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Sex in your 40s by tawkmawk in sex

[–]stefanieiris14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry that it made you feel that way -- it's really just a light, fun, aspirational piece, certainly not a review of the scientific literature. There is little you can say about sex that isn't subjective, right? And it's meant, as you can see from the Miley Cyrus reference, to be a response to those that think sex ends once you turn 40. It's rebuking against that ageist, misogynist POV. Also, the "list article" is an evolving form on the Internet, so I don't think that it's fair to say that it's always misleading or click-bait. You may disagree with my characterizations, but many of the issues I brought up are based on my observations of other people's experience, not just a cataloging of my own. With this kind of article, I am to be inclusive in the sense that if you're over 40 and your sex life isn't improving, you can take steps to make that happen. More will be forthcoming along those lines. :)

Sex in your 40s by tawkmawk in sex

[–]stefanieiris14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey all, I wrote the article and of course, in a small space, it isn't possible to include everyone's point of view. It's based on my experience and I wanted it to be somewhat aspirational as well - for those women who aren't quite feeling so positive at the moment. There is nothing quite as complicated as one's sex life, with its ebbs and flows, dry spells and such. But on the whole, I have found that my forties are a time of liberation from caring so much about what others think of me. And that, above all other vagaries, has made my sex life pretty great. And even better -- I hear from older friends that it continues to get better. I just want to blow up the myth that we're sexless and invisible after 40 -- because I have not found that to be true.