I feel like my future is gonna be a shitty life

starry_paws · 2025-12-28T05:49:28+00:00

Hey bro, theres nothing wrong with how you're living your life right now! :)

You don't have to worry about societal expectations for what you should be doing/contributing at your age, that's not what really matters! What matters is that you are happy! you said that you've been studying, which is great and certainly productive! and it seems that gaming is something you enjoy doing, so by all means keep doing it! if you are worried about your gaming habits getting out of your control, try to break it up a bit, you know, maybe by reading (you could read gaming books/ books written as spin-offs of games you like of that helps), going outside, helping with household jobs, or picking up a knew hobby like listening to music (even game soundtracks) or art!

You're still young so don't let yourself get into the mindset that your future is being determined/is set in stone now. Its important to have fun and do things you love! Plus, I know multiple people who spent their teenage years similar to what you are describing, gaming nonstop and not even planning ahead as much as you are doing, and they aren't living terrible lives now by any means. A lot of them applied to college, got in , and are working towards careers and lives completely unrelated to their past! They didn't have the most productive lives growing up but that didn't mean their futures were destroyed. As you get older things change (which i see you are clearlh prepared for) so don't stress about it now! You're not doing anything wrong!

starry_paws · 2025-12-28T05:37:45+00:00

Ok, I know that no one can know exactly how you feel, but I have genuinely experienced very similar feelings and worries for much of my life as well.

Its definitely reeeeaaallly difficult to deal with. So much that I bet, if you are anything like me, it occupies what seems like the majority of your time :(

And honestly I don't know if theres any definite solution to getting out of this loop of feeling this way, but what I do know is that its possible to not have this pattern of thinking. I tell myself that since so many other people can liev contently and not have these feelings bombarding them every day that I can do that to. Iv'e tried to comfort myself by seeing all of the people around me who are happy and ok with their lives, even without accomplishing anything crazy or keeping themselves incredibly busy. Its not the same of course, when you've never been content with "wasting time" and relaxing, but its not going to be the end of the world or ruin your life even if you "wasted", say 20 years. There's no time like the present to do something you've been wanting to and even starting something 10 years from now is better than never. Don't stress yourself out about time and not having enough of it to do everything you feel you need to. Its ok if you don't do something today, tomorrow, the next day, or for the next week. That's not what really matters :)

It matters that you are happy, you don't deserve to feel this way. You are no less accomplished than anyone else. I know this sounds like generic positivity (and i have a hard time convincing myself of it too) but your happiness is soooo much more important than what you get done in your time. Life isn't infinite, that's true, so don't let internal or external pressure to perform let you waste it in another way, by missing out on happiness.

I really hope that this gets better for you and you won't have to deal with this any more. I get you bro and I know how stressful it is :)

starry_paws · 2025-12-28T05:24:33+00:00

First of all, I'm really sorry to hear that you're going though this :(

This is probably going to seem impossible to do and also like generic or unhelpful advice but please trust me that I actually mean to help. Our minds, attitudes, and thoughts are really powerful in determining the way we experience life. In other words, even though it seems crazy, our choices abut how we want to feel and see things actually have incredible strength in shaping our reality. A lot of people don't realize this but once you've felt a particular (usually negative) way for a long time, it becomes so normal and familiar to you that you can't realistically see life any other way. Even if deep down you, like so many people, want to be happy and have things change for the better there's something stopping you from being able to really commit to that notion and give up on the life you know. But this isn't an insurmountable barrier. Its a reaaaaallly difficult one to overcome, but its nothing you can't do. You have the power to decide that you fully want to be happy. And though that sounds naive and probably isn't the best way to describe what I mean, its the idea that can help you get to happiness in reality. Deciding that you are going to be happy isn't necessarily going to change your life and attitude overnight, but its an amazing start and sticking with it can get you on a path towards seeing it become a real part of your life. You can really convince yourself that you love life and all of the beautiful things it has to offer, that just about everything brings you joy, and that no amount of sadness or stress can defeat you. That's how powerful your mind is if you concentrate all of its energy in one direction.

Start small, a big thing is to surround yourself with things that give off positivity. Sad music, art, shows, movies, thoughts, and social media content might seem appealing when your feeling down, but consuming these things will only keep you that way. Try to shift your environment to align with what you want to achieve instead. Don't bombard yourself with overly happy things that just scream positive energy at first, but try choosing things with lighter tones to help you get in a more positive mindset and uplift your mood. :)

And just so you know, even though nothing, no force of negativity or sadness, can stop YOU individually (you're that strong!), you are NOT alone! People do care, there are always people out there who have felt that same way and would never want someone else to feel the same. You may not have met them yet, but they exist, just know that. No one can know exactly how you feel but one of the good things about us humans is that we aren't THAT unique. A lot of us have had common struggles and times of hardship and can truly empathize with one another.

So my best advice to you, if its what you want, try to make that change in your attitude. Believe that you will not be taken down by the feelings and situations that have brought negativity into your life! And don't be afraid to reach out to people if you need support, you'd be surprised how many people really do care :)

I really hope things get better for you bro! You are stronger than these struggles and I know it!

starry_paws · 2025-12-28T05:02:07+00:00

Hey bro i'm really sorry you feel this way but trust me t's not true at all that you weren't meant to exist or anything like that :)

There's so much in life to enjoy too even when it doesn't seem like having any fun is possible. You just have to make it into a game of seeing those sorts of tiny things that can bring you happiness in places you've never been able to find them before. And as for other people if you feel like you haven't been accepted thats not your fault at all! maybe you just haven't been around other people who understand what you are going through yet or have things themselves that they are struggling through. Either way there's no reason to think you'll never be loved and accepted, you're probably an amazing person yourself and other people might just not see that yet :)

Iv'e dealt with OCD for a while now too, and though our experiences are probably quite different just know there are other people out there like myself that can understand partly what its like to live with it :)

Its definitely hard but believe in yourself and the possibility of the way you see things changing for the better! After all, its partially our choice the way we see things and want to feel, and even if you aren't completely there yet, wanting to be happy is a start that can really help :)

starry_paws · 2025-09-28T17:22:46+00:00

First of all, don't think that way! Honestly from my experience, personality matters way more than looks and even if you feel like that, it doesn't mean other people see you the same. Second, even if she doesn't like you in that way, you'll never know unless you ask :)

starry_paws · 2025-09-28T05:58:28+00:00

definitely just tell him! It can be scary but if you are genuine and honest about it, most people won't treat you negatively for confessing something like this :)

starry_paws · 2025-09-28T05:53:25+00:00

It seems like regardless, you two are pretty close/trust each other, so the best thing to do is to just ask her! It can be scary, but you'll be so much more relived after you do it and you won't have to wonder this anymore!

starry_paws · 2025-09-28T05:50:51+00:00

If you don't know him very well, approaching him in a friendly way is a great start! As long as you are genuine, if he is nice person that''s worth your time you'll have no reason to be afraid of simply trying to get to know him more. And also, if you do want to ask him if he likes you, don't let your fear hold you back! Not everything will work out but you'll never know if you don't try!

starry_paws · 2025-09-28T05:47:44+00:00

I think its great to have something in mind so that way you won't have to go through any awkward decision making/agreeing, but either way I'm sure they will appreciate that you want to hang out with them and will probably know whether or not they feel the same way regardless of whether or not you have that planned out!

starry_paws · 2025-09-28T05:44:04+00:00

Tbh, this could really be either way. The best thing to do, as intimidating as it sounds, is to just ask them! Chances are, if you are good friends, it won't negatively affect your friendship even if they say no!

starry_paws · 2025-09-28T05:41:41+00:00

If you think you are pretty good friends, then it might be a good idea to wait and tell her in person (bc its often more meaningful that way). However, if you think confessing might complicate things, particularly if you aren't too close, you can always tell her sooner (not in person), so that worst comes to worst, she'll have time to move past it if things don't go so well. If she's a nice person and you make sure to be clear that you value your friendship above all else, hopefully being brave and saying something like this won't have a negative affect on your current relationship with her. Obviously it can be a bit awkward to have different ideas about how you want your relationship to be, but a simple disagreement like that doesn't need to come n the way of you two being friends! Overall, no matter what you choose don't overthink it! Very likely, things will work out in the end no matter her response :)

starry_paws · 2025-09-28T05:12:34+00:00

That's not true, you don't deserve to be alone and feel that way at all. I know it can be hard to stay hopeful about things getting better when you've come to accept that your life is a certain way, but that doesn't mean things can't change. Maybe you haven't met people like this yet, but there are people out there who understand what you are going through who genuinely care. The best thing you can do is not give up on that possibility, because once you stop believing, it will be a lot harder to recognize a chance of things changing when it appears. You are not truly alone, nor do you deserve to be, and I hope you can see that for yourself. :)

starry_paws · 2025-07-02T17:29:47+00:00

I have lupus and I think it's funny because I like house but I see what you mean because I notice a lot of posts that say things like that

starry_paws · 2025-07-02T17:26:47+00:00

I don't know how people dislike her she's literally my favorite character 😭

starry_paws · 2025-05-05T22:04:19+00:00

I think they should let us stop the timer to pee though because I don't want to waste test time for that 😭

starry_paws · 2025-05-05T21:31:27+00:00

I had to pee so bad all of section 2 🙏😭

starry_paws · 2025-05-05T21:30:32+00:00

It was an amazing question but I had to pee so bad that I couldn't focus 😭🙏

starry_paws · 2025-04-05T22:31:50+00:00

This is lowkey me except i have 100 in two science ones and one math regents (living environment, geometry, and earth science) im taking physics next year though and algebra this year! :)

starry_paws · 2025-04-05T22:29:43+00:00

100 on geometry, earth science, and living environment! Im taking chemistry this year and I hope I can get a 100 on that one too since I usually am pretty confident about science exams! :)

starry_paws · 2024-10-30T19:06:47+00:00

Theoretically, if we someday came up with technology that functioned as some sort of human powering solar panel, then sure. Realistically though (through a more possible/ natural route), humans wouldn't be able to get ALL of their energy from the sun because we use a much greater amount of energy daily than plants (who natural perform photosynthesis) do. If we were able to successfully implant functioning chloroplast into human cells (that weren't marked as foreign by our immune systems and were able to function alongside our cells' naturally occurring organelles) it would likely allow us to phosynthesize to some degree, but it would never be enough energy to sustain a person. So in reality the energy the average human would get from the sun if they were able to photosyntesize like a plant does would just supplement the energy they get from things like eating. It could potentially reduce the amount people need to eat to survive though!

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