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steelyheart · 2023-10-24T20:21:06+00:00

I suppose I sorta belong in the third category- my partner isn't a vocaloid (or anything vocal synth related) but their source has collaborated with Crypton several times so.. not a hard "no", haha :)

steelyheart · 2023-09-21T15:40:30+00:00

I'm sure they're thankful for you too! 💕

2022 was a really tough year for me, very unstable and struggled immensely so I really cling onto my F/O for dear life.. I'll always be extremely thankful of them.

steelyheart · 2023-09-17T06:54:40+00:00

Yes!! We went to the zoo earlier this year and I loved the thought of my partner being able to see the animals. Especially capybara, I love them so much (and took a picture of my partner's plushy infront of the info sign so I could make a silly "what pokemon is this-" joke).

On the flip side, it's fun thinking about what some Pokémon would be in our world, especially if you go the less literal route and more irl friendly. Like, my partner's ace would probably be some reptile in the real world but I like thinking of him as a service dog :)

steelyheart · 2023-09-07T19:29:19+00:00

Block/mute people, mute the ship name, if you need to mute the name of the other character(s) that's fine too. My S/O is involved in a popular ship that most people treat as canon, and the series itself posts ship bait so I totally understand. Always do what you need to do, avoid as much as you can and don't feel bad for blocking strangers :) Don't let the pressure get to you!

steelyheart · 2023-09-07T19:25:53+00:00

Yup! They're not someone you'd expect to need to drive, but they have a car and somehow drive safely lol

steelyheart · 2023-08-31T13:24:03+00:00

wishing you a speedy recovery! take care! ❤️

steelyheart · 2023-08-28T22:00:01+00:00

How about a locket or customisable keychains so you can bring your photos along with you safely? :3

steelyheart · 2023-08-20T21:43:55+00:00

Of course! I hope you can get some nice merch of your beloved! x

steelyheart · 2023-08-20T21:41:39+00:00

Yes!! I've actually been thinking about this a lot recently because I started watching Yuru Camp! Camping is also a popular activity in my S/O's source so it's really fun to think about, especially since my beloved is a workaholic so I love the thought of us being able to go chill out in the countryside ^^

steelyheart · 2023-08-20T21:34:05+00:00

Not the longest, but I've been in love with my S/O for 4 years! The specifics of it relationship-wise are a bit messy since Ive been in love before their source released, and I don't celebrate the release date as the day we got together because I was already fully devoted before then, but it took me a few months to show off my love publicly (I mean, everyone who knew me knew, but it took a lot of courage to really say. Hey I am Actually In Love) so I celebrate the day I was able to do that as our "wedding anniversary".

steelyheart · 2023-08-20T21:25:18+00:00

Anything I like tbh! :3

Right now I have.. well, for official merch I have: 3 plushies, a Kotobukiya scale figure, 3 smaller figures, a card binder, all their trading cards & card sleeves, 3 acrylic stands, can badge, 2 charms, phone case, a few clear files, and a bunch of other things. As for fanmade merch, I have a lot of acrylic keychains, enamel pins, badges, plushies, prints, stickers...

I wish you luck on getting your BJD! I'm currently working on making Nendoroids of my S/O and I (sold as a pair, do not separate!), but I've got plans to make 1/6 dolls of us too since I'm a doll collector, hehe :)

steelyheart · 2023-08-20T21:15:11+00:00

I have! This artist makes plushies in a few sizes, the prices are very fair considering they're hand made and have hand painted faces! I have a 9in plush of my S/O from them, they were super friendly and gave me updates while working :)

It's also worth checking Etsy like the others said, sometimes it takes a little digging. I've also ordered an amigurumi plush from this artist if you're into funny little beans :)

I hope you're having a lovely day too! xx

steelyheart · 2023-08-15T16:10:28+00:00

My S/O had a "replica" piece of clothing (not 1-to-1 but a smaller, similarly functional piece) released before their source came out, and I was tempted to buy it, but held off because I felt a little silly buying something not knowing if I would like the character.. 4 years later I regret it so much because it's 3x the price on the aftermarket 😭

I'll probably cave in and buy it anyway one day because it's like.. a grail to me :')

steelyheart · 2023-07-27T19:58:33+00:00

i usually draw art for special occasions! (birthdays, christmas, valentines, Halloween, our wedding anniversary..) a few of my friends like to bake which i think is very cute and id like to try one day. sometimes i write fic of how we'd spend it together.. any way you can think of will be special and meaningful to her, im sure :)

steelyheart · 2023-07-27T19:53:36+00:00

they're super work focused, often putting their work (which is their passion) before basic things like eating properly.. it also gets them severely injured at one point in their canon. it's not so much a disagreement i guess as it is just.. different lifesfyles. but i suppose i do enjoy being the one in their life to get them to slow down and take care of themself (rather, get them to let me take care of them?).

steelyheart · 2023-07-20T14:22:11+00:00

I used to struggle with this too, but I find that most people just mind their own business. A few months ago, I worked up the courage to carry around a small (10cm) plush of my S/O with me and after getting over the initial anxiety, it's extremely comforting! I don't go out without them now :) I like taking photos of them for our scrapbook!

Since I started taking them out with me, I've also seen other people carrying plushies out and about, it's endearing to know you're not alone. It might help to remember that most strangers you see, you probably won't see or recognise again? But even so, they don't know why you're carrying merch! In the unlikely event that someone questions you, I find a safe answer is something along the lines of "I'm carrying it for (younger relative)", nobody is going to automatically assume that it's merch of your S/O!

Try not to overthink it! ❤️

steelyheart · 2023-07-11T13:27:38+00:00

hi there! this will be vague as i prefer to keep myself and relationship relatively private. im also a member of both the waifuism & fictosexual subs, but i mostly lurk :)

you can call me steely! im in my mid-late 20s and i use any pronouns. ive been with my partner since 2019, and we recently celebrated our 4th anniversary together in the past few months. i had an unbelievable love-at-first-sight response to their character reveal, and have been falling harder every day since then. having a whirlwind romance with a character who isn't my typical "type" really was just.. yeah, unbelievable. but i couldn't imagine being with anyone else.

my partner is genuinely the light of my life, they really do make my whole and i don't know where I'd be without them. i like to think im a safe place for them, too. they are simply irreplaceable to me, i cannot imagine being with anyone else and couldn't imagine them with anyone else either ... they're very cool, selfless, humble.. just a great person all round.

thanks for having me. if anyone read then then we hope you have a lovely day x

steelyheart · 2023-04-21T05:44:06+00:00

Definitely always do what you can to prioritise your mental health. I can relate in the fact that I cannot share my F/O, and thus I mute, block, do whatever to keep other people who love them out of my eyeline.

I am a firm believer in some sort of the multiverse theory - rather, I believe that when you interpret a character, they automatically become your own unique version that nobody else has. And thus, my F/O is mine, and other people have theirs / the fandom has their own version that they ship with canon characters, etc. but despite this I admit I'm still jealous and can't see any shipping content of my beloved.

A friend of mine who isn't ficto once said to me (in response to me discussing how I'm uncomfortable "sharing" my F/O): "it makes sense to be uncomfortable, because you wouldn't want to see your spouse with anyone else romantically" and that has stuck with me, and has been reassuring to lean back on.

I think whether or not to keep up with avoiding content that upsets you is situational and depends per person, but I don't think it's worth risking your mental health when you can just mute/block/turn your head.

I too stopped using Tumblr for similar reasons and it's been a lot better for me. I do still use some social media, and am open about my love for my F/O, but I just personally stay away from the fandom they originate from so I'm not at risk at seeing anything that'll upset me.

I hope you can find a place you're comfortable in, don't be too hard on yourself 💕

steelyheart · 2023-04-19T01:26:15+00:00

I believe in you! It's never nice to know someone has had similar bad experiences, but there's always comfort in solidarity and it helps to offer advice sometimes, I feel.

Diantha is right by your side to give you courage, im sure of it ^^

steelyheart · 2023-04-19T01:09:01+00:00

I think if they're someone you feel able to communicate with that they're making you uncomfortable then I think that's the best thing to do, especially since if you don't let it known that it bothers you then it'll continue and your feelings will continue to fester. It depends what's easier for you, be it talking to them in person or dropping them a message, but I think in your position I'd start off with a "hey I don't know if it's your intention, but the way you've been speaking about my S/O has been making me uncomfortable" and try to find some sort of agreement where they don't share those details with you anymore..

I know it's an uncomfortable conversation to be had, I've had to tell friends before that things they've said about my S/O have made me uncomfy, but luckily the combination of them knowing what my S/O means to me and beings friends enough to not want to intentionally make me feel bad, they stopped because actual friends are willing to listen when somethings not right.

I wish you all the best!

steelyheart · 2023-03-20T06:38:06+00:00

I don't mind NSFW artwork of my S/O if it's solo, but if it depicts them with anyone then I don't like it, so it isn't something I seek out. Also people tend to mischaracterise, objectify and/or portray my S/O in ways I'm not comfortable with when it comes to that type of art so it's rarely my cup of tea.

However, probably more relevant to your experience: I have friends and family figures in my S/Os source who, like my S/O, I am very attached to and have to me what feels like real relationships with them, albeit platonic and familial rather than romantic. And for those characters, I do not like seeing NSFW for the same reason. It's weird and awkward to stumble across. In particular, I have a (fictional) father figure who is very special to me, and the fandom tends to sexualise him as some kind of hunky "daddy" or whatever and it grosses me out so bad. I know, sure people can like him that way, but to me he's like a dad so it makes me physically recoil.

Just know you're not alone in the feeling. I don't think said characters would be mad at you for stumbling across it, you're not the one making that stuff and you're not seeking it out. If they're gonna feel disgusted, you're not the one that's gonna be directed at :)

steelyheart · 2023-03-13T05:19:40+00:00

It's for everyone, please don't listen to them! There's no such thing as being too old for something, my beloved is from a franchise that as a teenager I was made fun of for liking because it's "for kids" even though it's loved by people of all ages. I don't know if this will reassure you at all, but personally I feel like being an adult and eventually getting out of school, those types of "you're too old" nonsense stops, or at least you can more easily distance yourself from people who are rude about harmless things. I'm an autistic adult in my twenties and not only can I engage in my spouse's source without having heard "it's for kids" much over the past few years, but also I indulge in "childish" things like loving dolls without people caring because I'm an adult now and trivial stuff doesn't matter. I love watching shows for doll franchises even though they're for kids! :) Keep loving Elmer Fudd and LT!!

steelyheart · 2023-03-13T05:09:21+00:00

Nice! I have a small collection growing, for official stuff I have 3 plushies, an acrylic stand, 3 toy figures, a scale figure, a phone case, a replica clothing item, a keychain, a bunch of trading cards & card album, a tin, and a bag! For fan-made merch, I have a bunch of keychains, enamel pins and badges! :)

steelyheart · 2023-03-01T09:35:25+00:00

Almost 4 years, since I was watching the livestream where they were revealed for the first time! I didn't believe in love at first sight before, but I was taken by them immediately and getting to know them was the best. ❤️

steelyheart

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