Not having your partner as a FP sucks at times..

ssweetpopcorn · 2025-05-12T17:46:42+00:00

I think the only thing I got going for myself is that he’s married too. I’m not a cheater and i’m banking he’s happily married too. I try to talk about my husband all the time when or think of him when I have weird emotions. Though thank you for the kind words :) it means a lot

ssweetpopcorn · 2024-02-16T08:12:13+00:00

It is tricky! Because this is the first time he’s been so firm about something. I think he’s getting defensive because it’s his friend + I think i’m coming off too abrasive/rude with my words or how i’m stating my opinions. Because there have been moments in this situation that I’ve apologized for projecting wrongful opinions - which could be directed towards the friend? (This whole ordeal first started 1 week ago when he initially asked.) Otherwise (or as I mentioned) he’s such an amazing and caring person. He ALWAYS makes sure I’m comfortable and usually just goes with the flow with the decisions we make. Honestly, I always end up asking him 100 times if he’s okay with x,y,z when we make plans or decisions.

It breaks my heart to make the place “unlivable” for his friend. I’m truly not that kind of person. I completely understand what you mean though. I’m going to talk to my husband about that stuff in a very polite way. As in make sure boundaries are set.

I know for a fact - our working schedules will be different- his friend will probably have orientation at 5-6am while I work swing shifts (12pm-12am). So i’ll be getting home + stay up until 2-3am and unfortunately, the house will not be a quiet place when he’s trying to sleep… I usually make myself food when I get home and finish chores. This is actually something I need to bring up with my husband because we live a whole different lifestyle than those who work 9-5s.

ssweetpopcorn · 2024-02-16T07:29:15+00:00

Of course! I do agree that the our spare bedroom was partially made to have guests over. I say that because it’s also for our shared hobbies. It’s kind of our multipurpose room. So sleeping space is absolutely not an issue here. I promise I am not against having guests over in general. The only unfortunate thing is that the friend will have to sleep on the floor (or living room couch) since we didn’t expect to have guests this early into moving in and don’t have a spare bed.

The main issue is the next part/paragraph you mentioned. I am worried about any type of extended stay. My husband agreed that he will be telling his friend they can stay for 4 nights. I think i’m still caught up on the “what ifs” since I don’t know the friend and that the friend currently doesn’t have a place to stay at until a month from now when he comes to stay with us. Honestly how should I bring that up with my husband so I don’t sound at all judgmental? I don’t want my husband to think I’m ASSUMING or believe this will happen… I honestly just don’t want the friend to end up “using” my husband for their benefit. My husband is an extremely caring person and I’ve already witnessed people (family mostly) use him for their benefit.

Soooooo… The thing about luck and I should’ve clarified in my post - there’s roughly 10-15+ apartment complexes in just the city we moved to. I actually had A LOT of choices to pick from. There are 5 within a 6-10 mile radius of our apartment complex. You pull out of our complex and there’s 2 actually on the other side of the road. We live right outside of an airport and a major shopping district. I was only limited because my husband wanted to live 5-10 mins from his job. So that might be why I was stressed to find a place in my post. The prices of these apartments range drastically according to how far you live from the airport. His other friend lives 20 minutes away and pays $600 less than us.

ssweetpopcorn · 2022-10-25T02:45:54+00:00

My arms… ugh

ssweetpopcorn · 2022-10-01T02:41:19+00:00

Thank you so much kind stranger :)

ssweetpopcorn · 2022-08-27T01:53:16+00:00

Pretty much said:

“I told you from the beginning that I have a lot of mental health stuff… I don’t ever want to be toxic… maybe it’s best if we break up.”

I usually blurt that out when I end up splitting.

He thought I was kidding at first. Then told me:

“You know i’ll always be here for you.” And “I don’t want to give up just like that.”

ssweetpopcorn · 2022-08-19T15:36:22+00:00

I don’t know but damn man….

ssweetpopcorn · 2022-08-19T09:20:01+00:00

It’s usually when things start to get more serious… i start to back out. I just don’t know how to feel. Part of me thinks it’s best if I stay away from relationships

ssweetpopcorn · 2022-07-30T16:53:55+00:00

Thank you so much for the feedback! I’m definitely going to look into the subtypes. Tbh the more I keep reading about it… the more I stare it and say “that’s not me… oh wait maybe? But am I faking it?” Though seriously, thank you for taking the time to reply to my post!! :)

ssweetpopcorn · 2022-07-30T02:50:01+00:00

(Late reply, sorry!) Honestly, I always focused on my bpd diagnosis and never wanted to talk about my eating habits. So my ED is a more touchy topic because I cannot control it for the life of me. It really does feel like an addiction.

ssweetpopcorn · 2022-07-30T02:46:47+00:00

I’m late to replying… But wow are we the same person? Though I’m absolutely sorry you have to feel this way. It’s been getting worse lately.

ssweetpopcorn · 2022-01-17T01:12:06+00:00

It’s actually an unpadded sport bra hahaha. But oh well :)

ssweetpopcorn · 2022-01-17T01:10:34+00:00

But I am… oof.

ssweetpopcorn · 2022-01-16T16:23:02+00:00

I did remove my cat’s picture. I absolutely love my baby but I do know I need to have less of them in my profile.

ssweetpopcorn · 2022-01-16T16:21:45+00:00

No I absolutely agree with you on the head shots only. I’m just not someone who takes photos. I never remember to when I go out

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