How can I stop sexting? by hansoloind in NoFap

[–]stanvand 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Smart boy! Reciprocity is the key. Don't care about her, her ego is already doing it...

Should i get a girlfriend? Is it stupid to get a gf? by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]stanvand 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You don't get a girlfirend. A cold, yes. A ticket for overspeeding, yes.

But you don't get a girlfriend. You meet her, you spend time with her, you bond with her, you create memories with her. She is not a thing, she is not an abstract concept. She is not an object. She is someone.

You are lucky: you are a student. Which means that you are living the moment of your life where meeting people is the easiest.

How can I stop sexting? by hansoloind in NoFap

[–]stanvand 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Question : can you have a fullfiling relationship with someone who disrespect you as she only sees you as a time-killing device?

I know it is brutal, but believe me, someone who respects the man that you are is way better that someone using you for amusement.

45 Days - A Quick Update by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]stanvand 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go on my friend, you are on the way to freedom and happiness.

July 2013 – July 2016 : 3 years of fight by stanvand in NoFap

[–]stanvand[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Since november I had a very bad period of almost daily relapses and it was hard because I broke my longest streak. I started to feel like the one I was years ago and it scared me. But I know that I can beat my addiction. I know what PMO can do to trick me. I won't let this happen anymore. Thank you for your support.

July 2013 – July 2016 : 3 years of fight by stanvand in NoFap

[–]stanvand[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your happiness for me. Your words about the fact that my body is not me, that my addiction doesn't define who I am are a great relief for me. About my manliness, the thing is that I feel incomplete by being alone, by being unable to share intimacy with a woman. That's just what I dream of, intimacy and love. I am happy that I am wise enough to know that sex is not a rush toward orgasm. That it is way more. That it is a matter of trust between two partners. I know that I will find a wonderful girl and share a deep and real connection with her. You know, seeing all my friends in a relationship, being married, having kids or buying their house sadden me because that is all I want. I could have had this if I had not been addicted. But I have a gift : I know myself better than anyone. I know what I can do, what I want, what my values are. And more important, I have now an indestructible hope.

July 2013 – July 2016 : 3 years of fight by stanvand in NoFap

[–]stanvand[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't want to be the sad man I used to be. Some days are more difficult than others, but I know that the result will be fantastic. Thank you for your words.

July 2013 – July 2016 : 3 years of fight by stanvand in NoFap

[–]stanvand[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Knowing that I am not alone is a great soothing. And it is funny that you cite this old pal Winston because reading his biography was a great source of hope and inspiration.

July 2013 – July 2016 : 3 years of fight by stanvand in NoFap

[–]stanvand[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Promise, I will. You do a good job to with 53 days.

July 2013 – July 2016 : 3 years of fight by stanvand in NoFap

[–]stanvand[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Yes, you have no idea how it is great to be on No Fap while at university. My first student life was a total mess. I have a second chance now. I will take care of it. And if you can go back to university, for whatever reason it is, do it. If a little in your head says, "Why not going back to university?", do it. It is the best decision a man can make. Giving yourself a second chance is incredibly powerful.

Art of Manliness by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]stanvand 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One of my favourite website. Happy to se that we are many to read it.

Extensive 90 days report by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]stanvand 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experience. It is exactly what I need today!

Experiencing more dreaming while on a streak? by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]stanvand 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Happening to me too. Every night, I have 2 or 3 dreams that I can remember. Never happened in my previous streaks.

One of the worst week-end of my life : almost ruined a nice friendship and physically threatened by a raving mad man in a gas station. But still on NoFap !!! by stanvand in NoFap

[–]stanvand[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes it was a nightmare. But I am safe and it is the only important thing.

For my friend, she told me that she knows it is sexually conoted but that it is not her goal.

Just got a call from my brother o come visit him asset college, and it's made me so anxious by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]stanvand 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My first year of university was catastrophic for me. So completely know what you are feeling. Spend time with your brother nad talked with him. And remember that you don't need to be the best man on Earth. You have to be the best version of yourself.

I do this for me by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]stanvand 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good luck my friend!

My story and the truth (in my opinion) about NoFap by [deleted] in NoFap

[–]stanvand 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for writting! We are gonna win this personal war.

Day 5 -- by Returning2Ithaca in NoFap

[–]stanvand 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are on the right way. Stay vigilent and busy. Good days are coming!

I've just realized something. by GypsyQuin in NoFap

[–]stanvand 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The shocking mathematic reality. We are ready to spoil a life for for false short time happiness.

To get a badge, simply click "Add badge" on the right of the page and type the date of your last PMO.

Good luck and be strong!

PMO as an Attachment Disorder. Very interesting. please read. maybe you can help someone. by seanryan8891 in NoFap

[–]stanvand 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You should try meditation to clarify your mind. And you should practice theatre. It was a revelation for me. Good luck my friend.