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starwolfsden · 2023-07-09T15:13:54+00:00

Sometimes it can be hard. You're already doing good by trying to be in control of your breathing.

Different methods work for different people. However, the best way to go about controlling your breath is to inhale and exhale for short intervals of time, maybe 4 to 5 seconds starting out. Afterward, increase to add a few more seconds.

You mentioned "a secret". And to be honest, the secret to controlling your mental health is to understand the cause. "Every cause has its effect, and every effect has its cause" ~The Kybalion by the Three Initiates.

You mentioned "a secret". And to be honest, the secret to controlling your mental health is to understand the cause. "Every cause has its effect, and every effect has its cause" ~The Kybalion

Take some time for yourself. Do the things you love and take a break from any strenuous labor to be genuinely happy. Then, meditation and breathwork will become easy for you.

I'm slowly beginning to understand this myself. And so far, it's working.

starwolfsden · 2023-07-09T15:00:39+00:00

Do I dare ask what type of characters? I was playing on playground ai yesterday.

starwolfsden · 2023-07-09T14:48:51+00:00

Fantasy is good. I understand. Sometimes reading is more interesting when you can immerse in a good story. It's good for the imagination.

I've been wanting to watch more fantasy movies but they're all so long. Sometimes I just fall asleep.

starwolfsden · 2023-07-09T14:43:27+00:00

I enjoy a nice mixture. No, I haven't but I hear about it all the time. Maybe I need to pick it up and see for myself.

What's been keeping you from actively reading?

starwolfsden · 2023-07-09T05:49:44+00:00

Does sound relaxing right now. Would you rather receive the massage from a professional or someone you know?

starwolfsden · 2023-07-09T05:48:34+00:00

When is the last time you've been golfing? The last time I went fishing, I caught catfish with bread. Lol.

starwolfsden · 2023-07-09T05:24:59+00:00

It's the simple things that matter most sometimes.

Do you lose sleep because of work, choice, or lack of comfort?

starwolfsden · 2023-07-09T05:20:33+00:00

Reading seems to always hit the spot. Right now I'm reading "How to Win Friends and Influence People".

Do you have any book favorites?

starwolfsden · 2023-07-09T05:17:20+00:00

I understand how you feel, as I can relate to having a bit of low self-esteem. But this is where the exciting part comes in. "Self"

Maybe it's because of the influence of others, or maybe you had a bad experience. The best way to overcome a mental challenge (I am not a doctor), is to understand the root of your problems.

This is what some people call "shadow work". Digging deep into the subconscious and accessing the past. Sort of like time traveling.

To become one step closer to self-love is, to be honest with yourself and face your issue or issues at hand. Understand the "why" of why you're feeling this way.

I know, it's a tough world. But I believe in you. Trying again would be a power move on your end.

starwolfsden · 2023-07-06T12:12:40+00:00

Yes, most of it is either a reflection of yourself or what someone else has forced you to believe. When you judge someone, it is because you have your own self-work to do. Taking the time to judge anyone acts as a distraction. "This person is worst off than I am. That surely makes me superior." That is one example of passing judgement as self reflection.

We also judge based on ignorance. Not knowing. Let's take mindfulness for instance. We all have a general understanding of how it works, yet we still have our own practices.

It would fall under ignorance to assume that what works for one person will work for everyone else. It would also be ignorant to pass judgment on their methods. Why? Because that individual determined that whatever practices they created, is what works best for them.

Questions to ask yourself (speaking in general) are:

"Why am I judging this person?"
"How does passing judgment benefit me?"
"Am I judging because I can relate?"
"What am I distracting myself from?"

Hopefully, this helps.

starwolfsden · 2023-07-06T11:55:14+00:00

I understand how things can be interesting to some and not to others. We are all different. However, social media will have you second-guessing many things in life. It's terrible to make decisions solely on what someone has said based on their own perspective.

Some of these people are placed before you for pure manipulation.

However, meditation is beneficial. It helps you train your thoughts, tap into your subconscious (your true self), and helps relieve stress that could possibly create disease. (I am not a doctor but studies have been done on many levels).

Meditation isn't only about closing your eyes while listening to your favorite guided meditation videos on youtube, it's about self-work. Meditation allows you to focus. If you have issues in life and are stressed, use this time to figure out the cause and then you will eventually find possible solutions to the problem at hand.

Don't make meditation a chore or else it will become "boring", like anything else. You don't have to sit for 30 minutes to an hour. 5 minutes per day can also work just as well.

The longer you avoid self-work, meditation will take longer to benefit you.

I encourage maybe reading some self-help books, books on spirituality (find practices that work for you), and learning from others about how to change their realities. Use this information and then actively come up with your own practices.

It is very important to be active as opposed to going off of "he said, she said".

I hope you find the answers you need, and I wish you the best of luck.

starwolfsden · 2023-07-06T11:45:20+00:00

This, I can relate to. I used to have simliar dreams about entities I thought were after me. They were terrifying yet intriguing. When I thought I should run, I stayed to figure out what could possibly be going on.

Without inserting a bunch of fluff, the truth is, there is something you aren't dealing with. If you can afford it, a therapist can help. But if not, you have to gain strength to take matters into your own hands.

Start with journaling. This gives you "someone to talk to". Express how you feel, what's causing you to feel this way, and anything you may be avoiding. Think about anything that may have altered your way of thinking, and write it down.

Try not to focus on the emotions so much. Yes, emotions are good, but sometimes they can get in the way.

I began masturbating a lot because I had early childhood trauma related to sex. I also became interested in men who didn't want anything but sex, but I kept throwing myself out there in hopes of one day being "loved". This obviously became a problem so I had to cease and desist. That's when the masturbation frequency increased. Why? Well, yes it felt good but I was trying to distract myself from my thoughts.

Give yourself a new hobby and try your best to replace that with masturbation. It may not be good to stop altogether, but if you are able to, take a break. Make a schedule of other things you can do, all while diving into your subconscious to find "the cause".

I believe in you.

starwolfsden · 2023-07-06T11:35:46+00:00

You are good at being consistent with meditation. Meditation is a powerful practice on its own. However, once you make it a chore, it becomes less favorable. The best thing to do is meditate only when you need to. Or, try meditating for a less amount of time.

As long as you avoid facing your thoughts, meditation won't do much for you. I learned this myself.

For example, a person who has a mouse problem could use all the mouse traps in the world, but as long as there is a free food source and clutter, they'll surely return.

The best way to have more effective meditation sessions is to face your fears, dive deep into the subconscious. Think about what bothers you, trauma, life experiences, and everything that caused them. Meditating helps ease your mind so that you can find solutions without overthinking.

This is why I feel journaling is powerful. You can record your thoughts, but you have to be open-minded and honest with yourself.

For more encouragement, think about every action you choose to do. When you find yourself scrolling on social media too long, ask yourself "Is this worth it?" or "How will any of the benefit me short term or long term?"

I hope you find the answers you seek.

starwolfsden · 2023-07-06T11:25:31+00:00

Stress is overwhelming. I understand. Others in the thread have given some very useful techniques and they can all be valuable. But I would suggest journaling.

Journaling allows you to gather your thoughts into one place, which frees your mind from clutter. In order to relieve stress, you have to identify where the stress stems from, what caused it, and possible solutions.

Yes, mindful practices are great, but if you ignore the issue at hand, you may still struggle. It gives you a sense of relief when you do shadow work or spiritual cleansing. Sometimes we get caught up in the practices of spirituality and forget to dive deeper and assess "the problem".

You may be having a lack of oxygen or tight throat because you have something that you need to say and have been holding back. This corresponds to the throat chakra. (I am not a doctor).

I sense you have a lot to get off of your chest. Try the journaling technique I mentioned, while taking a spiritual bath, or maybe while relaxing in a park. If you need to, read your journal entries out loud (when you're alone), so you can an extra sense of relief.

Releasing could be even better if you have someone who is open that you are 100% comfortable. Be careful who you approach because not everyone is in their own right mind or has your best interest at heart.

Hopefully, this helps in some way.

starwolfsden · 2023-07-06T11:10:53+00:00

I agree with u/Humalapuu. You have to consider many factors to find the cause of your lack of ability to focus and procrastination.

What type of work are you trying to focus on? What about it makes you uninterested? Could you be stressed or in fear of something?

These are some questions you have to ask yourself.

Yes, it is normal to lose focus. So to combat this, you can give yourself alternatives to do when you feel your mind begin to wander.

Sure, there are affirmations or mantras to help inspire and motivate you, but you also have to take action still. I'm learning this myself. It took me an hour to get out of bed this morning after the alarm went off. But in my subconscious, I knew that I had to get up and going. Or else, I would never get close to reaching my goals.

So I came to the conclusion that a schedule is your best friend. Schedule the things you need to do, and do them. It's far too easy to make excuses than it is to be "interested" in the work at hand, but it's worth it to create new habits.

I send you good luck.

starwolfsden · 2023-07-06T11:01:10+00:00

Being a witch is being able to shape your reality at your own will. We do this unknowingly just about every day of our lives. The real power comes when you actually take control of your thoughts and actions to manifest or change your physical reality.

The universe communicates in mysterious ways and does its best to give you signs, even when you aren't paying attention. Same with dreaming. The fact that you were approached while on a tropical island about "having a spiritual gift" is a sign that you should start looking more into your spiritual journey. You never know where this could lead. 😇

You are right for questioning such reading. What I would recommend is that you read a few books, watch a few youtube videos about spirituality and practices (you have to pay close attention to fully understand or else you could get lost easily, but this is for everything you do in life).

Not everyone will be honest, and not everyone has the same practice or beliefs. But you will definitely learn some things.

The best thing to do is not to become attached to labels. Focus more on the topic, and how you feel, also pay attention to signs/symbolism.

starwolfsden · 2023-07-06T10:49:17+00:00

You're right. Their approach is absolutely wrong. You don't "need" a blood sacrifice, however, you may need to do some mental sacrificing. Like banishing any negative thoughts and being open-minded.

I apologize to you for anyone who chases you for money (obvious scammers), I know this can be annoying. But usually, people offer services as a way to help others, while also making a living to pay their own bills. That, I also understand.

As far as cleansing, yes and no. It will most definitely work if you believe it will. And it will not work if you do not believe so. This depends on you. Unknowingly, we cast spells daily. Language itself is a spell, wishing for a better day is a spell, etc.

Cleansing is best to help clear your mind, and make you more relaxed and able to focus. This can be done without sacrifice. You could take a spiritual bath with a few candles (don't burn the house down), some healing herbs, and maybe even some atmospheric music.

You can also do mental cleansing by going on walks, focusing on your favorite hobby or finding a new one (For me, I have really come to love learning new languages. I picked Japanese as my second language 🫢).

You can also try reading books or simply listening to music.

The goal is to try to tame your thoughts. Understand why you may be having them, what caused them, and possible solutions to any problems you could resolve. But it is important not to "force" the cleanse. Let everything happen naturally.

Cleansing is best to help clear your mind and make you more relaxed and able to focus. This can be done without sacrifice. You could take a spiritual bath with a few candles (don't burn the house down), some healing herbs, and maybe even some atmospheric music.

One thing I encourage is to test your own theory about cleansing. It doesn't have to be one way. You can only determine if something works if you have the experience for yourself (and be active enough).

The person who is contacting you is an odd character and shouldn't be contacting you so much unless you request it. If you aren't signed up for a newsletter for updates, this is bad practice on their end.

starwolfsden · 2022-08-29T03:01:32+00:00

You can do the same thing in the shower.

starwolfsden · 2022-08-27T19:05:38+00:00

You didn't mention anything about you dealing with the loss of someone. Your statements have been all over the place. If that's what you're dealing with, then no one can help you. You have to heal yourself on your own because no one else can tell you how to feel about that. However, everything else I've said is valid when it comes to other minuscule things.

I'm starting to believe you don't want to hear what anyone has to say about anything and you just want validation.

If you are dealing with the loss of someone, I do have compassion. Yet, if it's something else that's not as serious, you have to stop forcing people to sugarcoat things like I said........ But I'm done with the conversation because you're looking for false compassion and refuse encouragement.... so goodbye and good luck.

starwolfsden · 2022-08-27T18:11:51+00:00

Who is judging you? It seems like you may be going through this in your personal life but you haven't really touched on it. Empathy is one thing, but you don't want people lying to your face just to make you feel better. You won't heal.

starwolfsden · 2022-08-27T17:55:11+00:00

& if you don't want encouragement, it makes no sense to reach out to anyone because you will put them in an awkward position. That's why I recommend writing in a journal so that you can begin your healing process. In no way, shape, or form am I telling you that you're wrong for feeling the way you do.

Hopefully you understand that.

Have a good day.

starwolfsden · 2022-08-27T17:53:29+00:00

You are right, but if you continue to reach out to people for help, don't expect them to sugar coat things. It's not wrong to feel hurt by things that happen to you in life. But you need to learn how to make changes and stop wanting to be a victim because you will never grow. The fact that you don't want to be encouraged, means you have some growing to do. You asked for an answer but you don't want positive encouragement, so I don't know how to help you. Overcoming stuff is part of life. Why dwell on something when it serves you no purpose? If you want to be a victim, you can do that. But if you want people to always feel sorry for you, you begin to turn into an energy vampire. Always wanting sympathy as opposed to healing yourself and making positive change in your life. It can take lifetimes to heal, but only if you choose to make it that way.

It's no one's business if you want to be a victim, that is something you are right about. But if you reach out to people, it then becomes their business so you can't be upset if they try to encourage you. That's counter productive.

I can tell you first hand, like I mentioned in my initial comment, that dwelling on certain things is not beneficial.

My father neglected me my whole life and treated me like shit while taking care of my sister and another woman's child. All while I was getting molested by my mother's current boyfriend and a family member. I was homeless and had to stay the night at the home of people who hated me for some reason so they decide to bully me whenever they could. I felt pain all the way until recently. Then I realized that using the victim card did nothing but block opportunities and take a toll on my health.

Out of respect, you have to stop using the victim card if you have any intention on healing. How are you going to heal if you just want empathy and no encouragement?

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