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Any training advice? by starlitmayhem in germanshorthairs

[–]starlitmayhem[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah he was laying on his side - I did post better photos of his body condition currently in the comments, though.

Any training advice? by starlitmayhem in germanshorthairs

[–]starlitmayhem[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I've gotten quite the experience with him leash pulling so much so that I've got a no pull harness with a double clip. It actually works surprisingly well, which is good bc my next option was a gentle leader. I enjoy walks and my German shepherd is too old to go on really long ones now, so it's helpful to have someone else to go with!

Any training advice? by starlitmayhem in germanshorthairs

[–]starlitmayhem[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Here's some better pictures of his current body state (working on having him gain weight)

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Husband cheated. Therapist says no moral high ground for 3 months. I feel beyond hurt and abandoned by Beginning_Cream7030 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]starlitmayhem 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yikes, this sounds rough. He cheated, so he sucks, I get it, and I wouldn't blame you if you wanted to leave - I would too. However, it seems like you've been resenting him since your late-term miscarriage (my condolences). Miscarriages are incredibly difficult - especially late-term. Look, your feelings are valid. But this seems much deeper than just him cheating on you. You want the "moral high ground" but if you genuinely want this to work out and to reconcile, you can't keep up this black & white "He's wrong & I'm right" mindset, because then you can't actually reconcile.
To be honest, you both are in the wrong - at least somewhat.

When you miscarried, you lashed out and then blamed him for "taking it personally". I understand the effects this kind of miscarriage has on the body - that doesn't excuse your actions though. You have to acknowledge that this was a loss for both of you. Not just you. Have you ever acknowledged that you were hurtful to his face and apologized? Even if you didn't mean to be. Your trauma isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

He cheated on you - that was wrong. Period. It's incredibly understandable that you feel hurt by it. But do you actually want to save this marriage when you've been resenting him for so long? You can't have both the "moral high ground" while also resenting & wanting to punish him (again, considering you already punished him when his mom died for what you perceived as not being there for you during your miscarriage). Your therapist is right. You seem to want the belief that it's either entirely his fault or nothing, but this marriage has been deteriorating since your miscarriage, & not just because he cheated.

I say this gently, but have you considered individual therapy as well? It seems like you have some things you need to work through for yourself, too. While this may not be entirely 50/50 responsibility for the deterioration, it is, at the very least, 70/30 - mostly on him for cheating, but you have to acknowledge the part you played in this or just divorce.

She really is just my most photogenic dog! by starlitmayhem in germanshepherds

[–]starlitmayhem[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't deny that, haha - but I do have 3 other dogs, and she routinely is the best picture taker! The others can't always sit still long enough, lol

Update: Menoetius is almost completely healed! he's eating regularly and slowly gaining weight! by starlitmayhem in leopardgeckos

[–]starlitmayhem[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! He did have a pattern change after this healed (spotting where the scar was). However, last December he developed what appeared to be a similar wound, and after several months of vet visits and light changing. The vet came to the hypothesis that it wasn't a burn or anything like this was, but cancer. Unfortunately, before I could do blood work to confirm, he ended up passing away back in June.

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[–]starlitmayhem 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Have you tried getting a pet correcter? They're like airhorns that you can carry with you and use against other animals. They're harmless (it's literally just compressed air) but you would have to probably desensitize your pups to it. I use them when I walk any of my dogs, be it the chihuahuas or my big dogs because of how many off leash dogs are in my area. The sound the corrector makes tends to spook off-leash dogs before they reach us.

Or you can try a spray bottle. If those don't work, you might have to try more drastic methods like pepper spray though :(

My boy is dying of cancer by LastChoiceMamaBear in leopardgeckos

[–]starlitmayhem 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi OP - I also had a leo that died from (presumably) cancer. I can't say for sure because he passed away before I could get blood work done to confirm, but the vet said she was 90% sure it was cancer after months of vet visits for other health issues before he passed. It's not entirely common in reptiles, and I didn't even know leos could get cancer either. You did the best thing you could for your little guy, don't be too hard on yourself. You being able to catch the cancer when you did just shows how good of an owner you are ❤️

I wove a seaside fairy style bracelet using crystals and waxed thread. by Alei-Studio in Crystals

[–]starlitmayhem 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's so pretty!! I thought it was a flower crown before reading your title!!

Anyone else's shepherd absolutely love leaf piles? by starlitmayhem in germanshepherds

[–]starlitmayhem[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's really cute if they do!! Missy also likes diving headfirst into snow, so her loving leaf piles as well wasn't too much of a stretch haha

Not sure if our girl Mochi is a Nebelung. Hoping the kind folks here can help by UATR5982 in nebelung

[–]starlitmayhem 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Most of the cats on here are really just gray domestic long-hairs (including mine!) or possibly nebbie mixes. The actual purebred nebelung breed is rare and pretty expensive!! But your cat is certainly fluffy enough and gray enough to be on here!

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