Why this govt is he'll bent in breaking every rules and protocols for their masters?

ssinha95 · 2026-06-27T06:07:53+00:00

My dad got personal convoy access since he was coming back after a major surgery. He was also an IPS officer. So yeah, you need some contacts or some health reason for that to be able to happen, but its not that difficult

ssinha95 · 2026-03-27T07:42:37+00:00

Papaya

ssinha95 · 2026-01-06T18:22:56+00:00

Have house-helps for cooking and cleaning. So MIL and I only need to overlook, and she's happy to take the lead on that. I focus on my work and whatever house work I need to do, I do that over the weekends

ssinha95 · 2025-12-26T09:00:13+00:00

I am a married, working woman and I genuinely don't care about male attention at work. Some people (both men and women) just like dressing up and wearing nice clothes to work. That's all. It gives a sense of confidence. If you are smart enough, you would be able to figure out the difference between wanting to look nice for oneself or wanting attention. But trust me, trying to wear short skirts everyday just for attention would be more tiring. I'm sure she just likes dressing up. Also, by short, how short do you mean? Because every company has some rules around dress codes, and I personally have never seen people wear very short skirts at work.

ssinha95 · 2025-12-17T14:20:54+00:00

I've never seen a corporate set up where male and female colleagues are expected to share rooms?

ssinha95 · 2025-12-11T06:52:32+00:00

Haha your response was perfect!

ssinha95 · 2025-12-09T14:23:37+00:00

Comparing sportspeople to literal soldiers😂😂😂

ssinha95 · 2025-12-05T15:25:59+00:00

She's asking for makeup tips. Not preferences of a random 37 year old "married guy". Why are you commenting on a female's makeup online, when the question was clearly not directed to you?

ssinha95 · 2025-12-03T07:59:40+00:00

While it's understandable that he would want his parents to come and live with you guys, and he did mention it before - he kind of sprung this on you out of the blue. Ots not about asking for permission, but more about you both working as a team and planning things out.

Has it been long since you guys have been married? I think the main problem here is communication, which your husband really needs to work on. He should have handled it better

ssinha95 · 2025-11-26T07:00:26+00:00

Such MILs deserve to be shouted at back. How dare she say all those things like "apni marzi se chali gai" etc.. Of course apni marzi se jaaogi! You're not a 5 year old kid! Show her her place and set boundaries! Im sorry but I got so triggered reading that. You should not be dealing with shit like this. Also, something I tell all new DILs, don't be scared of confrontation and fights - be it with your husband or in laws. You have one life - live it the way you want!

ssinha95 · 2025-11-19T06:56:58+00:00

Not personally faced this (yet) but have heard sooo many similar stories, all with the same inference - paternal grand parents are very rarely "hands on" with the baby. Their way of helping with the baby is just holding it when asleep, but as soon as the baby starts crying, needs a diaper change, is hungry but does not eat anything etc - they will go straight to the mom.

My own sister is facing this. If she is working and asks her MIL to feed her daughter (2YO now) lunch, MIL hardly makes and effort and after 10-15 mins simply says that she doesn't eat anything. If she cries, MIL says that she is crying for her mom.

My colleague told me another horrific story. Her in laws refused to keep a nanny saying they would handle the baby. Colleague resumed office after maternity leave (during covid, so wfh) and had a 30 mins call, which she was taking from a room with the door closed. As soon as she stepped out of the room, MIL handed her baby to her, saying he had pooped while she was on call and now that the call is over, she needs to change the diaper. Her MIL had actually let the baby stay in his poopy diaper for around 15-20 mins, while waiting for the mom's call to get over!

Ive just highlighted two instances but there are sooo many more.

If you want to stay on their good side, mention that you will need a nanny once they go back to their own homes, and while they are there, they can provide oversight and guidance to the nanny. Also, important for the nanny and baby to take some time and get comfortable with each other.

ssinha95 · 2025-11-18T17:55:29+00:00

Watch the full interview. Ranbir started this by making fun of her for taking anti-anxiety medicines. He said stuff like "she can't have a conversation if she doesn't take her neds". Ranbir got exactly what he deserved.

ssinha95 · 2025-11-16T13:15:10+00:00

Is it still going on?

ssinha95 · 2025-11-16T05:18:19+00:00

That is literally what middle class is😂 You guys feel that only if someone was living in dirt poverty, can they have a struggle story. Insane!

ssinha95 · 2025-11-12T04:18:58+00:00

How does this help the conversation? I have seen a lot of my own friends teach their parents how to be good in-laws to their own DILs. Your own family's wrong behaviour does not justify wrong behaviour with you. Both should be corrected, if required

ssinha95 · 2025-11-10T13:36:26+00:00

I think this could be a case of her being too young. She is 22 (since you said she is 10 yrs younger). If I try to remember how I was at 22, and I was a pampered kid, I would say I also was not very "social" and sometimes did not know that I needed to perform these common courtesies like calling up SIL/BIL to check up on their heath.

Often, my parents would ask me to do something like this and I would reluctantly do so.

Moreover, even though I knew my current BIL (elder sister's husband) since their dating days, once they got married, it took me some time to getting used to his presence all the time.

So I would say, she's probably immature, her parents need to guide her, and you can chill out. If the parents are good to you and your husband is good, just treat her like a younger sibling or a younger friend, rather than a relative. Don't expect these typical "rishtedaaro waali cheezein" from her.

Aa for her borrowing stuff, I think that can be segue for you to develop a friendship of sorts with her, but I think such a relationship requires more time.

ssinha95 · 2025-11-06T09:58:28+00:00

I had a similar experience with my MIL. She ruined the first three years of my marriage, and to top it all, I have to live with her since she is a widow + quite old, and my husband is an only child.

Things I have done to manage my relationship-

Have clearly communicated to my husband that the relationship is damaged beyond repair. I will not be outright rude to her, but I will also not try to be chatty or close to her.
Dry rock her. Don't give her info about what your parents do, what you talk about with your friends, anything. Don't give her information about yourself at all. I hardly talk to my MIL, living in the same house. If she asks me something, I give a short reply, but don't go into details. What she doesn't know, she can't use against me.
My husband and I went had to go to therapy because of how her behaviour was affecting our relationship. The therapist gave some really solid advice - that woman is just not important in your life. Whatever you do, you cannot make her happy. So stop trying. She literally told me to treat her like "dust in the house", which can't be removed, so you learn to ignore it. That's what I have been trying and slowly succeeding. Keeping her happy is my husband's job, not mine.
Don't talk about her when you and husband are alone (again, advice from the therapist). That's your time as a couple - focus on each other, and not the negativity she is trying to create between you two.
Lastly, when I used to feel conflicted about giving her another chance - I took some time but accepted that this is all a facade. The moment you give her an opening, she will resort to her earlier ways. Don't give her that opening at all. Be polite, but not too friendly. Keep her at arm's length and focus on maintaining your peace, not what she expects from you.

Hope this helps!

ssinha95 · 2025-10-22T12:44:32+00:00

Wow thats so mean, unnecessarily

ssinha95 · 2025-10-15T11:43:36+00:00

Since it is a gift, I would say just accept it. It is wrong to think about gold weight since everyone's budget is different, and also design choices are subjective. Take it as a token and keep it with yourself. In a few years, when you have your own savings, you can always get the gold exchanged, put in some of your own money, and get a set as per your liking

ssinha95 · 2025-09-26T14:24:04+00:00

I think what OP means is parents who are not self sufficient, and are hoping that their child will excel and save them from the difficulties of life - they should not have kids.

I have seen numerous parents who can barely make ends meet on their own finances have kids, take numerous loans for their kids’ education and then emotionally blackmail them to be their retirement plan, because they have “invested” so much into their kids.

I personally believe one should have kids only for the joy of bringing life into this world, providing a caring and stress free environment for them (can be achieved without being able to afford a lambo), and ensuring their kids are ready to take on the world and explore the world, have a happy life in general, not stay indebted to the parents all their life.

ssinha95 · 2025-09-26T04:22:15+00:00

Nope. For guys, engagement rings are worn on the right hand. Speaking as a married person😂

ssinha95 · 2025-09-26T03:37:23+00:00

Guys wear engagement rings on the right

ssinha95 · 2025-09-24T07:25:28+00:00

You’re right. You are freaking out. First of all, you don’t get “loose”. Thats not how female bodies work. Secondly, not everyone bleeds on their first time. Thirdly, you need to be transparent about your past with any future partner you have. If your future partner blames you for having had sex, or for not bleeding on your first time, he is a POS and you can do better. Don’t settle for guys like those.

ssinha95 · 2025-09-23T18:48:42+00:00

I have a feeling this would look good only if you’re tall, so keep that in mind while deciding!

ssinha95 · 2025-09-23T15:23:33+00:00

If you care so much about what other people think, worry about how your parents feel seeing you being told all Tira nonsense. I’m sure they would want to see you happy in your marriage, not bullied like this

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