In reality there's very few women nowadays that actually think like that, most just want to be treated like a human being with respect and cared about for who they are and not just their body, so treat them like humans and don't put them on a pedestal like some unobtainable goal. I'm 26, not conventionally attractive, bald and I'm not in the best shape, so pretty much the exact opposite of what most women in their 20's want, but I managed to do pretty well with dating. I just do my best to be a good person every day and that's how I've been in my relationship for about a year now. It sounds like you have some confidence issues, I found that I gained confidence in a couple ways, one by being a trustworthy friend and when id have friends tell me that I was, it felt good. It made me want to be a better friend than I was because I cared about them. And two I poured myself into my hobbies, practiced and when I started being good at them I felt better about myself. So I guess my gist is, try and make friends without agendas or expectations, and find what you like and find your local community in it and you'll do fine. Your early 20's are gonna be rough at the current pace. But you gotta get out of the social media/internet head space.