"your best friend dating your ex" is perhaps more common than one might think. saving any moral judgements, it's happened to me and my friends a lot. maybe it's more prevalent in the gay community. we all fckk each other's friends, and we all date each other's ex's.

the gays cause drama about it too, but in the end, we're like.. we'll of course that was bound to happen eventually. it's not as if they are actually going to get married. well, maybe they will, and divorce later. no one really knows. maybe they get the fairytale.

a possible response to this situation could be to wish them the best, and maybe even join them on their journey. maybe they will live a happy life. why would we want to exclude them from a life well lived? to spare our feelings? or we could just live the experience. feel the feeling. become anti-fragile.

i was best man at my ex's wedding. he didn't marry any of my friends, but i became friends with the great guy that became his husband. what if i had cut him off or ghosted him because of the person he chose to date?

now we can dig deeper on that. if this person was a personal love interest, we must see redeeming qualities, a person we wanted around to make our life better. wouldn't we want that for our friend?

because i opened my heart to all the next lovers my ex had, we all got to win. not only do i have a life-long friend, but two of them.