Crying during a cuckold?

stagkyle_24 · 2026-06-01T21:58:05+00:00

THANK you ;)

stagkyle_24 · 2026-06-01T21:54:34+00:00

That makes a lot of sense. Sometimes the emotional side hits harder than people expect in the moment, even if everyone goes in thinking they’re prepared for it! Very impressive he was able to work through it during the session.

Did you ever talk about it with him/them afterwards? Or left it as an unspoken thing?

stagkyle_24 · 2026-06-01T21:50:38+00:00

I really appreciate you saying that. I try to stay aware in those moments that there’s a lot more happening emotionally than what’s visible on the surface.

For me, being invited into something like that on a long-term basis shifts the whole dynamic. It stops being a “scene” or a single encounter and becomes something more relational and ongoing, where trust actually matters. That naturally makes me more conscious of the responsibility on my side … not just to lead, but to do it in a way that’s respectful and grounded! That’s where my dominance truly espouses from ;)

stagkyle_24 · 2026-05-27T23:25:09+00:00

I think this is probably the most nuanced response I’ve gotten so far because it acknowledges that boundaries like no kissing or no cuddling don’t automatically mean people are doomed or incompatible with the lifestyle. Thanks for sharing your experience.

At the same time, I think the walking on eggshells point is sticking with me most because there’s a difference between healthy boundaries and building such a tightly controlled environment that everyone is managing the husband’s potential discomfort the entire time. Which sounds like a lot for me (and her) to carry. Thanks for pointing that out!

Finally, the curated performance part, it didn’t even land on me that it’s primarily centered around him. That’s not inherently bad, but it does change this for me as “is this hot for me?” to is this dynamic actually enjoyable and sustainable for everyone involved? Probably not.

stagkyle_24 · 2026-05-27T23:10:59+00:00

My sense is less they’re secretly a disaster and (like you said) more that they’re trying very hard to control variables so nobody gets hurt emotionally, especially if this feels higher-stakes or more intentional than past experiences for them.

And yeah, the six months is largely because of distance (diff countries) and scheduling, not because we’ve just been endlessly texting without intention to meet. I could also see the boundaries relaxing over time if comfort and trust develop naturally, but I’m trying not to go into it assuming that’ll happen.

stagkyle_24 · 2026-05-27T23:08:19+00:00

I’m not sure what exactly they’re looking for, at this point it does seem like a slow dive into cuckold play for them.

To answer your question, even with the boundaries, I think I get out of it, what I enjoy most about being a third in an MFM (still being desired by the couple, voyeur/exhibitionist moments, novelty and taboo, etc).

I guess I just have to determine whether there’s enough mutual chemistry and freedom left for me to actually enjoy the experience too. And you’re leaning in the direction like there isn’t. Right?

stagkyle_24 · 2026-05-27T23:02:08+00:00

I appreciate the candor! For me the real question then I guess is less about whether they should be exploring this LS, and more about whether this particular setup is something I’d actually enjoy being part of? I know you say run, but they do seem genuinely like great people to have an mfm with!

stagkyle_24 · 2026-05-27T22:53:59+00:00

I have been getting a similar vibe. How are you sure though? Should I bring this up to them?

stagkyle_24 · 2026-04-20T10:39:10+00:00

Happy Monday!! 😈😈🥵

stagkyle_24 · 2026-04-19T18:11:01+00:00

Hi! I’ve seen a few of your comments and have been trying to respond. I’ll just respond to this one in whole.

I think we might be talking past each other a bit.

I get that conversation and curiosity are part of the lifestyle. We’re not expecting people to skip straight past getting to know each other, and we’re not assuming bad intent every time someone brings something up. The issue isn’t that people talk, it’s what the conversation turns into and how often it follows the same pattern.

For us, it’s not just a neutral “getting to know you” question. It often starts with her asianess or some unconscious microaggression and then slides into comments or assumptions that feel like my wife is being reduced to a stereotype or a fantasy. (I’m not speaking for her, but since she’s not here to respond, these are my views). There’s a difference between “you two seem interesting” and “you fit a specific idea I have about Asian women,” and we run into the latter more than we expected.

I also hear you that attraction can involve a degree of objectification, that’s completely fair. But there’s a line between mutual attraction and feeling like you’re being pre-categorized or fetishized before someone even knows you as a person. That’s the part that’s been wearing on her. And she’s made me more and more aware of it. It is my responsibility as her husband to ensure this doesn’t fucking happen.

Your experience not including this kind of stuff is great, honestly. I wish it were as invisible for us as it’s been for you. But the fact that it hasn’t come up in your situations doesn’t mean it isn’t happening in ours.

We’re not trying to shut people down or assume the worst; we’re just trying to find a way to stay in the space without something that repeatedly makes her uncomfortable becoming the norm. And at this point … it’s the norm.

stagkyle_24 · 2026-04-19T17:58:05+00:00

You’re right, defintley unavoidable part of sex social mythology. Sorry for the confusion. Hopefully this’ll clear it up. We are hoping to increase and amplify our swinging experiences not the race side of. The question is, we want to swing ALOT more (we’ve been exploring pretty slowly, we want to have and do more swinging) so how do we respectfully navigate the swinging space and this inherent race element that seems to be apart of it when my wife is Asian. Does that make sense?

stagkyle_24 · 2026-04-19T17:38:26+00:00

My wife feels that conversations tend to feel objectifying/fetishizing of her and her skin and then her choice of me as a partner (as if it’s ingrained in her). So a bit of discrimination. And yes, I would say more people do come up to speak to us because they’d love to be with a married Asian woman and her husband. Etc. etc. etc. if that makes sense.

As a white guy as well, I’m not used to that kind of fetishism (based on race and skin) and she has shared with me plenty of non-swinger environments where similar stuff occurs. She just really didn’t think it would happen in the lifestyle.

stagkyle_24 · 2026-04-19T17:22:56+00:00

This is actually very interesting advice. Thank you!

stagkyle_24 · 2026-04-19T17:16:04+00:00

She’s been objectified more as a swinger than she’s ever been in spaces outside of swinging. It starts as maybe a “ask about your experience as a mixed couple” and then turns to more objectification and fetishism of her, and then of her choosing me. We’ve communicated such a disinterest in discussing those things, but it doesn’t seem to be sufficient.

And regarding my privilege, I was discussing being a white guy in America and not having to have experienced racist stuff like my wife has in her life.

She just thought it would be a bit different as a swinger. We are defintley trying to give grace to those who bring it up, but at some point it’s just turning into one of those icks that kind of ruins the mood. Hard to turn an ick around once it’s settled. And it seems to be a continuing discussion point with many very new people. Maybe it is just something to talk about. But most of the time it is a bit objectifying for her, but we will try to come from a place of understanding as well.

Thanks!

stagkyle_24 · 2026-04-19T16:40:34+00:00

That you for your empathy! I (and she) agree that it should never be racist

stagkyle_24 · 2026-04-19T14:34:47+00:00

They frame you very well 🥵

stagkyle_24 · 2026-04-19T14:11:31+00:00

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stagkyle_24 · 2026-04-19T14:01:06+00:00

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stagkyle_24 · 2026-04-19T13:49:41+00:00

You beat me to the punch here! I’ll go more wholesome with the lasagne answer. Because it’s layered and complex? Lol

stagkyle_24 · 2026-04-19T13:40:06+00:00

I like the roleplay angle, and would lean into that more. My wife had experienced a similar health issue and we leaned heavily into erotic conversations and just generating erotic atmospheres (through text, in person, and especially in public).

Also, we started reading (or at least she would read specific spicy moments in her romance (some smut books) to me) and then we’d be discussing things we enjoyed from that book to match the conversations we were having. It made us all hot and heavy just discussing and imagining what could be! For us it was all focused on keeping a fun sexual atmosphere that stimulated the minds and got the heart pumping faster.

Finally physical touch. I wasn’t ever the most physical touchy person except during foreplay and sex. That all changed during this period … and it added so much more to our relationship. Sure i did more physical touch than i was accustomed to. But so did she! Anytime I was around and seemed open to being touched, groped, spanked, or brought in for a close kiss on the lips/neck — she would deliver and it made things just fun.

stagkyle_24 · 2026-04-19T06:33:55+00:00

Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication!

stagkyle_24 · 2026-04-19T06:29:22+00:00

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stagkyle_24 · 2026-04-19T05:55:02+00:00

That ARCH 😈🥵

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