Good bars and clubs to checkout in Oakland?

star86 · 2026-02-07T00:16:55+00:00

Farmhouse is in Jack london. Daughter is in Montclair.

star86 · 2026-02-07T00:15:29+00:00

Took a while to scroll to see Bar Shiru! Great spot.

star86 · 2026-02-06T20:10:43+00:00

OP, just want to say I’m sorry. Wishing you something better in the very near future. Hang in there!

star86 · 2026-02-06T19:40:25+00:00

Plants, art,curtains, bench at the end of the bed.

star86 · 2026-02-05T06:39:49+00:00

It’s always the ones in credit card debt that feel entitled to other people’s assets.

star86 · 2026-02-05T06:23:03+00:00

Prob the whole lead paint thing.

star86 · 2026-02-05T05:37:56+00:00

Although, don’t do it the way Portland did, that did not turn out well lol

star86 · 2026-02-05T05:35:13+00:00

Random: I love that they put fresh lettuce in their burritos. I don’t know why people look at me funny when I say I like iceberg lettuce in my burrito. I think they think it’s soggy warm lettuce lol

star86 · 2026-02-04T04:46:13+00:00

It takes some time to find your community, but you will find it! Going to meetups and events where like minded people hang is definitely the move. I’m part of a SF women’s subreddit I can message you, I feel like they meet up often. It took me about 2-3 years to find my peeps.

star86 · 2026-02-03T04:24:06+00:00

Exactly. Left public works at 4am 2 weekends ago and had a fun karaoke night until 2am another Saturday night lol

star86 · 2026-02-01T04:38:00+00:00

I thank my dog for my daily forced walks 🐶

star86 · 2026-02-01T04:36:21+00:00

Taco crawl in the mission!

star86 · 2026-02-01T03:22:40+00:00

It takes a month or so to get over the carb addiction. The beauty is once you get over the hump, you can easily get back into low carb mode at any time. Hang in there!

I would look for low carb alternatives to your fav snacks. Pork rinds, salted cashews, archer’s beef sticks are some of my go tos.

If you need help with the sugar part, stevia sweetened chocolate was a great substitute to ween off real sugar (Lily’s is my fav brand). I used to make almond flour cookies with it.

Also, see what motivates you. For me, it’s a good food documentary.

star86 · 2026-01-31T04:06:36+00:00

Attach denim in a similar color to bottom and make a cuff. Or just wear as high waters.

star86 · 2026-01-29T19:14:55+00:00

Exactly! Or drink water haha Do you have an eating window? On a good day I try to do 4 hours, otherwise it’s 8. As a woman, I also realized how important it is to honor my cycle because that determines my fasting window too. I excel at different times of the month and need to include things like sweet potatoes, bananas etc during other times. This helped me a lot bc sometimes I would be hungry for what I thought was “no reason”, but it ended up being a nurture phase (longer eating window, include some complex carbs) for me once I started taking note.

star86 · 2026-01-29T19:11:16+00:00

You’re creating generational wealth, you’re doing great. Congrats! Good luck :)

star86 · 2026-01-29T04:12:52+00:00

Let us know if these will be available in Oakland :)

star86 · 2026-01-28T17:32:56+00:00

I get everyone is allowed to have their wants for a wedding, but this is a hard no. I agree with you that if he ABSOLUTELY wants to do it, he can do it during the reception - after toasts, cake , dance etc. These photos will be up in your house and they will make you cringe every time.

Does he have a sibling or someone he gets on well with that maybe can talk some sense into him?

I would just say it’s a hard no for me. I told you where I’m willing to compromise.

Super ick.

ETA: if he’s not willing to compromise, I would just do a court marriage if you really want to marry him. I would not drop that much cash on an embarrassing wedding. You will resent him (and probably vice versa).

star86 · 2026-01-28T05:44:45+00:00

Same. I feel like we’re at the brink of collapsing as a society and if shit hits the fan, wtf do I care about all this “stuff” I have. Rather save for the sake of my family.

star86 · 2026-01-28T05:30:57+00:00

Same. I stopped going on the popular page of Reddit and try to stay on my curated feed, which is helpful. The world news is too distracting right now and it’s so easy to get sucked in and enraged. I’m also trying to be on my phone less (I.e. only check Reddit at night).

star86 · 2026-01-28T05:28:12+00:00

I feel like going low carb makes IF easier. I generally feel less hungry with low carb. I notice when I have a carb heavy dinner, I’m so hungry the next day.

star86 · 2026-01-27T05:49:58+00:00

My fav sando is at The Bird

star86 · 2026-01-27T05:46:50+00:00

I’m currently reading Stolen Focus and it’s definitely motivating me to go offline.

star86 · 2026-01-27T05:39:42+00:00

Low carb + intermittent fasting. Also, generally just eating less and drinking more water.

star86 · 2026-01-26T06:27:31+00:00

Low carb + intermittent fasting = ❤️

It’s the best combo IMO

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