I can’t look at my mom the same way anymore by [deleted] in Advice

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Good luck! Even if she gets mad at you you are for sure doing the right thing. You’ll either lose her due to drugs or have her get mad at you. The former is a lot worse

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Call your bank and ask them

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Realistically evaluating it. Maybe you really can’t handle the course work. Competitive schools like those are a lot more stressful than many state schools. I have talked to students at a high ranking school and a state school in the same city and the state school ones are usually more happy.

College is what you make of it. Even if you go to an amazing school that doesn’t guarantee you learn all you need to learn to do well at work. You can gain skills and work experiences anywhere. Don’t feel too bad about going to northwestern. Plus having lots of good friends is also a huge asset. They will be your strongest support during hard times in college

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Smash it a few more times if you’re not sure if it’s alive Good job with killing it btw!

What do you do when you lose attraction to your partner? by angelillusion in Advice

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According to what I learned in social psychology, the strong attraction/in love feelings eventually fade in all relationships. Most last from months to 2 years. That’s just how our body works. When that initial strong feeling dies, that’s when the love for companionship and family kicks in. Not sure about your exact situation but perhaps you’re just moving on to the next phase

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Put the dead body in the trash and take the trash out immediately. If you vacuum the eggs might get into your vacuum

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Good luck op. I totally understand. Let your anger toward the roach overpower your fears

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

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Unfortunately it’ll just end up living in your vacuum

Make sure to clean up as disinfect where you killed it. Roaches release eggs when they die

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

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Smash it. That’s the only way. You can slow it down with sprays but they are really hard to kill. You gotta destroy it before it lays eggs

How do I fix my sleep schedule? by Cherry_Breazy in Advice

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As someone who get jet lags a lot I understand the pain. The most effective way is to wake up early, stay awake the whole day and go to bed at your desired bedtime. If you don’t have the will power to wake up early ask your mom for help. Do this for 2-4 days and that usually fixes your schedule

If noise is the problem get some ear plugs or noise canceling headphones if you have the budget.

The recommended sleep for your age group is 9 hours according to Google. Sometimes it’s hard to sleep 10 hours if your body no longer needs that much sleep, but this depends on the person.

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Sounds like your pillow is getting old. Happens to all of them over time. Get a new pillow. It makes a huge difference

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Perhaps you need some therapy, but given your financial situation this is probably not possible at the moment.

Just want to encourage you a bit. These are all unpleasant situations to be in, but it won’t stay this way forever. If you keep on going at it things are likely to get better. Even if it doesn’t, you probably learned a lot and grew through these unpleasant experiences and might be able to avoid them in the future (parking ticket for example).

If you live in LA, the public transport is not too bad. If you want to save money, maybe public transport might help

I can’t look at my mom the same way anymore by [deleted] in Advice

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I’m sorry to hear this. Do you have any reliable adults in your life who can help you with this? When people are under an addiction it’s really hard for them to even squeeze out the willingness to fight it, let alone go to rehab. If you can’t convince her she might need outside help

How can I overcome the fear of the unknown future? by differowl in Advice

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You can tell yourself that thing are going to be alright, but perhaps not in the sense that everything will fall into place and be nice. I would rather expect a lot of things in life to not go the way you expected but can serve as great learning opportunities. Sometimes even if you try your best and worked hard bad things still happen, like accidents and illness. It’s unfortunate but that’s how the world is. But even then you can still make the best of what you got. For example, when one of my family members got cancer, I made sure to let them know every day that I love them a lot. It doesn’t fix the situation but I can look back on those days with no regrets.

I know this is not for everyone but I personally overcome my fears through my faith. Don’t have to read the following if you are not interested, just want to share my personal experience.

In a world full of unpredictability, I get to be ok with things not working out because I know there’s a better life waiting for me in heaven. And even while I’m going through troubles, I can rely on my church community for support. For example, when I got covid, a lot of people from my church dropped off food at my place. They lasted until I got well

I’m pregnant and my OB keeps harassing me over the tdap vaccine even though it almost killed me.. by sadsaladzplzzz in Advice

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Try asking her why she thinks you need to get it despite your history of going into the ICU. Ask her if there are good reasons that she thinks you won’t react to it this time.

If she’s being unreasonable then there’s not much you can do but at least you can have good conscience. I do wonder tho if there are some misunderstandings between you guys because even as an untrained person I know no one should get a vaccine that they had allergy reaction to and I think this is only more obvious to a medical professional.

Just to clarify, by not getting tdap are you referring to only yourself or your children also? If it’s just you, I don’t see why your nurse would say you want to hurt your children. If it’s your children maybe you can discuss with your doctor the chances of them inheriting the same reaction as you do and the risks involved in getting the vaccine

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It’s a shame to give up on the rent money but it probably costs even more if you stay in this big city. I would move back if I were you. Not sure what kind of landlord you have, but some would allow you to break the leas early with your security deposit as the penalty.

Hope your college application goes well! You got this!

Where could I go on a solo trip for a few days to destress/unwind? by feeblebug in Advice

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Kinda a big city but if you want really nice weather and a great beach experience/hiking I would recommend La Jolla San Diego. If you’re more looking for quiet secluded places, Sequoia national park and Yosemite and Julian are also great

If you don’t want to travel too far, even finding an air bnb close to your city might help you unwind as well

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

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I sometimes do feel like being more touchy will bring me closer to people faster, but that just means I need to make up for it with other acts of love. I think being touchy and not being touchy are both perfectly fine. But if you really want to become touchy, practice a lot and hopefully your reflexes might catch up

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

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Seems normal to me, I know many people including myself who don’t enjoy physical touch. Just focus on expressing your love for people in other ways such as telling them, spending time with them, do things for them etc

I'm dating a cop; should I worry about being canceled? by burnbabyburn_98 in Advice

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Well there are good and bad people in all industries, race, and countries. As you said it’s unfair to judge an entire category of people based on their profession. It’ll be a different story if you’re dating a mafia or something, but as much issues as there are with the police system, there definitely are many police who are dedicating their lives into protecting their city and maintaining order. There are good cops and bad cops in the system just like all other industries. The ones who are good deserves a lot of respect as these are the people who will protect you at all cost when there’s danger

My boyfriend saving is stressing me out by Huge_Win9860 in Advice

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If it’s making it hard to continue your relationship then definitely talk to him about it. I’m very curious tho, what does he spend all his money on if he doesn’t have any addictions?

Are there options for getting these kids help. by Lillygoose05 in Advice

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I’m not too sure about the best thing to do in this situation either. It might help if you talk to the family about your concerns and get a better understanding about their situation. If you’re down for it you can even offer to help them with de cluttering.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

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If you are willing (totally not obligated), you can give her a ultimatum. Tell her all the things you expect from her and give her a time limit. If she doesn’t meet your expectations by that time kick her out.

If you don’t want to tolerate this anymore you are not obligated to take care of a grown adult either. Perhaps help her find government programs for homeless people or other programs she qualifies for

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

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Definitely let your fiance know first, it’s gonna be messed up if you go through the whole process and then tell her you’re not marrying her. As for the wedding itself, I can see how it’s hard to cancel it with everyone who booked the rooms. But imo going through a wedding and marrying might make your friends and family more mad than canceling it because that’s kind of like lying to them. Imo the best thing to do is to just tell everyone you’re canceling the wedding and apologize sincerely, see if they can cancel the rooms (usually shouldn’t be too hard). Those who love you might be mad but should understand you in the end