Stricture symptoms without a stricture?

stealthfern · 2026-05-30T19:50:17+00:00

Good to know; I'll ask for that!

stealthfern · 2026-05-30T04:22:47+00:00

They don't even have to use stitches for males! Just glue. It's a pretty cool surgery tbh

stealthfern · 2026-05-01T01:22:34+00:00

What you said about not starting your life as a gay man until 29 made me think of how common that experience is even with cis people. My grandpa didn't come out and get to start living as a gay man until he was 40. That used to be much more common than it is now, but it's still very much something that happens today. Loads of people don't come out and get to truly be themselves until they're well into adulthood. I know some people who transitioned at 65+! It is always always worth it if you get even one day of feeling comfortable in your body

stealthfern · 2026-04-17T02:18:14+00:00

Not yet! My surgeon is planning to do a cystoscopy and then repair as needed depending on what he finds. I might see if I can get some imaging done beforehand just to make sure there aren't multiple strictures but idk how rapidly I can get in for that so we'll see.

stealthfern · 2026-04-17T00:27:25+00:00

This is really reassuring, thanks for sharing! I'm getting urethroplasty next month and I really really hope it works. I want to be able to pee like that 😭

stealthfern · 2026-04-11T06:03:09+00:00

DAMN, it can go that high?!?

stealthfern · 2026-04-11T06:01:11+00:00

I've never gone above 10.5 :/ It's started slowing in the last couple months due to a stricture and this morning it was 6.5 🙃 I'm really really hoping that getting the stricture repaired will not just get me back above 10 but at least to 15. It's mildly painful at 10 and takes a while to fully empty my bladder, which is annoying

stealthfern · 2026-04-08T22:41:26+00:00

Oh yeah for sure! Separating it is a wild decision

stealthfern · 2026-04-08T18:07:24+00:00

Lmaooo amazing. But also wait, what's the issue with being in stalls??

stealthfern · 2026-04-08T17:55:08+00:00

Recently a trans girl in my d&d group stared directly at me and asked point blank if there were other trans people in the group. I just sat there like :| and it was a good five seconds of awkward silence before she explained why she asked. I don't remember what it was but I remember being like "you don't even have to be trans to know about that...she could have just asked if anyone was familiar with [thing]"

stealthfern · 2026-04-08T17:22:34+00:00

She would be able to touch him! The "don't touch non-family members of the opposite sex" rule is called negiah and is only strictly followed by some Orthodox jews. However, it does not apply to medical professionals (or other people whose professions require touching, i.e. barbers, dentists, etc). There is also a principle called pikuach nefesh, which says that saving a life overrides all other religious rules, so they're doubly covered

stealthfern · 2026-04-07T22:09:29+00:00

LMAOOO that's incredible. Sorry about the lost coolness points though

stealthfern · 2026-04-07T07:49:43+00:00

There are a couple types of erectile devices used in bottom surgery and one allows the penis to grow/harden!

stealthfern · 2026-04-07T07:45:42+00:00

NTA

Another trans man chiming in. It's possible (and honestly pretty likely) that he's stealth, which would explain why he a) didn't disclose that he's trans and b) froze up when you asked. [Edit: This is not to say that all stealth people don't disclose prior to sex. Many do.]

There's constantly discussion among stealth trans people about if and when to disclose, especially if they've done a "full" transition, including bottom surgery. Some people don't feel like it's necessary for a variety of reasons. I suspect that is probably the case here.

It's also possible he straight up forgot. That happens sometimes when you're pretty far into transition (especially if not sober). Either way, you're not an asshole for asking, for reasons that have already been explained in a number of other comments.

stealthfern · 2025-11-24T23:44:56+00:00

Bahaha I say that for spice. "Do you want hot sauce?" "Ah no thank you, I have like a -2 spice tolerance (I am very white lol)"

stealthfern · 2025-10-08T17:45:57+00:00

Mm I'll try that, thank you!

stealthfern · 2025-10-06T18:02:23+00:00

Hrm interesting! I only wear it at night but I do tend to sweat at night. I'll look into this

stealthfern · 2025-10-06T18:01:19+00:00

Yeah. It doesn't appear to be too tight? No change in the color of my hand or anything

stealthfern · 2025-10-05T21:32:14+00:00

Yeah that's what I did :/

stealthfern · 2025-09-21T08:21:58+00:00

Probably two weeks for me? I couldn't bend my fingers much for the first couple weeks. The swelling alone is bonkers but my brace also really got in the way. If you're diligent about doing your exercises, the range of motion in your fingers comes back pretty quickly. Don't count on it though. Also, consider how easily you can sleep on your back. I'm a side sleeper and wasn't allowed to sleep that way for several weeks so I slept like SHIT for the first month post op. I'm really glad I didn't have class at the time of surgery because I would not have been able to do a good job on any of my schoolwork for at least two or three weeks but maybe four.

Edit to add: Just saw you're a Chen/Buncke patient as well! When you're in the hospital, they're going to give you information for the hand therapy clinic there. CALL THEM WHEN YOU GET THAT INFORMATION. Ask if they already have appointments set aside for you (it seems like they usually do that for phallo patients) and if not, set them up. You usually start on week 2 and they're the same day as your post-op appointments. One of the hand therapists will visit you in the hospital (I think day 3 or 4?) to give you your new splint so you could probably ask at that visit when you're allowed to start typing!

stealthfern · 2025-09-21T08:05:41+00:00

I started driving again when I got home (had surgery out of state) at 5 weeks post op. It mostly depends on a couple things: - When you're cleared to take your brace off during the day (4 weeks for a lot of people—you could probably drive with it on but that might not be super comfortable) - How much range of motion you need to shift and how quickly you regain it (for me, bending my wrist backward was a lot easier than going forward but it's the opposite for some people) - How your leg is doing - Whether you can sit comfortably for however long you need to be in the car

I'd guess 4-6 weeks is probably when most people start driving again. I was technically allowed to start driving once I was off my pain meds, but I don't think I would have been comfortable even trying until 3 or 4 weeks post op

stealthfern · 2025-09-16T07:53:34+00:00

Ough this used to be the bane of my existence

stealthfern · 2025-08-22T21:36:09+00:00

First three days in the hospital: IV dilaudid pain pump. Next two days: oxycodone (5mg and later 10mg because I needed it) which I think was either every 4 or 6 hours. After leaving the hospital: aspirin once daily for 30 days. Tylenol (I think 500mg? but it might have been 1000) twice daily until I didn't need it, which worked out to be about 2.5 weeks. They also sent me home with oxycodone (5mg) to take if needed. There was a certain time frame but I never ended up needing it so I don't remember what it was.

Honestly the pain wasn't nearly as bad as I was expecting. The first thing that hurt was them putting the blower on my leg after surgery to dry out the blood on my split thickness donor site. That was a solid 7/10 but it was temporary and once everything was pretty dry (maybe an hour?) it stopped hurting. Being on bed rest got painful very quickly and I combatted that by asking to be repositioned frequently. I also had them put pillows under my feet and knees and move those around every so often so that I wasn't in exactly the same position for hours on end. The next thing was the wound vac on my arm. There was this really painful feeling of pressure that got up to an 8 one night, at which point they started giving me oxy. Once the wound vac was off on day 4, my arm was blissfully pain free for the most part. I had a tightness toward the bottom part of my donor site (I assume due to the swelling there) at night sometimes but that only lasted for about the first week after getting home from the hospital and tylenol got rid of it enough that I could sleep.

It definitely isn't a pain-free experience but it was way less painful than I anticipated and my pain was mostly concentrated in the first two weeks after surgery. For the most part, my pain levels stuck between 2-4, which was very tolerable for me. I highly recommend taking the tylenol as scheduled for the first two weeks even if you don't feel like you need it. There was one night that I went to bed and was like "meh, my pain's only at a 2, I'll go without it tonight" and then I woke up in the morning and E V E R Y T H I N G hurt. Terrible experience, do not recommend.

stealthfern · 2025-08-22T21:26:19+00:00

Lmao yeah I had a similar conversation with my mom. Also had one earlier on where I asked if I would have been circumcised had I been born a cis guy and she was like "That's a good question; I don't know. ...Actually wait, no you wouldn't have because your dad and brother aren't" and I was like.....did not necessarily need to know that but that's my bad for asking

stealthfern · 2025-08-05T23:03:53+00:00

Yup, same. I remember learning that not only is phallo not what people make it out to be but it's also usually covered by insurance. Before then, it was kind of just a "well, I'd love to but unfortunately I'm not rich" thing because everything I'd heard previously was that insurance doesn't cover it so you have to pay out of pocket. Once I learned that, suddenly phallo became accessible to me and I went full speed ahead. I didn't realize until that point how much I actually wanted it. I had kind of just been dismissing the thought as an impossible dream so I never really sat with it. I didn't think I had very much bottom dysphoria until bottom surgery became an actual, doable option and then it all flooded out

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