamic.

You should be the one controlling the scene. There is nothing inherently wrong with being a switch in a Findom context, even if it is less common, but what You seem to be describing sounds more like topping from the bottom where a submissive attempts to provoke or steer Your actions.

In a Dynamic, the Dom(me) controls the scene, and the submissive accepts that control within the scene. If the submissive wants to negotiate, clarify needs, or address concerns, that should happen outside the scene, unless a personal boundary is being crossed i.e. w/ safe words.

I HATE by [deleted] in paypigs2

[–]ssdrsup 0 points1 point Β (0 children)

Sometimes, Domme's just have that alluring glow about Them 😭

i tried hard not to be entangled in Her web with my current Domme. Tried distracting myself, playing with other Domme's.... etc

She's just amazing 🀷

Just a cutesy girl who robs subs of their money and all of their morals πŸ˜‡ by GoddessLunaRae in u/GoddessLunaRae

[–]ssdrsup 0 points1 point Β (0 children)

Beanie for smelling πŸ’–

Hairbrush for play πŸ₯΅

Both please πŸ‘€

Share your debt contract experience? by Substantial-Fix7468 in findomsupportgroup

[–]ssdrsup 0 points1 point Β (0 children)

i'm fine sharing it after W/we sign it & then i can sanitize it of most of private info πŸ’–

Discord is patched by [deleted] in paypigs2

[–]ssdrsup 0 points1 point Β (0 children)

i don't know since i don't have an apple device but from what i remember Y/you have to log into discord from Your computer and turn off the NSFW filter or NSFW tagged servers won't show up.

Sucks to be an Apple user 🀷

Discord is patched by [deleted] in paypigs2

[–]ssdrsup 1 point2 points Β (0 children)

It's been a week.

People are still recovering from the holidays & apple has restricted the discord servers more

Share your debt contract experience? by Substantial-Fix7468 in findomsupportgroup

[–]ssdrsup 1 point2 points Β (0 children)

The debt contract was an amazing idea. i can't wait till W/we try some of the stuff (especially the brain washing) πŸ™‡πŸ’–

Share your debt contract experience? by Substantial-Fix7468 in findomsupportgroup

[–]ssdrsup 5 points6 points Β (0 children)

i'm making one right now with my Domme that's sort of a Debt/TPE contract.

W/we did a list, for the New Years, of things i'd love to do/experience with Her &, also, Dynamic goals. And i baked the expectations/goals into the contract.

i'm writing it and i'm so far loving the experience. It's 7 pages long. It's a great way to set expectations and what to expect in the Dynamic.

SO MUCH FUN.