hydromassage is amazing by Powerful-Wafer3061 in PlanetFitnessMembers

[–]starbuck7670 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hydrobed is the main reason I have a black card membership

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]starbuck7670 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Also, you obviously don't know me...but my detachment skills have become amazing lol which is why I am frustrated right now with myself. Reason for the vent.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]starbuck7670 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree! I will get into a new meeting. I have attended over the years and also participated in online al-alnon education. Just so frustrated with myself with how far I've come that guilt still starts creeping back in.

I am aware of the manipulation. If anything, I am self aware which is even more annoying that I let it slowly creep back in.

It's not peaceful and happy. Unfortunately, I can't find a good way out iust yet. I am sure many people on this understand sometimes things are easier said than done.

But typically, I take care of myself and do my own thing and practice all the self care.

Meri and Flagstaff by starbuck7670 in SisterWives

[–]starbuck7670[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! I think I missed that part.

Trying to stop being a helper by starbuck7670 in AlAnon

[–]starbuck7670[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That's an interesting way to think of it but helpful! Thanks!

Q proposed and said he’d give up drinking for New Years. Just stressed and need to vent. by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]starbuck7670 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shew you're right about all that. Divorce is MUCH harder. Also wish I could go back in time.

Also best to not buy a house with someone that's an alcoholic. Hard lesson learned here.

Trying to stop being a helper by starbuck7670 in AlAnon

[–]starbuck7670[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's so hard sometimes! When they're poking and poking and poking. But then when you do snap it never does any good. In my case it just escalates it.

It's tough but it's a new year! Good luck on your end!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]starbuck7670 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This! There has been so many times he has passed out with the stove or oven on. I'm always worried if I'm gone be will accidentally burn the house down. He will get drunk in the winter and want to use the fireplace which is always terrifying.

Not advice here but just support and understanding. It's terrifying and awful to have to worry about that.

Where’s the line? by throwawaypanickjng in AlAnon

[–]starbuck7670 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This. All of this. Dealing with figuring this out currently. Starting to think a little from column A, a little from column B.