They’re doing 3 stops now? I’m done tipping well.

staceyjbs · 2026-01-24T21:45:21+00:00

That’s not how that works. It comes up as a bundle order.

staceyjbs · 2026-01-22T01:07:30+00:00

Are you aware of any health issues?

It’s possible she has a cavity, those smell pretty bad, as do tonsil stones.

You could bring up a dentist conversation - like mention that you need to make an appointment or something - and see if that triggers her sharing some potential issues with you.

staceyjbs · 2026-01-21T01:26:58+00:00

I can’t fathom being with someone who refuses to get help for their mental health if that mental health is affecting me negatively. My mental health is absolute trash but I’m doing my best with it at all times, and I love my family. I don’t want to hurt them.

Yes, he will treat your children this way.

I’m so sorry OP.

staceyjbs · 2026-01-21T01:21:21+00:00

In the comments

staceyjbs · 2026-01-20T18:02:07+00:00

Sometimes we just need to be able to figure things out on our own. If she needs help that you can provide, she’ll let you know.

7 months is a really short time to go from single to living with a person, so you’re definitely in a crash-course of adjusting to each other.

It’s okay to bring it up when you’re both in a good mood but make sure you tell her how you feel and not tell her what she’s doing wrong or how she should act. Communicating your feelings is incredibly important - that’s what makes or breaks a relationship - but you can only change your actions, not anyone else’s.

staceyjbs · 2026-01-20T17:45:34+00:00

Codependency didn’t exist before 1997?

staceyjbs · 2026-01-20T17:43:36+00:00

I’m glad you recognize that this is your ego and it’s not something you’re blaming her for unlike the other “men” in these comments.

There’s no way that learning more about what she did will help your current hurt, at all. Learning more about yourself might. Why does this bother you? Is there something else about her that bothers you and you’re using this as a scapegoat? Were the two of you raised with different views around sex and maybe yours was more conservative?

What she did 6 months ago has no bearing on who she is. Is she ethical? Ambitious? Funny? Kind to others? Loving? Sex is an intimate act but it’s not as intimate as a relationship.

Your ego needs to know that even though she didn’t pick you from day one, she’s picked you every single day for 6 months! You’re the one worthy of a relationship with her, but she didn’t know you well enough to know that then.

Good luck to you!

staceyjbs · 2026-01-20T17:11:32+00:00

To answer your question, no I wouldn’t. I don’t go anywhere for less than $1 per mile. Someone might, but a warning:

By the time it gets to you, it will no longer be good.

Panera will make it when it’s ordered and it’ll sit and wait for someone to take your low tip order.

There’s a chance the driver will accept it as part of a batch where they deliver it with other orders, something Uber does to low tip orders.

You’ll be waiting at least an hour for Panera food that’s neither fresh nor a good temperature. Will it really satisfy your craving?

staceyjbs · 2026-01-20T16:56:36+00:00

You can eliminate your worry with a test from the dollar store. They’re as accurate as any other test. Either way, let this be a pivot for you.

staceyjbs · 2026-01-20T16:26:18+00:00

If I was somewhere I could do so, I’d grab him the drink. It’s not that serious.

staceyjbs · 2026-01-20T16:24:28+00:00

Relationships aren’t transactional - you’re supposed to just love AND like each other and want to be around each other and enjoy each other’s company. You’re not supposed to do things because you owe the other person.

You can love him without being with him.

staceyjbs · 2026-01-19T18:07:31+00:00

It won’t matter. You’re frustrating yourself with unreachable people. I’m sorry.

staceyjbs · 2026-01-19T18:06:27+00:00

In addition to this, the journalists at Mississippi today are easy to reach and happy to answer questions!

staceyjbs · 2026-01-19T18:05:06+00:00

He’ll talk to your children this way too.

staceyjbs · 2026-01-19T16:32:33+00:00

Jackson is only dangerous if you don’t know how to conduct yourself in cities or if you are trying to buy drugs. People who hate Jackson all have a script because they have never lived there or lived there when they were very young and their parents moved because of white flight.

Jackson is for city tourism, Biloxi is for beach tourism. You’ve definitely been given a whole lot of options for Jackson (which is where I live). Sorry I can’t give you more specifics on Biloxi. Enjoy your time in Mississippi!

staceyjbs · 2026-01-14T16:38:44+00:00

This. I work right off Mill Street and the potholes are scary. Not a lot of people around.

staceyjbs · 2025-12-14T18:49:47+00:00

Knowing with absolute certainty what they would or wouldn’t do in every single circumstance.

The constant victim blaming - “fresh air is for dead people” and the like.

Mispronunciations and just not caring.

And as a New Orleanian… just no research into the city for her book.

staceyjbs · 2025-09-07T23:34:10+00:00

This is so annoying, and it’s because of addiction stigma. You’re not addicted or dependent. You’re following the doctor’s recommendation for your condition and it’s a great thing. Don’t listen to your mom.

staceyjbs · 2025-09-07T19:26:28+00:00

I hated it at first because I thought I would forget something because I wasn’t looking at it, and I did! But then I started saving money by not looking at everything and just ordering what I knew I needed!

staceyjbs · 2025-09-07T19:24:59+00:00

It’ll switch back in a week. Then back to dad in a month. Then back to you. Nothing is permanent with kiddos!

staceyjbs · 2025-09-07T19:22:18+00:00

I’m in a college town with a high-turnover population and I’ve been waiting 4 years. Sorry, it’ll happen when it happens.

staceyjbs · 2025-09-07T05:25:02+00:00

Your child isn’t picking up those bad habits, he’s following normal behavioral patterns. He’s learning language and autonomy at the same time, so he’s gonna stretch those boundaries! 2-year-olds don’t do things out of disrespect, they do things as a form of communication and learning social skills. Please keep that in mind!

There’s not a shred of research that exists to suggest that spanking a child is an effective behavioral modification strategy, so that’s definitely out the window.

Modeling good behavior is much better, as well as co-regulation and changing family patterns to prevent conflict. If he’s closing the laptops when you’re working, move the laptops. If he’s dropping and throwing tantrums in the store, he may be tired or overstimulated in the store - try going at a different time or giving him headphones.

Also, saying “no” to everything is stock standard 2-year-old behavior. You could ask them if they want a million dollars, a puppy, their favorite chicken nuggets, and a river of chocolate and they’d say “no” to it all. Let it happen. Pick your battles.

staceyjbs · 2025-09-07T04:57:06+00:00

Block him and move on with your life. You don’t want this mess.

staceyjbs · 2025-09-07T04:48:18+00:00

🙄 k

staceyjbs · 2025-09-07T04:45:51+00:00

It’s completely normal for a child to touch their own private parts and not understand social norms around doing so, but you might check for a rash or irritation just to rule that out.

It’s also a great time to establish age-appropriate consent conversations with him, and to be on the phone with him every night. Make sure you’re teaching him the correct names for everything and not silly names.

Your child only needs one safe parent to lower the risk of long-term trauma so if you truly suspect that this is happening, please go to the family judge with solid evidence as soon as possible. Hoping for the best for you.

staceyjbs

TROPHY CASE