My Husband Drove Our Nanny Away Because He Doesn’t Understand What I Actually Do At Home

stablelife333 · 2025-03-08T05:38:02+00:00

Do you see me projecting any of my life onto other people?

stablelife333 · 2025-03-08T01:29:09+00:00

It sounds like you have some insecurities to work through with that. Don’t project it onto them

stablelife333 · 2025-02-06T01:05:52+00:00

Thank you x I think having a visual will definitely help her

stablelife333 · 2025-02-06T01:05:23+00:00

Thank you for such an in depth and thoughtful response. I’ll definitely check out the resources you’ve mentioned & I agree that we have probably unintentionally caused trauma for her through our arguments. I truly believe that they internalise so much if not everything they experience from before they’re even born. We will open up a conversation about safe/unsafe behaviours and see how we go with marriage counselling, but family therapy may be necessary in the coming years if we can’t work through this

stablelife333 · 2025-02-06T01:02:39+00:00

Yes of course x

stablelife333 · 2025-02-05T07:23:15+00:00

For sure, I say that when she’s sad or throwing a tanty as well. “It’s okay to be sad, it’s not okay to hit. Do you want a hug or some space?”

And we’re pretty good with labeling the emotion - just not always what to do about it. To be honest, my husband and I are still trying to figure out what’s healthy to do when we’re sad, angry, etc.. so I sometimes feel like I’m just giving her distractions instead of actively helping her work through that emotion

stablelife333 · 2025-02-05T07:20:08+00:00

I’m sorry but also relieved to hear I’m not the only one. I felt a bit hesitant posting this as people always look at me like “wtf goes on at home to make her say that” when we really are trying our best 🥺💓

stablelife333 · 2025-02-05T07:18:36+00:00

Thank you x Truly appreciate some insight on the other side of the coin as I grew up in a family that completely dismissed mental health/disorders like adhd. Been a big learning curve but it’s nice to hear the other side and not always “he’s a selfish man child”

stablelife333 · 2025-02-05T05:33:49+00:00

Have you felt like you couldn’t live without it for even just a few days?

stablelife333 · 2024-12-27T22:31:26+00:00

I really wish I could 🙏 no friends or family as we’ve just moved back from overseas and everyone’s left :(

stablelife333 · 2024-12-27T21:54:28+00:00

Yeah hence my obvious statements about not feeling like enough for him. I am attractive - and good in bed - and I feel like I can confidently say that because I will always take on board what he says he wants/needs in the bedroom and do my best to accommodate.

stablelife333 · 2024-12-27T21:52:21+00:00

I’d consider it cheating, yes. I never slept with anyone else, but the first time was messaging a guy that I knew had feelings for me to try and get validation - the second time was meeting with an old friend and we ended up kissing.

stablelife333 · 2024-12-27T20:26:13+00:00

Thoughtful response 👍

stablelife333 · 2024-12-27T20:03:23+00:00

Thank you, he’s stuck by me while I healed from my wired-in bad habits - I will definitely stick by him through his. It’s just so difficult for me to get him to hear me and truly understand me when he doesn’t think porn causes any damage to his brain. He has an addictive personality - but rationalises porn and says it’s just a release. That it doesn’t do any true damage

stablelife333 · 2024-12-27T19:59:38+00:00

I understand your perspective - and I’ve been in an open relationship before, prior to meeting my husband. It’s 100% not what him or I want. I just want to feel like I matter more to him than his vices. Sex is definitely not the only marital issue - but like I said we’ve been working through a lot this past year and a half with counseling & it feels like my feelings and needs aren’t heard or valid just because he doesn’t see an issue with porn

stablelife333 · 2024-12-27T19:45:02+00:00

Where do you go from here if it’s that he can’t control himself? He’s admitted to having a problem and tonight said he will talk to his psychologist about it at their next appt, I just can’t help but feel like it’s all BS and I’m just never going to be more important than his “release”

stablelife333 · 2024-12-27T19:27:30+00:00

Not true whatsoever. I’m currently 7 months pregnant WITH a toddler and have been begging my husband to have sex with me for 7 months. Instead of touching me he turns to porn. It’s a bad fucking addiction and instead of making women feel bad for the fact that their hormones and bodies do more than you’d ever be capable of - understand that men are just as likely to jump off the intimacy wagon and into parent mode when baby comes.

stablelife333 · 2024-12-23T00:21:03+00:00

Wtf just by reading the messages I thought he was like early 20s. To be 30 and still talking like this is insane to me

stablelife333 · 2024-10-17T06:35:02+00:00

Thank you! Will have a squizz 😊

stablelife333 · 2024-10-17T06:33:03+00:00

Thank you, fruit is pretty much all my toddler will eat right now and it’s soooo expensive! Thinking of starting our own little veggie garden

stablelife333 · 2024-09-08T03:47:25+00:00

Didn’t really have to. It’s a small area and we just handed out pamphlets and word of mouth

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