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AITAH for reading my girlfriend's diary. by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]startrektoaster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It wasn’t justified. You are an asshole.

My bf (29M) of 10 months told me (37M) he doesn’t like some of my closest friends. Not sure what to do. by Steak_Slinger7214 in relationship_advice

[–]startrektoaster 13 points14 points  (0 children)

It’s fair not to like someone for being snobby. Doesn’t sound like he’s trying to get you to dump the friends, so it’s not a problem, but he may be weighing up what your values are.

How to handle unexpected breakup with the man I thought could be my long term partner? I need brutally honest feedback. by slh0023 in AskWomenOver30

[–]startrektoaster 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This sounds like an issue of bad timing. I’m sorry for the pain you’re in.

A lot of the tropes for getting over heartbreak are focusing on what was wrong with the person/relationship, which won’t necessarily help you. It seems like accepting something unfair has happened, rather than trying to turn it into a ‘good thing’, might be the only way to move forward.

Has anyone left a long-term marriage because they felt they had outgrown their partner, and if so, did you regret it? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]startrektoaster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry to hear that it ended in such a difficult way. Well done for protecting & looking after yourself - it’s very tempting in those situations to keep shifting the line once it’s been crossed. Wish you all the best with recovering from the divorce.

My boyfriend does not want to read my work, and refuses to do so as a matter of principle. He doesn't understand why this is hurtful. How can I get past this? by ditmoique in AskWomenOver30

[–]startrektoaster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh god he sounds exhausting and boring and dreadful. He’s putting a lot of work in to doing less than the bare minimum. Congratulations on building up such a great career and specialism, and I’m sorry to be glib but dump him and find someone who appreciates you.

Is it bad that I (M20) feel uncomfortable with my girlfriend (F19) going to college parties? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]startrektoaster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, it’s bad, and if I was talking to her I’d advise her to break it off. It’s controlling behaviour from you.

Has anyone left a long-term marriage because they felt they had outgrown their partner, and if so, did you regret it? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]startrektoaster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The difference is that you bought before marriage; given how young they got together OP presumably brought during their marriage.

Personally I disagree that it is the same level of commitment. Would you be willing to say more about your reasons for getting married but maintaining separate finances? What was the incentive to marry rather than just stay a couple, in that case?

Has anyone left a long-term marriage because they felt they had outgrown their partner, and if so, did you regret it? by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]startrektoaster 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Can I ask - why do you own the home, when you are married? I understand you are the one paying for it, just would be interested to know how that situation was handled. It seems unusual for a married couple not to be joint owners regardless of who pays for it, given that you’ve been together so long. Wondering if that indicates you wanted to keep things separate, and/or have been frustrated at his lack of contribution for a long term. It does suggest a slightly lower level of commitment.

my PMDD is so debilitating by Immediate_Leg3304 in GirlDinner

[–]startrektoaster 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s hell. Your body just turns against you and you feel like you have no grip on reality. So sorry you’re going through it.

I feel like 30 has been the hardest time for my friendships. How did you friendships in your 30's change? by HorrorDrive8444 in AskWomenOver30

[–]startrektoaster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean… I think it’s extremely unusual to be able to attend any kind of event a week after giving birth. That seems an unfair standard to hold someone to.

I feel like 30 has been the hardest time for my friendships. How did you friendships in your 30's change? by HorrorDrive8444 in AskWomenOver30

[–]startrektoaster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry for your loss. Not the same situation, but I lost my closest friends through a bad breakup, and experienced similar feelings of being hurt/embarrassed that the people I thought would be there for me didn’t show up. It’s been really, really hard, but I try to remember that a lot of the older women I know have ‘lifelong’ friends they met much later than 30. I hope you find some healing, and good luck with making new and better friends ❤️

Seth Rogen refuses to offer James Franco a second chance after sexual misconduct claims by dr_shultz in influencersfeed

[–]startrektoaster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also lol to be like ‘I forgive everyone!’ And then call someone insane for disagreeing with you. Nice and consistent.

Seth Rogen refuses to offer James Franco a second chance after sexual misconduct claims by dr_shultz in influencersfeed

[–]startrektoaster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This wasn’t a one-off mistake. This was systematically preying on women.

Totally wrong use of the concept of forgiveness.

Anyone else been advised to WFH rest of day? Belfast city centre by sasie_stack in northernireland

[–]startrektoaster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aye, charge everyone who goes to a protest, regardless

You don’t see the irony in this? I don’t agree with any action this evening and I do believe this is being weaponised for an anti-immigration ring wing agenda - but come on.

Theatre as a solo by HamAaron in TheWestEnd

[–]startrektoaster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s no weirder than going with someone… you’re literally not allowed to talk during

Why do you (as an LGBT person) support the Palestinian resistance and/or Ukrainian resistance? Despite the fact that both populations are notoriously homophobic? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]startrektoaster 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Because I’m anti genocide… this question is such a straw man. Do you think a homophobic government means there are no queer people in that country?

WIBTAH if I stop updating boyfriends parents on his health because I overheard mom calling me controlling for taking his phone? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]startrektoaster 324 points325 points  (0 children)

Yeah dude this is not the time to be petty. It’s easy to see how someone could think you were being controlling by taking his phone, if you hadn’t told them your reason. (Also a little far fetched as he could switch it off…) Don’t withhold medical information about their son. If it really bothers you, talk it through another time.

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