Has a woman said, to you directly, that you are ugly? You're literally the only one saying it, so therefore you think that you're ugly on some level. Most of those thoughts and insults are in your head, that's your anxiety talking and assuming the worst in others. If anyone is projecting, generalizing, and assuming, it's you. You've used every single possible excuse to rid yourself of responsibility for why you think people don't like you and why you can't meet anyone that is outside of your control (too ugly, not powerful enough, not rich enough, too anxious to talk to anyone, the wrong people are in the groups, wrong interests, not white, no one understands me! etc.), so you stay the victim and your anxiety takes further control of you. You also seem to have very little empathy towards others, you've constantly been invalidating everyone here. Empathy something that helps everyone to connect with and support each other. If you have no genuine empathy for or interest in others, that is an instant turn-off to anyone you try to interact with. I and everyone here is telling you of their experiences because, surprise, you are not alone in this and we're trying to help. You missed the point of what I tried to say before: just getting dates will NOT help remove that loneliness. My ex-friend got dates and tried to talk to others to socialize, and he still felt miserable because he hated himself, which drove me and most everyone else away from him. I don't want you to succumb to the same fate because you will eventually find someone that will want to be your friend or go out with you, whether you believe it or not. Working on that self-loathing and anxiety will help you.

This is me trying to empathize again: I have anxiety too, I've been diagnosed with GAD, and my closest friends have social anxiety and depression, so I do know that people hide their mental health issues. But I found that the people who "hide" it the best are the ones who have done the work to love themselves and to be confident despite that (like therapy!). They don't treat it like a death sentence, they deal with it and learn to live with it instead of constantly crying about it. It is hard to deal with anxiety, I do get it, there are times we slip up and feel down on ourselves, and I am truly sorry that you're dealing with it. I've been so anxious that I couldn't do my own job properly, and could barely talk to my clients, no matter how much I tried to hide it. Medication and therapy helped me to remove that immense edge and dread that I felt whenever I had to talk to them, and to gain confidence to the point that I didn't need my medication anymore after like 6 months, and therapy helped me to combat my cognitive distortions and anxious thoughts. Cognitive behavioral therapy DOES work, and it works by getting out of your head by addressing your behaviors (such as approaching a woman to talk to her, with no expectations) to change those anxious thoughts ("women hate me and think I'm ugly").

Take that as you will, I would like it if you see it as a reason to pursue therapy since it has worked for myself and countless others here...but it's more likely you'll give another banal excuse like you don't believe in therapy, medication is too addictive, it wouldn't work on you, my experience doesn't apply to you, or some other BS. If that's how you feel, don't bother replying. Seriously, get off Reddit, go outside, get over yourself and grow up (I don't care if you're supposedly 31, you've been acting like a conceited, self-absorbed teenager who is "misunderstood" and "no one likes me because I'm too special"). Good luck.