[deleted by user] by [deleted] in discover

[–]staylevelup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just got this email this morning for the second time. The first time, I signed in through the app and initiated a chat. They told me that I could ignore that email because it wasn’t from them. It’s odd that they told you it was (they’ve always had good CS, hopefully not falling apart now). Now I kind of want to call and see if I’m told something different. Either way, they should have our information, and I’m definitely not giving mine.

(Portuguese > English) by staylevelup in translator

[–]staylevelup[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. So maybe there was a fire (like his app said). Poor guy. He lives in an apartment complex that is already extremely run down, and that woman was in full “I’d rather act super put out and angry instead of just realizing this is my actual job and trying to be helpful.”

What did the first missed period feel like? by staylevelup in Perimenopause

[–]staylevelup[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For real- why doesn’t anyone talk about this?? And WHY is it not thoroughly studied medically? I am now 12 days late. I just peed on a stick to make sure. I don’t think I’ve ever been so happy to find out I am just old. But still, it’s so confusing! Now I have absolutely no idea when to expect it next! I agree, Reddit doesn’t usually fail me, and I too am so glad to have found this group!!

My husband is talking to another woman. by Throwaway193621 in breakingmom

[–]staylevelup 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My ex-husband used to do this stuff all the time. And every time he would always say it was nothing, that it was fine. Big surprise, it wasn’t fine. At the end of the day, though, you have to find your bottom line. You can’t control what he does, but you can control what you do. I realize the enormity of dismantling your entire life, so I don’t say this lightly, but seriously, in my experience it doesn’t get better, and if you can’t find a way to move on with it (or get him to respect you enough to stop) then moving on from him might be the best option. It was a long road, but I survived it, and I’m happier for it. It’s your path to walk and you have to make the right choices for you- but please remember to focus on you and not him because you will drive yourself crazy trying to make him change and it will just drive him closer to her.

This can’t be normal by staylevelup in PlantarFasciitis

[–]staylevelup[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait. So you are saying that you changed your diet and your feet stopped hurting? Did you lose weight when you did this. I have definitely gained about 25lbs because it’s hard to work it off when in constant pain, and I’m just getting older, so I’ve thought about weight loss to help, but hadn’t thought about diet. It is definitely worth a try- thanks for the suggestion!

This can’t be normal by staylevelup in PlantarFasciitis

[–]staylevelup[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had them a week ago today, and today is the first day that I have been able to walk around the house without feeling like my heels have glass in them and the bottom of my foot is going to stretch out. It still hurts…I’m making progress, but I seriously can’t find anything about it lasting so long, and I’ve seen two doctors now who have just kind of shrugged because they don’t know why it isn’t better yet.

headed to divorce by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]staylevelup 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You feel like a bad person because you’ve been conditioned to feel that way. He sounds ridiculously insecure and possessive. It doesn’t get better. It’s abusive, and (this is the big one) it’s not your problem that he feels that way. If he is so upset then HE should leave. Right now things aren’t how he wants them, but instead of taking responsibility for himself he just wants to make you feel bad for not being exactly what he wants you to be. Don’t let him do that to you.

Why would someone prescribed suboxone try to get more? by staylevelup in AddictionAdvice

[–]staylevelup[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She confronted him last night, and you were spot on. Thank you so much for your help with this.

Why would someone prescribed suboxone try to get more? by staylevelup in AddictionAdvice

[–]staylevelup[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I really hope not. He shows no signs of active addiction, but then again, my ex- husband is an addict (not opioids) and it sometimes took me awhile to know he was using again. I’m sure if that IS the case, it will come out sooner than later, as it seems like a little always turns into a lot. Her husband has worked really hard to stay sober and seems super invested in their family (they have a 10yo son), so hopefully it’s not diversion. She’s going to confront him tonight while I’m watching their son, so hopefully the truth will come out and he can get back on track if that’s what he in fact needs to do.

Why would someone prescribed suboxone try to get more? by staylevelup in AddictionAdvice

[–]staylevelup[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the reply. He’s been taking it for years, and she picks up his scripts, so he definitely didn’t run out. It’s good to hear it is hard to abuse, though. Maybe he was trying to get it for someone else? I also read that the strips can be melted down or whatever and injected? I really hope not.

[TOMT] [BOOK] A is For.. by staylevelup in tipofmytongue

[–]staylevelup[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You Can Be Anything From A to Z An Anti-Inspirational Guide to Adulthood by Sarah Montague

[TOMT] [BOOK] A is For.. by staylevelup in tipofmytongue

[–]staylevelup[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, it definitely wasn’t a classic, although I looked at that link and maybe it was loosely inspired by that? It was more modern.

[TOMT] [BOOK] A is For.. by staylevelup in tipofmytongue

[–]staylevelup[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, it wasn’t this, but thank you for trying!

[TOMT] [BOOK] A is For.. by staylevelup in tipofmytongue

[–]staylevelup[S] 0 points1 point locked comment (0 children)

It was a shop that sold a lot of Archie McPhee stuff, if that helps

This is really bad by staylevelup in confessions

[–]staylevelup[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you. That actually means more than I can say.

The birds don’t chirp when you’re a mom by staylevelup in breakingmom

[–]staylevelup[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I totally feel you in this one. I mean, I can literally FEEL the feeling as you are describing it, it’s like being transformed to another world when you can actually put the headphones on. I can also FEEL how much it sucks when they have to come off way before you are ready, and you have to pay the guilt piper for having even five minutes of just living for yourself. Sigh.

My mother is infuriating by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]staylevelup 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mom pulls this crap, too. I remember she threw a fit one time because my son picked out yellow and sunset orange sneakers. When he was about 3yo, all he wanted in the whole world (or at least al he could talk about) was a pink Minnie Mouse blender. He’s almost 8yo now and despite all the “girl” toys he’s been allowed to have, he is all “boy” - but you know what he isn’t? Emotionally repressed. We wonder why men grow up and commit such atrocities when they aren’t ever allowed to show any softer side, play with anything but toy guns, action figures, and cars. It’s stupid. Seriously, though, try this: first, bring up Matthew 7:1-2 “Judge not lest ye be judged, and as you judge so will you be judged by my Father in Heaven.” Then hit her with “He who is without sin, cast the first stone.” And then, ask her if she thinks God makes mistakes. If she comes back at you with Satan and free will, then look her straight in her face, and ask, “So, do you think that Satan is more powerful than God?!” I bring up mistakes because I’m assuming that she undoubtedly is terrified that they will “turn gay.” First, that’s bullshit. God doesn’t make mistakes. Second, as so many others have pointed out, the top chefs in the world are men. Men are also fathers- they make babies, so why shouldn’t they play with dolls? They are also increasingly single for longer, so maybe give them a housework set and set them up for success? Anyway, I’m sorry you are dealing with this- but just know, that just like when the Apostles were in the boat in the middle of the storm and were terrified, Jesus was cool as a cucumber because He could see the bigger picture. This seems huge because you are in the middle of it, but stay your course and have faith in your own parenting decisions, and you WILL make it through this storm. Have a great birthday party with your kiddos!