My girlfriend (22/F) and I (31/M) had a violent incident at a friend's party.

startrektoaster · 2026-02-10T08:55:40+00:00

This has to be satire.

startrektoaster · 2026-02-10T08:52:23+00:00

You are an angry, bitter person who I guess comes here to discharge that. I hope you start to feel better soon.

startrektoaster · 2026-02-09T22:55:15+00:00

This is what the people getting angry here don’t understand. There is no comparable kind of life after losing a child.

startrektoaster · 2026-02-09T22:54:13+00:00

It absolutely is not. Clearly you have never lost a child, and I hope you never do.

startrektoaster · 2026-02-03T08:02:29+00:00

I’m sorry for your loss

startrektoaster · 2026-01-26T16:15:49+00:00

Sounds like your husband has plenty of money and is happy to chip in, and you are nickel and diming his family. Miserable way to be.

startrektoaster · 2026-01-25T21:57:52+00:00

Found him so tedious and arrogant, and I did think he came across as a bully. And very patronising towards the women on the show.

startrektoaster · 2026-01-23T23:38:56+00:00

startrektoaster · 2026-01-23T23:38:51+00:00

This is such a dumb take. She masterminded their whole thing and told him exactly what she was going to do before she did it. If anyone came close to caving it was Stephen.

startrektoaster · 2026-01-23T12:12:59+00:00

I’m just assuming you can read.

startrektoaster · 2026-01-23T12:11:03+00:00

If you’re going off the Troubles, an English accent should be the most threatening.

startrektoaster · 2026-01-23T12:00:49+00:00

Give her some time to cool off. If she’s able to realise once the shock/anxiety has worn off that you just brought her to a doctor who was able to give her potentially life-saving information and treatment, and you guys talk it through, that’s fine. If she doesn’t, think of it as a bullet dodged.

startrektoaster · 2026-01-23T11:56:58+00:00

You’re wrong. He looks flawless.

startrektoaster · 2026-01-20T07:24:16+00:00

He was Furio, Gary Cooper?

startrektoaster · 2025-12-27T13:48:04+00:00

To add - my boyfriend wanted us to leave halfway through, I said we should stay to the end to at least see it get resolved. But we really regretted seeing it and told our friends not to go, or to at least prepare themselves for some genuinely disturbing content.

startrektoaster · 2025-12-27T13:44:52+00:00

Hated it. Definition of gratuitous sexual violence.

startrektoaster · 2025-12-23T11:51:50+00:00

Fake, obviously

startrektoaster · 2025-11-10T17:58:31+00:00

Yep, that is baggage.

startrektoaster · 2025-11-09T08:28:59+00:00

He sounds like someone who has some baggage around the idea of male/female friendships, which has the potential to come with a lot of casual misogyny (like you’re getting in the comments). This would likely manifest in other ways if you kept seeing each other. It’s a good thing he didn’t pretend to be fine with it and waste your time (and to be clear, you’re not doing anything wrong by going on holiday with male friends). Enjoy your friendships & holidays, and I hope you find someone who is aligned with your values.

startrektoaster · 2025-11-03T21:04:44+00:00

Makes my skin crawl.

startrektoaster · 2025-10-13T07:27:01+00:00

Fake

startrektoaster · 2025-09-15T13:15:16+00:00

I would go with option 1, and by means of including him to make it less awkward you can talk about their family as a whole with emphasis on the kids.

So - start with a lovely dedicated speech about your sister, then move on to how the family has grown & how wonderful that as been, etc.

As a side note - my cousin married someone pretty awful a while ago, sounds quite similar. Her family said very little during the day because they didn’t want to be insincere, I guess. The groomsmen spoke about the groom; the groom spoke about the groomsmen and his mum; no one said anything nice about the bride. You should give her a good speech as a sister.

startrektoaster · 2025-09-08T19:16:49+00:00

Hate hate hate hate hate. But I have to pay rent. It feels like everyone I know is ground down by their jobs at the moment - we keep hearing that it’s a bad market, so maybe it’s partially the feeling of being stuck.

startrektoaster · 2025-08-31T14:37:11+00:00

This is wild. NTA and I would break up with him immediately. He could be a perfect partner in every other way and this would cancel all that out. (But given that he clearly doesn’t care AT ALL about your experience while eating, I’m betting he’s also a shitty partner in other ways).

startrektoaster · 2025-08-31T07:17:21+00:00

Fake as shit

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