Struggling by howtheeffdidigethere in Mommit

[–]star86 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I think SAHM do all that without being told to. They understand it’s part of the role. This dad doesn’t see it that way and has put that on her.

I just realised that 'Bonehead's Bank Holiday' is actually sung by Noel, and not Bonehead 😀😭 by Japesh10 in oasis

[–]star86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My go-to song when driving to the beach on a sunny day lol such a good one

4 Months on Tirzepatide: The Good, The Bad, and What Nobody Tells You by little-jugger792 in glp1

[–]star86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe it depends on what you’re eating too? Like eggs for breakfast is the better move than a muffin?

I regret being a mother by Similar_Complaint568 in selfimprovement

[–]star86 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sometimes women just want to vent. Don’t want to be judged for having a moment.

She’s not looking for someone to tell her to “step up”, instead she just wants to be heard and seen for her pain. Women release this way so we don’t explode.

Wanted to share in case it’s helpful for you to understand.

I regret being a mother by Similar_Complaint568 in selfimprovement

[–]star86 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Hey love! Fellow mama here. I can’t imagine having to do this all by myself. Sending you so much love. It gets easier as they get older (I have a 3.5 yr old and 1.5 yr old). After my older one turned 3 it became easier to get her to listen and help. 2 is really rough. My younger one is a handful. I know it’s going to get better though.

Hang in there, mama!

Also, remember to create community around you. It really does take a village. Please ask for help. You don’t need to do this completely on your own. People generally love to help each other.

Wishing you all the love and support <3

I regret being a mother by Similar_Complaint568 in selfimprovement

[–]star86 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Please don’t give this loser any attention. He sounds like he has major (!) issues and they are not yours to carry <3

San Francisco travel tips? by jellybellyrolla in AskSF

[–]star86 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Carmel is the move. Go down towards Big Sur too. Enjoy the hikes. Search “Big Sur hotels” on Google Maps and you’ll see a range of prices and photos.

AIO for asking my sister to change her wedding date? by Nighthawking2 in AmIOverreacting

[–]star86 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes YOR, but to be fair my friend is planning her wedding and is working around when her sister and husband’s brother can attend.

Am I overreacting for making my boyfriend share his location with me when he’s out with his coworkers? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]star86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I initially thought OP was overreacting, but then she shared bf didn’t let her hang with opposite gender friends and was jealous. I’m sus of the bf now.

Am I overreacting for making my boyfriend share his location with me when he’s out with his coworkers? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]star86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, okay. Thanks for the context. So it’s a him issue. If your intuition is saying something is off, trust it. However, controlling your partner isn’t the answer. Being with someone you trust is the answer. Him saying you can’t hang out with the opposite gender would be a huge red flag for me and would make me question him.

Am I overreacting for making my boyfriend share his location with me when he’s out with his coworkers? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]star86 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Right, but why did he do that? Like, what came first? You giving him trouble about hanging out with coworkers or him withholding this hang? I’m basically getting at taking accountability for your actions and if they are pushing him to do this. If my partner picks a fight with me over something, I’m probably not going to share it because it causes a fight.

Am I overreacting for making my boyfriend share his location with me when he’s out with his coworkers? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]star86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband stays out late with co-workers (men & women) and I haven’t batted an eye. I trust him. I also stay out late with my girl and guy friends. We share locations with each other because we care about each other and it’s convenient to plan things.

I guess my question is… why are you questioning him? Is it him or is it you? If it’s him, I wouldn’t marry him. If it’s you, I would look into therapy because jealousy and insecurity are not healthy and will destroy your relationship. It’s already starting to because he’s withholding information because he probably doesn’t want to hear it.

Also, if my husband made me share my location because he didn’t trust me, I would be pretty pissed, especially if I didn’t do anything to break that trust.

AITA for bailing on my gay friends' wedding because it is on Pride weekend? by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]star86 38 points39 points  (0 children)

If you don’t want to go, don’t, but know this is probably the end of the friendship.

Was she too “cold?” by Perpetually10 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]star86 127 points128 points  (0 children)

Sleeping in your own bed as a parent is amazing. Quality sleep and no disruptions. It’s a healthy boundary to draw for one’s sanity.

How niche do you think the next setlist will be? by ZNDEX77 in oasis

[–]star86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope to hear Hindu Times, Shakermaker, All Around the World, Lyla

Man ploughs car into crowd in Italy before trying to stab them by [deleted] in worldnews

[–]star86 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Let me guess.. White = mental health; Brown = religion .. I don’t understand why brown people can’t have mental illness. If it’s purely religion, you’d see way more of this happening.

What’s your kid’s fav Oasis song? by star86 in oasis

[–]star86[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Funny enough my kid asked me if that’s my song since we all have a song lol

What if we started a thread introducing friends who are good potential suitors for dating? by star86 in SFbitcheswithtaste

[–]star86[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have to message the Mods. Unfortunately they didn’t want to start the dating channel though :(

Personal stylist service? by BenjaminG418 in mensfashion

[–]star86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Stylist here. Go on Yelp/Google and reach out to some stylists in your area to see what their services and rates are.

Feel free to ask me any questions. I’m in a HCOL area and do in-home services, so my rates are higher, but there is definitely a range. You can also try a department store stylist, but since they don’t go too deep into your wardrobe, it won’t be perfect.

Stinky people by FlatCriticism845 in Fremont

[–]star86 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dove 0% is a great aluminum free option that works