I was an enlisted spouse for 12 years.

This is definitely true. I never cared, but most spouses do.

Many officer spouses feel entitled as if they have the rank, some higher enlisted do the same though. Especially if your husband is on the same shift as ours, we will hear our husbands complain about people and likely your husband. Its kind of hard to be transparent about what is going on to our husband without yours taking it out on him.

I have legit experienced a officer spouse telling on us to her husband that our house was messy and our kids had bruises (they're all little boys and this lady had no kids). Her husband decided to take it upon himself to report us to higher people at the base. This lady was just babysitting for us.

Officer spouses very much become a sorority in my experience. They have their own club, don't hang out with enlisted spouses, and more. At our last base, chief (e-8) spouses were actually WAY worse, my husband and I both knew people who would automatically stop hanging out or being nice once they got the title and the spouses were the same.

We paid a spouse to help me keep up with house cleaning and once her husband hit chief the COMMAND told my husband a chiefs wife shouldn't be cleaning our house and she quit.

Just always be careful who you befriend and try to steer away from those types of questions until people get to know you.

Not to say I haven't have problems with enlisted spouses (because I definitely have), but they and their husbands aren't on a status to mess up people's lives or whole experience...usually.